Speak love

My kids are all under 10. My brain so isn’t in the older kids phase—in fact, many times I still feel like an older kid. But my friend Annie? She’s around young women all the time, and she has a gift. For making me laugh like almost no one else, and also for speaking amazing truth to that unique age demographic.

Her latest book, Speak Love, does just that. Annie’s radical call is to end the mean girl mentality, and she travels the country, talking to young women about the imperative yet simple truth that their words matter. They can cause hurt like nothing else imaginable—or they can build life that allow the most unbelievable things to happen. Each of us has the power to choose.

I can’t wait for my almost nine-year-old girl to read this. She probably will, soon. (She already has a poster of the book cover hanging in her room, so I’d wager she’ll be ready before I realize).

From the book’s description:

“…Everything you say—from what tell your friends, whisper about your enemies, post online, mutter to yourself, or even say to the celebrity you ran into at the coffee shop—carries a whole lot of power. The question is, are you ready to use that power to make a real difference? Because the truth is, you could be part of the first generation who uses their words to build up and not tear down, and even kill the mean girl mentality. …Because when you speak love, you speak life. And that’s what matters.”

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This book would make a fantastic gift for any young girl in your life. Annie’s words are gold, and they’re life-giving. She’s one of my favorite people in real life—her books represent her beautifully.

Giveaway

Annie wants to give TEN Art of Simple readers a copy of Speak Love! Just in time for the holidays. To enter, simply leave a comment on this post and tell us to whom you’d love to gift this book.

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This contest will end this Friday, December 13, and we’ll announce the winners soon after. I hope you win!

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560 Comments

  1. Mary Matheson

    I would like to give this to my daughter, she is 12 years old. Thank you!

  2. Laura

    This would be great for my sister!

  3. Onita

    I lead a small group of young girls at our church and would love to read this book with them! I also have four daughters, the oldest being 11, so I would read it with them soon as well 🙂

  4. Sarah M

    I just listened to her and Kat Lee (on her Inspired to Action podcast) do an interview last week–it was so good! I’d love to (ahem) first read this myself, and then pass it on to a precious 9-almost-10 year old girl who is a friend’s daughter.
    Sarah M

    • Coleen

      My daughter will be ready for this before I know it. Also, I mentor a fourteen year old girl and this would be great!

  5. Cristi

    I have a 15 year old daughter to read it now and a 7 year old to read it a few years from now.

  6. April Campbell

    Oh my! My oldest will be 10 this week. I would give this book to her.

  7. Jennifer

    This book sounds like it would be amazing to go through with the teenagers in my husband’s youth group. I’d also love to encourage my daughters to read it once they are older.

  8. Morgan

    I would love to use this with the high school and college students I work with. Sounds amazing. I’m sure I could learn a lot from it too. (And I, too, sometimes still feel like an “older kid.”)

  9. Kelly

    I would LOVE to give this to my sweet girl Vivi, who is 12.

  10. Anya

    Not surprisingly, I would like to give this to my 11-year-old daughter. It sounds like exactly what I try to tell her about keeping her kind heart in a world where casual cruelty is accepted and even kind of admired.

  11. Dominique

    I would love to have my 4 girls read this book! I so want them to be part of the generation of girls that ends the mean girl mentality. Our oldest suffered as a result of a group of mean girls, and she is on a mission already to guide her younger sisters to be the type of young women that speak love!

  12. Cindy

    I would love to give this to my precious 15 year old daughter!

  13. Jamie

    I would like to have a copy to read with my 9 year old and then later with her 3 younger sisters. Thanks.

  14. Sara

    I would like to read this book as I have a daughter.

  15. Sharon

    I would love this for my 10 year old daughter!

    • Amy

      MYSELF and my 12 yr old daughter…and borrow it to my sis in law and her daughter…and my good friend and her daughter….you get the idea. 🙂

  16. Nina

    This sounds like such a good read for myself and my two young ladies!!! Added it to my reading list!

  17. Lizelle

    My daughter – I think everyone will benefit from hearing this message though!

  18. Jill

    I’d love to read this myself so I can tell and share with others and be a better person. What’s that saying, “Be the change you want to see in the world?” I need to speak more love and would love the chance to add Annie’s thoughts and inspiration to my days and words. From there I have many friends and sisters and nieces and cousins and daughters with whom I would be sharing the book.

  19. Stephanie

    My daughter is too young to read this (she’s 6), but she’s not too young for the message. She already comes home from school some days distraught about the way the girls in her class play at recess. She seems very sensitive to unfairness and the slightest hint of the mean-girl-boss-of-recess mentality. I want to help her navigate these feelings, and in a way that inspires her to be loving and supportive, instead of just trying to beat the mean girls at their own game. So I would give this book to my daughter, and myself.

  20. Heidi

    I would love to give this to my 9 year old daughter. In fact, I’d love to read it myself!

  21. Roberta

    Thank you for sharing this book. I have two daughters, and friends with daughters in our homeschool co-op and missional community. This is a topic my teenage son and I were discussing recently and may be something that could benefit the teachers and young ladies at the Christian release-time class up at the public school. So in all honesty I would like to read it first and share. 🙂

  22. Mary

    I’d like to give it to a young, teenage girl in our church.

  23. Ines

    My three daughters would benefit greatly…thanks

  24. Lenora

    This sounds like a wonderful book, to possibly begin a powerful, life changing, movement that is so needed in today’s culture. I would love to have this for my 7 yr. old daughter, myself, my 12 yr. old niece, and my sister-in-law.

  25. Johanna

    I have been seeing this title around and wanting to read it. My kids aren’t old enough yet, but I have nieces that are in the tween/early teen stage that I would love to give this too!

  26. Christine N

    We NEED this book at our house. I would give it to my two preteen daughters, 8 1/2 and 10 1/2, then read it myself!!!We are learning how to deal with these issues daily even in elementary school!

  27. Elizabeth

    I a very close to my niece and her daughter. They would love it and share it. Such beautiful women!

  28. Kristi

    I would give this to my 15 year old daughter, thanks so much 🙂

  29. Jen JLN

    I’d love to read this with my daughter and share it with her teachers.

  30. Melissa d

    I would give to my neice or save for my children 🙂

    • Debbie

      I would give this to my 14 year old daughter and use it in my work as a school social worker.

  31. Nicole

    As a teacher, I would love to read this for myself to help me better equip my young girl students for positive peer relationships. Would also hang onto it for my two daughters as well but they’re a little young now (3 and 1).

  32. Jessica

    My lovely goddaughters.

  33. Marianne

    My daughter is only three now, but I wouldn’t mind reading it and I have nieces for whom this would be a perfect gift.

  34. Laura

    Great message! I strongly believe words DO have power. I’d love to read this book and then pass it onto my cousin who is just about to head into those teenage years.

  35. rachael

    I have a niece who would probably benefit greatly from this book. I would most likely read it as well!

  36. Cheryl P

    My daughter for sure, but would also love to read it myself with a group of mom’s with young daughter’s.

  37. Tracey

    How amazing – I just added this book to my Pinterest “Books to Read” board this morning! I would give this to my 13-year-old daughter.

  38. Christine

    I would love to give this book to my 14 yr old daughter, who is in 8th grade. Middle school seems so much “harder” girl-wise than when I was her age! Thank you for the post–the book will go on my “to read” list no matter what 🙂

  39. Chris

    My 2 daughters aren’t old enough yet but I’ve been around teens enough to know they’ll need it soon enough. Thanks!

  40. Colleen

    I would love to give a copy to my daughter!

  41. Shelsy

    Honestly? I want to read it myself. And then reread it again and again until I get it right. So by the time my four and a half year old girl is ready to read it and live it, she’s already seen me model it for half her life. I forget too often the power my words hold. I would love to train myself to use them for good and not for harm.

  42. Kelly

    I’d love to read this to my daughter!

  43. Pam

    I’d love to give this to my 12 year old daughter.

  44. Amy H

    I have a beautiful 12 year old daughter, Maggie. I think this would be a perfect read for her and her friends…maybe in a small group where they can discuss it?

  45. Kristin

    As a small group leader for nine 7th grade girls, I would love to give this book to each one of them. I know it will meet ten right where they are. God bless Annie- I love what she is doing.

  46. Marcie

    You’re an inspiration! I would love to give this to my daughter (I wouldn’t mind reading it, myself!).

  47. Rachael

    I would love to give this to my preteen daughter who will be entering the scary world of middle school soon!

  48. Anna

    Great giveaway!! I would love this book,

  49. ann

    my youth pastor & his wife! and me! 🙂

  50. Marci

    I would save it for my daughters.

  51. Valerie

    I’d love for my daughter to read this, but would also love to share it with her teacher to use in class.

