10 ways to instantly become more attractive
Attraction is a funny thing.
If you’re like many, you believe physical appearance is the driving force behind attractiveness. If you hold that belief, you’d be wrong.
While physical appearance plays a role, your thoughts and how you carry yourself are the dominant power behind attractiveness. You don’t have to be dressed in the latest trends or wear the right label to be attractive. You also don’t have to lose the pounds to attain your ideal body weight.
With the right mindset, you can unveil your natural beauty. Here are ten free ways how.
1. Be real.
A lot of people hide their true self by putting on false persona. When you do this, you not only obstruct your true self, you also create false relationships.
There’s no reason to hide your faults or pretend they don’t exist. Embrace your true qualities; no one expects you to be perfect.
Those who are true to themselves are inherently more attractive. Never be embarrassed of falling short. Being real means accepting who you are and loving yourself as a result. Only when you love yourself can you genuinely begin to love others. And as your self respect increases, so does your attractiveness – self respect is the best aphrodisiac there is.
2. Talk with purpose.
There’s something attractive about those who have a purpose with their words. Don’t simply talk for the sake of filler. When you talk, speak with authority.
“Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” – Abraham Lincoln
In an increasingly opinionated world, the skill of genuinely listening has become a lost art. When you talk, really talk — and when you listen, really listen. Suspend judgment, and open your heart and mind to listen.
The person who really knows how to listen is magnetic.
When you laugh, you radiate an inner beauty. While it’s possible to overdo it, laughing is virtually always positive. Plus, a sense of humor is alluring. No one likes to be around a grouch.
Combined with laughing, smiling is one of the easiest ways to radiate attractiveness. When you smile, you connect with everyone around you. Did you know the most successful individuals are the ones that smile the most? It’s true.
Plus, a smile is contagious. Your smile will help others smile.
6. Walk with your head up.
How do you walk — with your head down? A simple shift in the way you walk will do wonders in how you are seen by others. Confidence goes a long way. Look up and observe the beauty of the world, and in turn you will radiate it.
7. Look people in the eye.
The ability to look others in the eye displays a certain confidence. It also allows for a better connection with others. Practice making eye contact with those you’re around. Acknowledge them. Looking them in the eyes shows you care.
8. Don’t complain.
If you’re like the majority of people, a great deal of your thoughts and conversations involve complaining. Complaining is like a rocking chair. At first it feels comfortable and you feel like you’re accomplishing something, but you don’t end up getting anywhere. Do everything in your power not to complain.
Plus, it’s a fundamental truth that those who complain attract more situations to complain about. Instead, embrace each and every moment as a blessing. Don’t expect to glow if you choose to whine.
9. Feel attractive.
How can you expect to be attractive if you don’t feel like you are? Each of us overflows with natural beauty. When you feel attractive, you release attractiveness.
Now, there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness — always avoid the latter. When you sincerely believe you are an attractive individual, those around you will think the same.
10. Be open.
People aren’t attracted to people who are closed off and inaccessible. Be open to authentic relationships and watch the connections unfold. We are all part of human race. When you allow others to connect with you, you instantly become more appealing. Be real, open and willing, and watch your authentic relationships manifest themselves.
You have a choice. You can express the elegance you already possess as a human being, or you can barely glimmer. You already have everything you need.
What are your tips for feeling more attractive?
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