  52. Laurie

    I lead a group of 7th and 8th grade girls in a bible study at church. My goal when beginning this journey was to teach these girls how valuable they are to Jesus.

    • Erin

      My neice, Alex, who just turned 13 would be the recipient if I won. I work with 7th graders all day long, so perhaps I’d read it first and use the messages as a springboard in my own classroom.

  53. Lindsay

    What a great message to start with girls when they are young. Would love to read this with my daughter when she is old enough. Thank you for sharing.

  54. Lindsay

    What a great message to start with girls when they are young. Would love to read this with my daughter when she is old enough. Thank you for sharing.

  55. Amy

    This would be wonderful to read with my daughter.

  56. Nina

    Such an important topic to talk about. I don’t have daughters but I do need to be mindful of how I talk about others in front of my son, lest he think it’s okay to be two-faced and polite one second only to gossip behind their back. I would love first, to read this book, then second to give it to my nieces, who are in the throes of the middle school years.

  57. Marie

    This would definitely be awesome for all of us in our family. I also have some nieces to share this with.

  58. Laura

    I’d love to read this with my girls.

  59. Robin from Frugal Family Times

    Helping my daughter through the mean girl garbage is what I dread the very most about parenting. She’s almost 10 now, and unharmed so far, but I am so fearful it’s on it’s way. I would love this book for she and her friends.

  60. Janis

    I have 3 daughters and would LOVE for them to read this book. It is so important that we teach our children (both girls and boys) the power of our words!

  61. Tara

    I’d love to win this for my sweet niece, Blair!

  62. Sally

    I have a 16 year old daughter and 16 year old niece that I could see them reading this book together.

  63. Kate

    I’d love to read this book with the youth group at my church — I’m sure I could benefit from it too!

  64. Elena

    My 12 year old would read this over and over. Thank you for the opportunity.

  65. Julia T

    I would love to give this book to my 12 year-old daughter.

  66. Sandi

    I would love to give this book to my daughter who is 17. She has been at a Christian school all these years but will be going to a public university in the fall. I think this could really help her make a positive difference on her campus!

  67. Dawn

    This sounds like a good book! I have a teen age daughter, so of course I’d love to win this for her.

  68. Heidi

    Would love to read it myself and then share it with all 4 girls and the 2 brothers who still need to have the skills to navigate through mean girl waters.

  69. Betsy

    I would love to give this to my 12 yr old niece. And I’m sure I will be reading it soon for my own three daughters.

  70. Jen M.

    I would love to read it and then share it with other women and girls at church so that we could discuss the ideas.

  71. Lori

    I’d love to read this with my teen daughter.

  72. Miriam

    I would give this book to my daughters teacher, (after I read it 😉 sounds like a great read.
    thank you

  73. Liesel

    I would read it and share it with my daughters in a few years.

  74. Lisa

    Though my daughter is likely too young for this at this point, both my partner and I coach local sports (swimming and gymnastics) and the girls in these programs could really benefit from this message!

  75. Kirsten Dehmlow

    This would be perfect for my almost 13 year old daughter.

  76. Melissa Webb

    I would give this to my 12 year old daughter who at times has issues trying to tame her tongue. 🙂

  77. Caroline Starr Rose

    My niece, Dorey! My sister runs a small group called Godly Girls, and I know something like this would be huge for these eighth graders. Thanks!

  78. Julie

    my 11 year old daughter would greatly benefit

  79. Gabrielle W.

    Looks like a fantastic read! I’d read it myself first 🙂 then pass it on to one of the teenage girls at my church. Hopefully it would circulate around after that!

  80. Heather

    I would LOVE to give and read this with my 10 year old daughter and my 7 year old in a few years.

  81. Amy

    I would like to read the book myself, and then give it to my 13-year old niece!

  82. Jenna

    Oh my goodness, this book looks amazing. I will order it if I don’t win for my 13 year old daughter. What a lovely giveaway!

  83. Michele

    I’d love to give this to my oldest daughter. Words are powerful.

  84. Heather

    I’d live to give this to my almost 9-year-old.

  85. DebC

    Love this! I’d give this book to my daughter who is 9 and already experiencing the mean girl drama.

  86. Lisa K

    I would love to read this myself and then give it to my daughter in a few years. I think so many people would benefit from this book!

  87. Brooke Wells

    What a great topic! Words are so powerful and their effect so often underestimated. Would love to gift this to a special girl.

    Thanks for the chance to win!

  88. Renee

    I would love to give this book to my teen stepdaughter for Christmas.

  89. Amy Brown-White

    Hmmmm truthfully I would love to have this book for myself 🙂
    I was a teacher for many years and learned that its so easy to be unkind to a child by using sarcasm and I REALLY BELIEVED IT WAS A WAY TO MANAGE my most difficult students. It isn’t. I would donate this book to Kingston City Schools where I am on leave (since the birth of my son). I have seen the effects of unkind speech from teacher to student, administration to teacher, teacher to teacher and student to student, but more succinctly girl to girl. Possibly this book could be a great resource for the District. I will buy my own to use in instruction and in my own life. Much Success!

  90. Janie

    This topic is so heavy on my heart. I am a mom to 12 ~ Eight of them are girls. I so want them to learn to be each other’s encouragers! I can’t wait to read this book!!

  91. Jennifer O

    I would love to give this to my 12 year old daughter. We’ve been talking a lot lately about how it is not only what you say something but also how you say things that matters.

  92. Aimee

    This would be the perfect stocking stuff for my 13 year old daughter.

  93. leslie

    What a wonderful idea, and so powerful. I would love to give this to my big girl who is 6 1/2. She is an avid reader and such a warm soul. I love that the topic of this book really keeps the innocence of what it means to be a little kid, while teaching the power of our actions as we grow older. Perfect!

  94. Chandi

    I have a daughter that is almost 7, but she already comes home speaking of girls talking about “best friends” and such. I’m also a leader for our area’s jr and sr high youth and would love to read it to share with them as well.

  95. Jennifer

    Sounds like a book that can be shared with my daughter and her classmates, as well as, the older girls in our school. We all could use the reminder to choose what we say carefully.

  96. Shallon

    With three of our four children being girls, ages ranging from 17 to 2, I would love to give it a read myself and pass it down to each one. This is an important message that I have been trying to instill in all my children. I would love for this book to circulate in EVERY social circle.

  97. Kim

    My nieces and daughters would benefit from this book.

  98. Rhianna

    Will share this with my 10 year old daughter and her 12 year old cousin!

  99. Tempy

    My daughter is only 2, but instilling a truly kind and loving character cannot start early enough. My 12 year old niece needs it now so that she can learn that there is an alternative to the way other girls act.

  100. Michele S

    I would love this for my 11 year old daughter, and for me to read with her! She is in middle school (5th-8th grades) and I volunteer there as part of my role of Parent Mentor.

  101. Angela

    I owuul dlove to give this to my 9 year old 4th grade daughter who will be going ino the all frightening middle school next year.

  102. Diana

    I teach at a Christian high school and honestly, I would love to keep this and use it with the 7 girls I will have at my small group retreat at the end of the school year. Then I would look forward to loaning it out to as many of my students as possible!

  103. Rachel

    I would give this book to my sister who is raising a little girl– she’s only two, but my sister and I both feel very passionately about the importance of raising her in a world surrounded by love and positivity and I’d love for her to read this and have it in mind as Emma grows up.

  104. Kim

    It sounds like a great book, so (unfortunately) necessary.

  105. Kristin

    I would love to have my preteen daughter read this book and them pass it along to our church’s youth leader to read herself and recommend it to others.

  106. Lynne

    I would love to read this book! My husband works at an all-girls high school where this book would really make a difference!

  107. HeatherB

    I would love to give a copy of this book to my neighbor, Haylee. She’s in middle school and I remember how hard that time of life is. She is also a believer and I would just love to help encourage her roots to grow deep and strong 🙂

  108. Heidi T

    I have so many girls in my life…3 of my own, plus a Girl scout troop, and in our Sunday Shool program. This sounds like a much-needed book, and I would want to share it with them all!

  109. Deanna

    I would love to win this book! I plan on giving it to my daughter, she is the perfect age to take this in and run with it!! Thank you for the opportunity

  110. Suzanne

    I would love to give this to my teenage daughter.

  111. Louise Hennessy

    I would love to give this to my dear friend Laura as her 12 year old daughter is my goddaughter. I think the two of them would really enjoy this:)

  112. Lawana Gray

    This would be great for my friend Shelena who works with college girls.

  113. Heather

    Wow, so many comments already! When I first read the summary of this book from Tsh, I thought “finally!!” What a valuable contribution to society this book will make. I can’t wait to read it.

  114. Christine

    I’d love to use it with my students…

  115. Cindy

    I would love to have both of my daughters read this book. It sounds amazing.

  116. Tracey Lee

    I would love for my neices and my daughter to read this book. Thank you for the wonderful opportunity!

  117. Jeanette

    4 of my 5 children are girls, ages 13, 11, 9, and 7. I try to teach them that every decision they make, every action they take, and every word they say, either promotes or tears down the kingdom of God and the cause of good in our world. Sometimes they seem to get it, and sometimes they (and I) miss the mark. I would love to give this to my eldest, and eventually to the others. We parents have such a monumental task, and such a vital one! We can use all the help and encouragement we can get!

  118. Ali

    I totally believe in the power of words. I’d read this myself as I think it will help me in the words I choose with my almost-5 year old daughter…and then down the road she could read it too.

  119. Jo

    This would be a wonderful book for my 15 y/o niece, would love to give it to her.

  120. Emma

    This book would be a wonderful addition to the library we have in our shop for all of the mothers and daughters (and perhaps the menfolk as well) who spend time there. I wish our space was big enough to have her come and speak!

  121. Rhiain

    I would love to have my daughter read this book. I want her to understand that she doesn’t have to act a certain way simply because others do. I want her to understand the meaning of having empathy and that “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me” is NOT true. Thank you.

  122. Gayle Cochrane

    I would give it to my 11 year old daughter, but would read it myself as well. It sounds like a wonderful book. Thanks for the giveaway opportunity.

  123. Ramie Ahlstrom

    I’d LOVE to gift this book to my daughter. She’s 10, and her dad is in the military. We move every couple of years and our next move will happen just after her 12th birthday, and exactly half way through her middle school years. She’s scared that other kids won’t like her, and I think this would be a wonderful way to help her thru this transitional age! Thank you!

  124. Christy

    I would love to give it to my 11-year-old daughter, who is just entering the world of middle school and social media.

  125. Lisa Rae

    Loving the words you have shared about this book – I am excited to share it with my two daughters and their friends who are just on the cusp of that hard nearly-a-teen time when girls seem to forget their personal power.

  126. Christy

    I would like to read it myself to be reminded and encouraged in this area so I can set an example for my daughters.

  127. Alexa

    I heard Annie speak about her book on a podcast and it sounds wonderful. I would give it to my daughter who is almost 8- you’re never too young for the message in this book!

  128. Elizabeth

    I would love to give this to my fourth grader’s teacher’s daughter,
    Looks like a great book, and so valuable for this days youth!

  129. Andrea

    I teach 7th & 8th grade, and I’d love to add this book to my classroom library! Such a great message. Thanks, Annie!

  130. Erika

    I would love to read this and then pass it on to my five sisters. Speaking love is truly a necessary art in this age of connection.

  131. Kerri

    I would love to give this beautiful life-giving book to my 10 year old daughter who is just beginning to experience “mean girls” at school. What a wonderful way to reinforce for her the power that our words have and how God wants us to use our words.

  132. GM

    You know, I love your site, your posts, your recommendations. Because of this post, I went to amazon.co.uk, searched for the book and added it to my wishlist. Then I ‘click[ed] to look inside’ and was almost immediately put off. Nowhere in your description do you highlight that this is a Christian book, and yet clearly that is a heavy influence, and I am very unhappy about this omission as it feels, frankly, dishonest not to mention that.

    I read the contents page, noting that the first 4 chapters are devoted to conversations with God and I thought, well, this would probably be relevant for anyone of any faith wanting to talk to any God. Keep reading. Then I read the foreword, and frankly I am offended.

    Quote: “He was “the cute guy” in my circle of friends, he had “that” hair, the great personality, WAS A CHRISTIAN… WHAT WASN’T TO LIKE?” [emphasis added].

    There is a judgement against other faiths right there in the first paragraph of the foreword, it’s not even implicit, it’s pretty clear that other faiths aren’t welcome. Which is a shame as the book overall looks like a wonderful resource and I boggle that anyone would wilfully narrow their target audience and reduce marketability/accessibility to the wider audience. The rest of the sample just confirms that this book is targeted at an extremely narrow demographic; I cannot relate to any of the stories that Annie gives and it’s Really Hard to try and find the messages in the stories without getting knocked off course by all the jarring insertions of Jesus. It just keeps feeling like she’s throwing her faith at me (this may be my own bias, I’m afraid the track records of Christians I’ve met in person has not been good, they keep seeming to assume their faith is superior to mine, which isn’t exactly in keeping with Christ’s humility).

    Please consider adding some mention that this is a Christian book into your post above.

  133. Sandy

    I would love to give this book to my 11-year-old daughter. (And then read it myself, too!) I’m shocked and amazed at how easily young girls fall into a negative mindset. How quickly their sweet, loving little hearts and voices turn cold. It’s a rough world, and we all need to speak love.

  134. katie

    Would love to gift this to my friends daughter!

  135. Celeste

    Sounds like a fabulous book for our mother/daughter group to read and discuss.

  136. Jaci

    I have a 9 year old I would love to share this with soon! Thanks!

  137. Annie Ferrante

    I have three nieces, the oldest of whom is 14 and a freshman in high school.
    Then there is my own daughter, who at 5 (!) is already seeing some unkind friends in preschool. This needs to stop! Thank you for helping the future women of our world!

  138. Sally

    What an awesome blessing for Annie to tackle this topic! It is much needed. I would give it to our 16-year-old daughter, for whom I hope it would be a balm after some of her own experiences. We would then probably gift it to the library at church which depends entirely upon donations to fill its shelves. Thank you for sharing about this resource!

  139. Liza

    I would gift this to my almost 9 year old daughter and to my other two daughters in the future 🙂

  140. Michelle

    My niece is 9 years old–this would be a perfect foundation to help her build a life of gratitude and mindfulness!

  141. Becky

    Love, love, love this book! Would love to gift a copy to my 17-year-old niece, and to my adult niece and niece-in-love! Thank you for standing in the gap and speaking to these sweet girls.

  142. Angie

    I would give it to my 13-year old niece, Lauren.

  143. Crystal

    My 10 year old daughter is in the midst of this right now, and heading to middle school next year. I’d love to get it to her before she gets there!

  144. Tammy

    I would love to give this to my daughter. Love your posts!

  145. Heather R

    I would love this for my daughter.

  146. Valerie

    I’d love to read this with my 11 year old daughter! <3

  147. Kimberly

    I have two 11 year old nieces who need to hear these words!

  148. Heather

    I would read this with my elementary-aged daughter, then pass it along to my nieces and God-daughter. Really excited to read this!

  149. Charah

    We have been talking about this to out 11 year old and would love to encourage her to read this!

  150. Leigh

    My girls are 6 and and I can see how important this book could be for them in a just a few short years

  151. Jamie

    I’d love to have my almost nine year old daughter read it, too. 🙂

  152. TAra

    I would love this for my daughter. Thanks for the opportunity!

  153. Clara

    This is so needed! I want to read this myself quite honestly because I am so shocked by all the violence I see between young women today, but would love to share this with my daughter when she’s older (she’s almost 5) but now with my little cousin who is 10 and even with the first-year college students I work with.

  154. Rachel

    I’d love to give this book to my best friend.

  155. Nichole

    I would love to give this to my daughter, a sweet girl with confidence and talent whom I want to stay that way. It has always been my mission to raise my girls to be kind to everyone as you don’t know what they are going through.

  156. Melaina

    I’d love to give copies of this book to the girls in my small group at youth group

  157. Elissa

    I teach my children Real Love and the power of their words. My kids have always gone on to teach what I teach them to the other kids at school. They are fantastic examples of these teachings already. My daughter is 12 and reading tons of books on her own and I would love to gift this book to her, knowing that she will live it and pass it on.

  158. Tracy A

    I would love to share this with my seventeen year old daughter!

  159. Gennie

    This book sounds wonderful. It is definitely needed in our world today.

  160. jenlarson79

    I would love to get this book for my 10 year old daughter. She already has mean girls at her school, and I’ve been trying to help her understand that the mean things they say aren’t really about her, it’s about how they feel about themselves.

  161. Bonnie

    I would give this to our youth pastor to use with the girls.

  162. Holley

    This sounds great! I would love to gift it to my daughter.

  163. Maureen Tripp

    I would love to give this book to my newly teenaged daughter–with instructions for her to pass it to her 11 year old sister when she’s finished reading. Hearing this message about the power of words to hurt–or to heal and help–from someone other than boring, old-fashioned Mom will have more impact than my constant reminder/lectures. With popular culture sending non-stop messages about the “humor” of put-downs, critiques on personal appearance, and down-right meanness, this book provides a much-needed counterweight.

  164. Adelle F.

    This sounds like such a lovely book! I’d love to give a copy to my daughter.

  165. Susie

    I would like for all of my neices to read this book. So many times we say things just to have something to say instead of fully realizing the impact our words have on others. Thank you, Annie, for writing this book.

  166. Alison

    What a great giveaway. Perfect for a special young girl in my life 🙂

  167. Cathy

    Thank you for sharing your book and this important reminder to us all. I’d love to get this book for my daughter, and I’d love to read it too. I will recommend it to our local library as well Thanks!

  168. Alison

    What a great giveaway! Perfect gift for a special girl in my life 🙂

  169. Tiffany H

    I would give it to my 14 year old step daughter who is going through some stuff right now. Sounds perfect!

  170. Tiffiny

    I would love to give this book to my 3 beautiful daughters, ages 9, 11 and 13. This would be a wonderful gift to add to our home collections.

  171. Amy

    I would give it to my 10 year old & read along side her. Thanks for the chance to win a copy! Merry Christmas!

  172. GM

    Oh good grief, did you delete my comment? I was polite and I took a lot of time to consider exactly how to phrase my concerns so that they were constructive. What, you don’t allow criticism on your blog?

  173. Steph

    I would love to give it to my little sister who is in high school.

  174. Beth B.

    I have a 15 year old daughter and a 12 year daughter. And my husband is a PE teacher at a parochial school that has pre-k through 8th grade. This book would provide fabulous discussion for ALL of us!

  175. Amy Mathison

    I’d love to give this book to my daughter. Sounds wonderful!

  176. Gretchen

    I am an all- girls summer camp director. We have an amazing community of young women and we often address and encourage the positive use of words. I would enjoy this book as a resource for our staff of college age women!

  177. Crystal

    I would like to read it myself first! Then I would pass it to our church’s youth group or my friend’s daughter.

  178. Shelley

    Would love to gift this book to my 10 year old daughter (in Madison, WI) and 11 year old niece (in Ontario, Canada) and have them do a distance bookclub.

    Thanks for your continued awesomeness!

  179. Lesley

    This would be perfect for my oldest daughter. She’s 9 going on 15.

  180. amy s.

    I would love a copy for my 10 1/2 year old twin daughters-both who deal so differently with this issue! Thank you! Amy S.

  181. Kristen

    I’d love to win this for my daughters. Thank you for the opportunity

  182. katie

    I would like both my daughters, ages 13 & 15, to read this. I feel this is a perfect time for them to hear this from a source other than mom! Thank you!!

  183. Sara B

    I would start with giving this to my almost 16 year old daughter. Then I would pass it along to my nieces & then to her friends. This is something that all girls need to read!

  184. Melissa B

    My almost 9 yo and friends are ready for this book. I would love to read it, as it sounds applicable to grown-ups as well!

  185. Buffy

    Thanks for sharing some copies! I can think of some young ladies in my life who I would like to also share it with.

  186. Becky

    My list is long! I’d start by reading it myself, I work with college students at church and I’d like to have that info in my head for quick draw when I’m talking with them. We live in SoCal and the Mean Girl mentality is not only prevalent, but it’s embraced here. Words are powerful and they seem so rarely used for good among the youth in our area. Next, I’d give it to my 15 year old daughter. I’m sad to say that our environment is sneaking into her life and I see more “mean girl” in her that I would like. From there, to my niece, who feels like being a mean girl is the only way to be cool. And from there…the list is a long one.

  187. Teresa

    I would love to read this with my newly 9-year old daughter.

  188. Bethany

    My daughter is only 2-1/2 but I’m already thinking about when she starts school and how I can encourage her to think and act differently from the negative influences she will see all around her. I want to read the book myself and start sharing the ideas from it at a level she can understand starting now!

  189. Jessica

    I’d love to be able to read this & then give it to my daughter in a few years. I think I can help teach her these ideas before she even hits that age

  190. Karla Williamson

    Merry Christmas!! I have heard of this book from other sites as well and really want to read it. I have 2 daughters ages 12 and 10 that I would share it with as well. Thanks so much 🙂

  191. Renae A.

    I teach Middle School girls Sunday School and have the opportunity to travel and speak to girls in the region. I’d love to have another source to recommend to parents, teens, and youth groups.

  192. Trisha

    What a great and timely book! I would love to have this for my daughter…..and i would also love to read this myself (especially the self talk bit!) I want to change the paradigm I was given, and give, do and model something so much better for my own family. I’d also want to read this with all the females in our extended family!

  193. Melinda

    I would love to read this book myself, especially as I mother and love on my two boys, who also need to know the value and power of their words. I also have two nieces nearing the tween years and would love to gift this book to them.

  194. Cat

    I’d love to give this to my 13-year-old daughter.

  195. Amber

    I would love this for my daughter so we could read it together. She is only in 2nd grade but it seems as though the “mean girl” mentality has already begun to surface within her class.

  196. Liz BK

    I’m ordering one for my niece, 12 years old. I’d like to put one aside to save for my now 6-year-old daughter to read in a couple of years (or possibly sooner!)

  197. Michelle Picinich

    Would love this book for my nieces and daughters! Pick me!

  198. Hannah

    I’d love to get this for my teenage sisters!!

  199. Beth

    What a refreshing message and a relevant mission. I have 2 daughters, 16 and 13, who are perfect for this book.

  200. Sonja Klaas

    Our goddaughter is 10, and I remember well the “mean-girl” comments that hurt.

  201. Aubrey Hunt

    I would love to read this book so I can learn more and share ideas with those I blog for: the middle school aged kids and their parents! Looks like an amazing resource for a very important topic. Thanks for the chance to win.

  202. Sharon

    I would love to give this book to my middle-school-aged daughter. Sounds fabulous!

  203. kate

    I would love to share this with some girlfriends and their daughters. My twin girls are not quite ready (4 yrs) but I know it will get passed back around.

  204. annette osborne

    I’d love this book for my 13 year old daughter, Love God, love others, nothing else matters. Let’s do this!

  205. Jennifer

    I would love to give this to my niece who’s birthday is Dec. 22nd (perfect timing!). She will be 15 and has gone through some mildly rough times during adolescence. It would make a terrific birthday present! Even if I don’t win, I’m so glad to have learned about this great book and resource. I have 2 boys and wonder if there’s anything out there for them like this? Speaking love is important no matter the gender! Thank you!

  206. Anna

    I would give it to my niece. After I read it myself. 🙂

  207. Jess

    seeing as this seems to be geared towards younger girls…i would have my 11 year old daughter read it. however, i think i could benefit hearing a thing or two on words myself. 🙂
    (merry christmas to tsh and the art of simple family!)

  208. Robyn

    This sounds lovely! I have 2 (young) daughters and 3 neices, but I think we could all benefit from this… Mom’s and MEN too! I’d love a copy to read, but I’ll probably end up buying a second (or third) copy to share. Thanks for sharing this.h

  209. Heidi G

    This would be the perfect gift to give to my niece. She is a young woman, soon to be engaged to a man who will become a youth pastor. She would be able to use this as she helps the young women she will be ministering to as she helps her husband with the youth group at their church.

  210. Nadia

    What an important topic for these times we live in! A copy of this book would reach many young women that come through our Christian counseling center.

  211. Traci

    Would love these for some of our girls in our youth group

  212. Libby

    My niece is nearly nine. She is brilliant and she is kind but she is, as we all are, navigating how to interact with her peers and others. I would gift this to her so fast. THIS is what we need for our daughters and nieces. I’m so excited for this.

  213. Kristen

    My daughter is almost 7 but reading at a 5th grade level, I would *love* for her to receive this message and lead the charge of kindness in her grade.

  214. Michelle

    I would love for my 12 & 13 year old daughters to read this – together the 3 of us.

    I’m also a middle school librarian who mentors girls….would love to have this to give to those girls to read.

  215. Kelly

    I’d love to gift this to my niece who is 11 years old, and recommend it as a pass along book. Thanks!

  216. Kristen

    My daughter is almost 9 as well and I’ve tried to teach her that her words may hurt others even though she may not realize it.

  217. Jocelyn Lewis

    I would like to read it for myself, share it with my daughters, son, and husband. Then loan it to many others!

  218. Jen D

    I work with youth & would love to check out this book & maybe pass it on to all the girls in our group!

  219. logsplitter

    What a perfect message to send at the holidays (and all year)…thanks so much for the offer!

  220. Courtnay

    I’d love a copy of this book too, it sounds wonderful! I have a 13 year old daughter who i’d love to give this too, then pass it down to my 9 year old daughter when she’s ready. I also lead 2 Girl Scout troops and I’d love to spread the message with them too.
    Thanks!

  221. Lisa

    This would be so awesome for my 15 year old daughter.

  222. rjd1967

    I have 2 daughters that have seen first hand the “mean girl syndrome” and this book would be a special gift for me to give them so that they could see that not all people in life are like that and what to do to help change things!

  223. Kate

    Such lovely synchronicity…I JUST purchased this book yesterday on Amazon…can’t wait for it to arrive!

  224. Heather M

    Would love to give this book to my niece!

  225. Rachel

    I would read this book myself and try and use the ideas from the book to guide my two girls (age 4 and 7). Then when they are a bit older I would let them read it themselves.

  226. Sandy

    “The power of life and death is in the tongue.” (Proverbs) We parents need lots of support in underscoring the truth of this verse as we raise the next generation; sounds like SPEAK LOVE will be a rich resource to utilize with our children and their friends. And I’m not too proud to admit that my husband and I appreciate the reminder to speak life also!

  227. Claire

    I would like to first, read this book myself. I think I could definitely benefit from it. And I’d like to start speaking love to my children and hopefully pass it along to my daughter.

  228. Laura

    Sigh. I’m probably the person who most needs to read it!

  229. Nikki Reynolds

    My almost 9-year old would be pleased as punch to have this book!

  230. Nikki Reynolds

    My near 9-year old could really benefit from this book!

  231. Anne Marie

    What a great gift to read together with my 12 year old daughter. Thank you for the opportunity to win!

  232. Rebecca

    My daughter, who turns 14 on Friday, would be the recipient of this book if we win.

  233. Liz

    I would read this for myself now and my daughter later.

  234. Christie

    My oldest two could use a book like this. At 11 and 13 we’re seeing an edge in their interactions that wasn’t there before. They are kind hearted girls, but inherit a good dose or sarcasm from us, which I love and hate in equal measure. Add the complication of social media, where words are too often divorced from repercussions, and they have a potential for mean. All of us do, but teenaged girls can make an art form of it. I remember well.

  235. Karen

    I have a great relationship with my son’s girlfriend and would love to share it with her as she navigates this difficult path called High School!

  236. Rebekah

    What a delight – I’ve heard such good things about this book. My daughter turns 10 very soon (I can hardly believe it), and I think this would be wonderful to read with her.

  237. Anna

    I love the premise of this book and would love to share it with my girls.

  238. Katie

    I would save it for my daughter, who will be old enough to read this before I know it (sigh)

  239. Tristi

    I think this is a powerful book and have a few girls at the top of my list for this gift!

  240. Jessica

    I have 18 year old, 11 year old, and 9 year old daughters. I would love this for all of them.

  241. Diane G.

    I would love for my daughter to read this when she is a bit older…I would give the copy to my neighbor who is turning 13 in a few weeks and hopefully borrow it when my daughter is ready to read it.

  242. Becky

    I would LOVE to give this to my youngest sister for her 13th birthday this January.

  243. Kaitlin Jenkins

    Beautiful! I’d love to give a copy to my sister <3

  244. Emily

    I would give it to our babysitter/neighbor, who is entering high school next year.

  245. Pam

    I would give this book away to one of the girls at my church. Thanks for the chance to win.

  246. Sarah C

    I’d love this for my daughters who are 7 and 9. The power of kindness cannot be emphasized enough. Thank you for the chance to win!

  247. Kim

    I have 3 nieces that I would love to gift this to. they are 10.5, 9 & 8, but they will need it sooner than later, I am afraid.

  248. Kristen

    My daughter is on the brink of young womanhood…I would love this for her, and for me as I seek to lead her in the right path!!!

  249. Meghan Magee

    My daughter is under one but I have a 13 year old niece that might benefit from this book.

  250. Sonia

    I would love to give this book to my daughter. She is only 8 and has unfortunately already had to deal with some mean girl classmates.

  251. Christine Ropp

    I would love for my nieces to read this book. They range in age from 12-18. Thanks for the chance

  252. Carla V

    I think this is a message we all need to hear…I would actually gift this to my mother in law who comes from a family of people who tear down instead of build up and I would love for her to learn the freedom to use her words wisely.

  253. Kellie

    I would love to win a copy for my teenage niece!

  254. maria

    I would give it to the teacher in my younger cousins class so they could work with the girls. My cousin is 14, and she’s different from most of the other kids, she’s diagnosed with Synergies. They have some trouble with mean girls in the class so this might be perfect.

  255. Christina

    Perfect gift for my 13 year old daughter. It would also be a great gift she can pass down to my younger daughters as well and a great way for them to bond during those transition years.

  256. jennifer

    My daughter is 10… and we have had a great deal of experience with words that hurt. Because of the unhealthy and destructive dynamics she was experiencing within her peer group we decided to start Girl’s Club. We meet once a month. So far we have 10 girls total; and we talk about things like building each other up instead of knocking each other down, body image, self esteem etc. I know my daughter would love this book… and maybe it could get passed through the other young women in Girl’s Club.

  257. Melissa

    My daughter.

  258. Briana

    I’d love a copy of this for my home library, so my daughter can read it when she’s older, so my 16-year-old sister can read it, and so I can read it and share with others. It has a message that really needs to be spread and shared.

  259. Alice

    I would love to give this to my mom.

  260. Ashley Flores

    My niece! She’s in middle school this year and it’s a whole new world for her and my sister. It may sound like she’s still super young, but the things she’s been exposed to is crazy! She loves to read so I know she’d actually sit down and read this.

    xoxo

  261. Brianna P

    I have two daughters who will be here before I know it! What a fantastic gift idea!

  262. ariane

    I would love this for my nieces.. I have multiple that would enjoy it so if I won I think it would get passed around and read by many..including myself.

  263. Kristin

    This would be a great gift for my 11 year old niece!

  264. One Frugal Girl

    I just joined a mom’s book club and this sounds like a wonderful choice for next month. I’d love to win a copy!

  265. Lisa

    I’d LOVE to read this book. Words mean so very much, more than we know or realize.

  266. Mama Rachael

    My husband will start teaching the high school sunday school class in Jan. I’m sure there will be a girl in that class that will find this book encouraging. Or maybe I can read it to all the HS girls…

  267. Jodi

    I have two girls (11 & 13). What a wonderful gift, blessing and chance to help them make a difference if I won.

  268. leigh ann

    I would love for my 11 year old daughter to read this. We have already seen how young the mean girl mentality starts…it’s been eye-opening! I will buy this if I don’t win 🙂

  269. Courtney

    I would love to give this to my nieces (11 & 14) and then one day for my daughters who are little 🙂

  270. M. Gooding

    I would love to share this with the students at my school! We are a K3 – 12th grade school and strive everyday to teach our children character values as well as academics. Thank you!

  271. Sheri

    I have two daughters, ages 11 & 17. I would love for them both to read this book!

  272. Nichole

    I would love to share this book with a few girls who are participants in the program I work for. I work for the Upward Bound program here in New Hampshire. We work with low-income and first-generation to college high school students, preparing them for entrance into and success at college. I have several girls who could really use a positive read on how the things they say (or type or text) have an effect on themselves and the world and people around them. This book sounds great for that!

  273. terry

    would live to give this book to my 15 yo and read it myself!

  274. elizabeth H

    I’d gift this to my teenage niece … what a wonderful treasure of a book!
    I wish i’d had this book as a teen myself…I’m still learning the great power my words hold.

  275. Crystal @My Blissful Space

    I’d save it for my daughter who right now is 6. Can I read it for myself?! 🙂

  276. GayleK

    My just-turned-13-year-old could sooo use this right now! And her 10-year-old sister isn’t far behind.

  277. Kimberly C.

    Two of my 4 children are girls. One is about to be 8 the other only 3. I would love to use it as a teaching tool for them.

  278. Janey B

    I would love to give this to my 13 yo daughter – we talk about this topic so much.

  279. Audrey

    I’d love to read it myself, give it to my daughter and then share it with my Girl Scout troop.

  280. Jess

    I’d like to give to my 10 year old daughter

  281. Courtney

    My daughter is entering middle school in the fall, and I”m prayerfully terrified about it! 😉 Would love this for her as she will soon navigate those challenging waters.

  282. Beth Wigner

    My “little” girl will graduate from high school this year. It seems like yesterday she was carrying her dolls around everywhere we went. I think this book has a timeless message we could all benefit from. I would love to give this to my daughter as she transitions to going off to college on her own. I pray she makes good decisions and loves those around her unconditionally. Thanks!

  283. Kathryn

    I have two daughters that I would love to empower with Annie’s wisdom!

  284. Kristin Thomas

    I would LOVE this book for my daughter. We have been talking about this with her a lot lately, so this would be an awesome gift to give her! Thanks for this chance!

  285. Carolyn

    I would love to give this book to my daughter Gracie who turns 13 in March. Thank you!!

  286. Leslie Wright

    What a fantastic book. would love to win!

  287. Jody

    I’d love to give this to my teenage nieces!

  288. Beth M.

    I have found myself wrung out and at the point of collapse when I finally come home each night, so I desperately need to learn to speak love to my lovely little girls who miss me terribly and just want precisely that at the end of the day. My eldest is learning by example NOT to be terribly kind to her little sister, and I need to show her a better way. Pray I can do this, please.

  289. Sarah

    This would be great for my niece, who turns 15 in January. Last year I gave her a devotional and journal for her birthday and she told me that she loves it and uses it every day. As the oldest of three girls, it would be great if she got this message and was able to model words of love to her sisters.

  290. Beth T

    I would give this to my best friend’s daughter who is 9. Then in 7 years I’d ask to borrow it back for my daughter who will be 9 by then. 🙂

  291. Elizabeth S

    I have a younger sister who would really enjoy this – would love to gift it to her!

  292. Lori

    I must say, being selfish, I would love to have this book for myself. I’m a mother of a tween boy and a young girl and I think I could benefit from reading it and be able to share and read with my own children. In the world today, it takes a strong person to be able to take criticism and still try to be strong.

  293. Tehila

    I would love to gift this book to my 12 year old daughter. She is just entering the phase where she is facing challenges of this kind, and pointing her to the right path would be invaluable! Thanks! 🙂

  294. Heather

    Oh, this is so timely since I’ve just recently had a conversation with my 13 year old daughter on how the fact that she is a leader (and a sweet girl) that it’s up to her to set an example for the “mean girls” – and change the world. As women we need to build each other up, not tear each other down. Unfortunately I think our society via TV and social media teaches girls how to be mean to each other and not support one another. I’m hoping one of these books in the giveaway will end up with my daughter, but I think they’ll make nice gifts too. Thanks for the great post.

  295. Nora

    Reminds me of the Toby Mac song, ‘Speak Life”.
    I would send this book to my niece expecting her first child in January!

  296. Rachel

    Could I read it first myself, then share it with my 9 yo daughter?!

  297. Amanda

    I Would love this gift for myself. As a stay at home mom, so weeks I feel the only things I know to talk about are my little girl or gossip about ‘friends’ on facebook.

  298. Sheila

    This book would be a great read for my soon to be eleven year old daughter. She is struggling between her long time friends and the “popular girls” at school at the moment. She doesn’t understand why everyone just can’t be friends and why some girls say mean things about others. I myself am so worried that she will become a “mean girl” to try to fit in. She has such a sweet heart and it is breaking my heart to see her go through this.

  299. shilpa

    This generation craves for some loving,as always no one offers to lend anyone some.this book will open doors to those who would like to change ….and I am one of them.I would be delighted to teach my young daughter about acts of kindness,where a little can go a long way.

  300. Mary-Sue

    My daughter is 12. She’s ready. The world NEEDS this book. Thank you!!

  301. Amy

    I’d love to give this to my 12 year old daughter!

  302. Cathy Ban

    I Have a friend who’s 12 year old daughter is being treated badly by some mean girls at school. I would give her the book. My friend is a single mom so it would be a good christmas present.

  303. Jessic

    maybe my sister in law would like this book!

  304. Hollie

    I would love to give the book to my niece. She’s in middle school a breeding ground for mean girls in my opinion.

    Thanks for the chance.

  305. Mary

    I would love to check this out.

  306. Jasie

    My nieces now and thenmy daughter in a few years.

  307. Rebecca

    One of my daughters. She would be so blessed by learning this.

  308. Phaedra

    I have an eight year old daughter and we are already starting to navigate the tricky waters of girls’ friendships. This books sounds like a wonderful way for us to talk about promoting healthy and happy habits instead of getting sucked into the sarcastic & mean habits.

  309. Jessica Tibbetts

    I’d give this book to my ten year-old niece with the hopes that she’d share it with my daughter in a few years. Even if I don’t win, I’ll be giving it to her.

  310. Margaret Petry

    I would love to hang onto this for my daughter… she’s only 4, but when she’s 10-11, this would be wonderful. In the meantime I would loan it to our church’s youth pastor and the small-group leaders who work with our teenagers. 🙂

  311. Trina

    Would love to win a copy of this book, but am going directly to amazon after I post this to buy copies for my 10 year old, my 11 old niece, my friends 13 year old, and a teacher friend at my children’s school. I also plan to have my 12 year old son read it as well. Boys also need to realize how powerful and important words are. Awesome!

  312. Elaine

    I would love to give this book to my 16 year old niece. And as a Matter of fact… My 21 year old niece would benefit from it too. What a wonderful Christmas present!

  313. Karen Blair

    I would give them to my nieces—10 and 12. What a great book idea!

  314. Ann R

    I would give it to my daughters.

  315. Melissa

    Wow…good for young kids and us older kids too

  316. Angela

    I’d love to gift this to my 2 daughters

  317. Kate

    My church is a part of a big buddies program with a local non-profit who works with foster children. There is a nine year old girl I am putting a Christmas present together for. I’d like to make this book a part of her present.

  318. Becky

    My 10 year old daughter Madison. This has been a big issue in her class for past year and a half and this book sounds amazing! Been trying to help her empower herself so that her self esteem doesn’t suffer anymore damage. It’s very sad that these issues start so young, Madison was barely in 3rd grade when it began. My older children are in their 20’s now and it seemed to be a Jr high thing back then. Very sad.

  319. Debbie

    I teach 7th grade girls. I need to read this book, and I need a copy in my classroom library. There is just so much meanness in 7th grade girls!

  320. kelly

    I would love to give this to my 10 year old niece.

  321. Tracy

    I would give this to my 9 year old daughter, and we could read it together.

  322. Lucky

    I would love to give this book to my little cousin she’s 14 and going through a difficult time between her parents divorcing and them remarrying shes going through that rebellious phase and nothing anyone can say will phase her. However she loves to read so made something like this can help her heal during this difficult transition.

  323. Leah

    This is fantastic! I have 3 daughters, 2 of whom are the right age for this book (10 and 12). I also have a 10 year-old niece. Would love to give this book to all 3.

  324. Cori

    I would probably share the book with some girls from my church and request it back for my soon to be 8-year-old daughter in a couple years.

  325. Hollind

    Would love this for my 12 yr old daughter. 🙂
    Crossing fingers…..

  326. Yolanda

    I would gift it to myself, my students and my daughters…

  327. alison hill

    As a woman who has used her words wisely and unwisely I have encountered regretful consequences as well as undeserved mercies for which I am overwhelmed by. I have 3 daughters 19,17 and about to be 13 and I could not be more proud of the choices my oldest two have made despite a rocky start. I would use this book as a time with my 13 year old as read each night before bed.
    Words truly do have the power of life and death: on a page , out of the mouth, or spoken to one’s self deep in the heart.
    They matter

  328. MomofTwoPreciousGirls

    I think I need to read it myself….I need some inspiration to help me model these ideas for my young girls. It has been a frustrating time starting kindergarten this year and I need help to pick up my almost 6yo’s spirit. I want to speak to her in a away that strengthens her heart and soul. Then as they get older I will share it with them.

  329. Cheryl

    I would love this book for my daughter and niece after I read it first! Thank you!

  330. Sara DeMaster Smith

    I would share this book with the 4th-grade teacher at my kids’ school, who will be inheriting a class next year with some girls who need to learn how to speak love!

  331. angela purdy

    I am a troop leader to a group of GENtleness (8 & 9 yo). I would love to share this book with my girls. Its never too young to learn that words really affect people.

  332. Melissa

    I have two daughters! Definitely sounds like a great book I’d love for them to have!

  333. Kim

    my only daughter is turning 13 next week. I would love for her o receive this as a gift.

  334. Sara Maletta

    I would love to give this to one of my students! We need more of this stuff in the world!

  335. Kirstin

    I’d love this for my daughter (when she’s a bit older), as well as all of my nieces!

  336. Becca H

    I think I would start reading this with my 7.5 year old because I already start to see some negative habits forming when it comes to her language – this is so important!!!

  337. Joslynne

    I teach a number of young adult girls and many teenagers as well. My daughter is 13 years old and really dislikes the whole mean girl atmosphere at her school. We often discuss how to best handle the situations. I’d love to read this book with her to get some new insights. Thanks!

  338. Megan everitt

    I have tween and teen nieces on both sides of my family. I would like to pass it around to each of them and then get it back to share with my own 8 yo daughter in the next year or so. I think seeing their underlines and margin notes would be icing on the cake for my dtr. We live overseas so things like that help her feel more connected to our families. (confession: I want to read it first – excited about it!)

  339. kris petty

    I would love to win this for my sweet little girls ages 3 and 5!

  340. Sarah

    I would love to read it with my daughters and then pass it on to my nieces. It sounds like a great book study for a group.

  341. Loree

    I have an almost-11 year old, who will be attending Middle School in the 6th grade in Fall 2014. I would love to share this book with Hope — and save it for her 7-year-old sister, Grace, when she gets to Middle School. What a blessing your blog is! Thanks for the chance to win.

  342. Nydia

    This would be great for my daughter! Thanks for the opportunity!

  343. Emily Curtiss

    I have twin 8 year old daughters that have started to speak to each other and their 10 year old brother as though their words don’t matter and can’t hurt someone. This would be a great read for all 4 of us together.

  344. Summer

    I would love to read this to my 5 year old daughter. I have seen how younger girls can be very mean.

  345. Nancy

    This would be a wonderful gift for my 16 year old granddaughter. And I work with young women in our church. It would be a valuable resource. Thanks of the opportunity.

  346. chrissy

    My 13 YO daughter, Grace!

  347. Meredith

    I would give this to my best friend’s daughter, Ellie, who will turn 10 this month.

  348. Susan

    I would love to give this to my sweet 11 year old niece for Christmas and then get it passed back for my 7 year old in a few years!

  349. Kellie

    I teach 5 th grade and I would love to use this book as part of our character education curriculum!

  350. Jessica

    I would love to share this with my mother, a middle-school teacher, so that it can drop into her pool and ripple through her students and fellow teachers.

  351. Tonya

    I’d love to give this book to myself! And, I’d read it with my 8 yo daughter. The mean-girl is making itself known in her little world already 🙁 Thanks!

  352. Kathy Ellen Davis

    I’d love to share this book with my 14 year old friend on the opposite coast of the US. I’ve known her since she was a baby, and helped babysit her and her older brother for most of their lives, before I moved away.

    It amazes me what great teenagers they’ve grown to be, and we get closer and closer every year. I’d love to have this book to read along with her, so we can discuss it. 🙂

  353. Kristy E.

    I would love to give this to my 13 year old niece! Thank you for the giveaway!

  354. Peggy

    to me 9 year old daughter. this has been a tough year with lots of mean girl stuff – growing up is hard.

  355. Marie

    If I were to win this book I would give it to my 14 and 11 year-old daughters.
    Marie

  356. han

    I think I’d like to give this book to one of my nieces, who’s in high school, and has been bullied.

  357. Tracey Kruger

    I’d love to have this book for my 12-year-old daughter, who is a lovely lovely person, both inside and out. This sort of book is a Godsend to help the nice girls stay nice, when others around them are not so successful. Thank you for the giveaway.

  358. Christina norwood

    I would love to have a copy for my oldest 2 daughters to read, ages 9 and 11. It’s such a crucial time in life to build good habits in how words are used. Thanks for writing this book!

  359. Michelle C.

    My daughter…she needs to hear from others what I say to her as truth.

  360. Leda

    “I sin the most with my tongue,” is what I always say. I would looooove this book! I didn’t learn to watch my tongue until well into my 30s **gasp!*** and I ruined a lot of relationships. Because of that, I am intentional in teaching my now 10yo daughter to watch her tongue. I would love to gift this book to her (and I would love to borrow it a lot!) I love the concept of killing the mean-girl mentality!!! And of course, we need to charter that course as well as the “wiser” and older generation. Thank you for informing us about this book.

  361. Julie

    I’d love to give it to my 16 year old cousin who takes the high road with girlfriends but could use some encouragement.
    Thanks.

  362. Cindy

    I would give the book to my 9 1/2 year old daughter and then my younger two daughters when they get to that age.

  363. Victoria

    I’d love to read it with my daughter!

  364. Beth

    I’d love to share this with my 16 and 8 yr. old nieces and one day my own daughter!

  365. Donna Mayo

    My daughter Brooke is 13 and is exposed to mean girls on a regular basis. I would love for her to read it and know that she doesn’t have to be like others.

  366. Karen h

    My high school daughter

  367. maureen

    I’m a librarian at a middle/high school. I’d add it to the library collection.

  368. Naomi Gies

    I would love to give this book to my youngest niece, who just turned 13.

  369. Kirsten

    For my daughters xxx

  370. Laurie

    This sound like a great book. Every girl needs to speak words that lift up and not tear down. I would love to read this with my girls. Thank you.

  371. Sarah

    My 16 year old daughter, whose heart is searching.

  372. Lisa

    I would love to give this to my daughters who are 10 and 9!

  373. Dana

    I would love to give this to my daughter; she is 11. Eleven is a tender time, especially for friendships and communication skills.

  374. Tammy

    This looks great! surely would be perfect for my daughter.

  375. Kirsten Oliphant

    My daughter is 7 months old and her speaking is more squawking. But this book sounds like it’s speaking real truth that will transcend to whatever has replaced cyberbullying in a few years. 🙂

  376. Michelle

    I would love to have this for my 12 year old (& my 10 year old in the future). Do you ever speak in the Philadelphia area? I think this would be a wonderful experience for our youth!

  377. KK

    I have five daughters ages nine and under. I would love to read this book with the oldest and watch the way it affects our own family, as well as the way we interact with our world.

  378. amy

    I have three girls, one of which is turning 10 soon. I would love share this with her as well as girls in our church.

  379. Laura

    I would love to give a copy to my sister.

  380. Kristen in MO

    I have four kids. Three of them are girls. I would love to share the book with the oldest and then again with the younger ones as they grow up.

  381. Christine

    I would love to give this book to my classroom. This year our push is toward creating a literacy rich classroom environment. This book would take a place of honor in my classroom and be introduced through a book talk and reading. I’d love to start a great conversation throughout our building with this book–I teach middle school–words can be poison or power!

  382. Susan

    I would love to give this to my 11year old niece, and then buy a copy for myself! I teach middle school, and girls can be so mean at that age!

  383. Brenda

    I would give this to my 18 year old niece who is away at her first year in college. The words we say and believe about ourselves are so important! I would also buy a copy and read it with my 11 year old sons. Love knows no age or gender. Believing and receiving “God loves me” is crucial before you are able to give love to others.

  384. De Arn

    I would love to read this together with my 11 year old daughter. It’s definitely a message we could both use some work on together. Thanks for the blessing of sharing your insights.

  385. ariane g.

    I would love to read this and pass on to my friends daughters since mine is only 4. I would love to learn and share what I learn with my son and daughter as they grow.

  386. Jennifer P

    I hope I win too! Though my daughters are still too young for the book, one is never really too young for the principle. And I’m sure the girls in my youth group/small group would enjoy it. I’m already envisioning it being a book study…

  387. Karen F.

    I would share this with the 14 year old girl that is assisting me in my co-op class this winter.

  388. Jodi

    I have several nieces that would benefit from reading this book.

  389. Lori A

    I would love to give this book to my 14 year old niece. She is easily influenced and seeks to be accepted constantly. She gravitates towards those whom may not be a good, positive force in her life and I want to help her find her loving self and thrive.

  390. Megan

    I have to young daughters. And myself who just might need this in our lives. Thank you for the chance.

  391. Megan Lucero

    I would love to read it… then save it for my daughter. It would make a lovely gift for my sisters too.

  392. Sandi

    I would give this to my daughter.

  393. Melissa

    I would love to share with my girls.

  394. Janica

    Sounds fantastic!

  395. Beth Guy

    Hi! I would like to share this with my family for our Christmas book exchange. Specifically my sister and I could use it. We are both moms of young kids. It looks like a great read!

  396. Teresa

    I would give it to my 14 yr old daughter!

  397. Kate

    I would give this to my 13 year old niece who has been bullied in the past, in hopes of helping to improve her self confidence!

  398. Stacey

    I would love to give this to my 12 year old niece. (And maybe take a peek at it myself as my 5 and 3 year old daughters are growing way too fast!)

  399. Noelani

    This book would be perfect for my daughter, 🙂

  400. Monicca

    I would love to read this with my daughter! Great giveaway!

  401. Renee Kern

    I would love to read it with my almost 13 year old daughter. She has a friend that can be snide and demeaning at times, to my daughter and to some of their other friends. My daughter hates anyone to be mad at her. I was speaking with my best friend (we are best friends because our daughters became best friends) and her daughter has been telling her about the comments and attitude of this other friend. I told my daughter, stand up for yourself, when you tell her that you like her clothing and she rolls her eyes at you, tell her, that was rude and that some times her attitude hurts your feelings, but she won’t. It is tough growing up today and parenting in today’s world. I would love a good read that we can talk about together!

  402. Florene

    My granddaughter Hannah is a senior in high school. I would love for hear to hear other words of love and how important they are, as she is madly in love with a very nice young man.

  403. Susan

    My friend Shawntel.

  404. Jackie D.

    My daughter just turned 9 and I would love this book for us to share. Her being my oldest – I feel not as prepared as I feel I should as she moves into the ranging waters of being an almost tween. This book would provide her with so much support in addition to what “mom” tells her. It would also help me guide her better as she grows 🙂

  405. Kim

    Having four boys and having eight nephews, I would love to give this to the one girl in our family. My 9 year old niece.

  406. marilyn

    for my daughter

  407. Cathy

    I’m a single mother of a 13 year old daughter who is going through a lot, and I love to give her this book. Blessings. XO! Thank you!

  408. Brittney

    My daughter will be born in February 🙂 but I feel like this topic will be just as important for her in 10-12 years. Even if I don’t win, I’ll be adding this book to my amazon wish list so I don’t forget about it.

  409. Mel

    I’m a middle and high school counselor at a private Christian school. I’d love to read the book and see how I could use it in my work with students and their families, maybe as a book club reading for parents of teen girls, or a book club with the girls, or as part of a girl’s small group.

  410. Kerri

    For my daughter

  411. Agnes

    Can’t wait to read this, whether I win or not! I have 3 girls I can share this with as they each get older, plus plenty of nieces and friends. 🙂

  412. amber

    I would love to give this book to my mom. She is a school bus driver and loves being able to give her students books to borrow and read.

  413. Rebekah

    I would gift this to my nieces!

  414. Dawn Post

    I’d love to gift this to myself. HA!

  415. Gretchen

    I would gift this to myself. I have two boys, and I take the responsibility of teaching them respect very seriously.

  416. Jessica

    My daughters! It would be a used gift though, because I want to read it first!

  417. Amanda

    First I would read it then pass it into my younger sister.

  418. Jen

    I’d love to share this with the girls I mentor and also to save for my daughter.

  419. Nina

    To my co-worker. We could both learn to speak more kindly about others we work with. She has a teenage daughter who is having severe mental health issues, another who just got out of ICU and has a very dangerous but necessary surgery scheduled in February IF sheKs recoveredn and her cancer has metastasized, and I think any bit of encouragement is lovely in all she is dealing with in her life.

  420. Tracy @ Using Time Wisely

    My niece is a bookworm, and she would love it. Thanks for the giveaway!

  421. Melanie

    My sweet neice, who is about to enter the mean-girl age.

  422. Cassey

    My daughter is too young to read it herself but I’d love to read it for her and share the message. I SO want to shepherd her heart to speak love as she grows up and not to fall into the gossipy mean girl trap. I would love to read this myself just to better understand how I can help raise her with this kind of gentle, loving heart!

  423. Lydia

    I would gift this to myself and my daughter, she is only 8, but we have already had numerous conversations about the way the girls at school talk to each other. I need to know how to help them.

  424. Glenys

    I’d love this for my 3 daughters

  425. Patty

    Would love to give this to my daughter.

  426. kimmie

    I would love to share this with my daughter as she gets older.

  427. laura

    This would be great for my niece.

  428. Valerie B.

    My daughter just turned 13 a few days ago. I’ve been looking for a book like this!

  429. Michelle

    I’d love to gift these books to the HS girls I mentored.

  430. Misty

    I would read it and then save it until my daughter is ready 🙂

  431. Christy Baines

    I would love to have a copy of this book. I have 4 girls aged 12, 10, 7 and 4. This is so important to teach them. Can’t wait to get my hands on a copy

  432. Sunita

    I would like to give it to my best friend, she needs encouragement asap…
    But then I want to read it too!!!

  433. brenda

    I’d love to give this book to my granddaughter! Out of my four grands, she’s the only girl and I’d love to do this for her.

  434. Paula Hogan

    This book sounds fantastic – my 9 year old but especially my 13 year old daughters would benefit after dealing with girls and nasty works this year.

  435. Courtney

    I would want to give it to my daughter–and hope she’d let me read it when she’s done. =)

  436. Hanna

    I am a housemom at a children’s home. In the last two and a half years I’ve been gifted with 12 girls in addition to my two little ones. By January I will have a new set of eight girls over the age of ten–all of whom desperately need this message in their lives.

  437. Jill Shaw

    I will start thinking this way with my 6 year old. Young women could really make a difference in this culture if they took this to heart

  438. Bonnie

    I would love to share with my daughter.

  439. Melissa Rose

    I would gift this to my younger sister. Then ask to read it after she was done 🙂

  440. carolyn

    My 3 beautiful nieces (especially the 14 and 11 yr olds)

  441. Brittany

    I would read through it with each of my three girls.

  442. Martha

    I would love to read this with my 7 year old…and then send the book around her circle of friends. Imagine what a whole group could do!

  443. Kate

    I have two daughters – 14 and 17 – and I would love to have them read this book. (And I’m looking forward to reading it as well!) We need to promote kindness and strength with our girls and get rid of the whole mean-girl mentality that exists in today’s world!

  444. Betsy

    I would love to share this with my 3 daughters.

  445. Jen

    This would be for our 16 year old daughter. Thank you for the chance to win!

  446. Jaclyn B

    I would love to read this book as I have a daughter, and then pass it on to a special niece!

  447. Char

    Would love to read this together with my girl!

  448. Sarah Ellis

    I would love to share this with the mom’s group at our church, for the benefit of each of us and our girls.

  449. Kerry

    My daughter is too young for this book, almost 6, but I think my niece would really benefit from it. She is 10, almost 11.

  450. Renaye

    My goodness – this book would be looking dog-eared and tatty in no time! It would do the rounds of friends daughters, nieces and in the oh not too distant future… my daughter 🙂

  451. Jennifer Campbell

    I would love this book for my 13-year-old god-daughter!

  452. Amanda

    I’d love to share this with my 8-year-old daughter. She might be a bit young to read it on her own, but she’s not too young for the message!

  453. Taylor

    I would love to read this book myself and then save it for my daughters who are too young now, but I know grow up way too quickly.

  454. Kristina Morris

    I would love to share this with my daughter!

  455. Marlo

    I would love for my 11 year old daughter and I to read this together. Unfortunately, she’s beginning to encounter the mean girl experience. Words are so very important, and sometimes I don’t even choose mine well. Thank you for writing it!

  456. Julie

    I would love to give this book to my almost 11-year-old daughter. She is starting to realize the power of words and how they affect herself, but hasn’t yet connected that to her power to make others feel better/worse.

  457. cindy schueneman

    I would love to love to be one of the winners. the first person I would give it to is my precious granddaughter . She will be 13 in March. great giveaway

  458. Emily

    I would like to give this to my 15 year old cousin.

  459. Michelle

    My daughter is 9 and not a week goes by that we don’t discuss these issues in one way or another. I would LOVE to read the book and share it w my daughter and my sister, who has a 9 year old daughter who has been encountering mean ‘cliques’ since first grade.

  460. jai

    This is SO fabulous! Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this. I am with ya on your mission. In the beginning was the Word. I would love to share this with my 9 year old daughter and all my friends daughters!

  461. Beth

    This would be great for my 14 year old!

  462. Stacy

    I’d love to give this to my 9 year old daughter!

  463. Adrianne

    I’d send a copy to my sister. I’d want a copy for me but I’d send it to her cause I know she would share 😉 Plus we are both walking the wacky world of raising kids and her son is older then mine by a year and some change and I go to her for advice all the time.

  464. kim

    I’d read this with my 2 daughters, 14 & 12…..then I’d pass it around.

  465. Kari Delinger

    I would love to read this with my two daughters.

  466. chandana

    I’d love to read this book myself!

  467. Christy

    What a beautiful book! So many lives will be profoundly affected by this. Would love for my granddaughter to read it!

  468. Shondra W.

    I would love to read this. I’m a Freshmen English teacher and am always trying to show them love and compassion, but it isn’t always easy. 🙂 I also have three boys who are 4 and under and I’m sure that loving words don’t always come out of my mouth as much as I’d hope they would….and I’m sure my husband would appreciate it I read this. 🙂

    I would also love to gift this to a good friend of mine…another English teacher.

    Thanks for the giveaway. 🙂

  469. Abi

    This sounds like a great book for my daughter and her friends!

  470. sonya

    Would LOVE to give Annie Downs’ book to my big girl (16yrs) & her younger sister (10yrs) maybe even to read together & talk about.
    Gotta love someone finding ways to speak truth to young women…they have so much fighting for their hearts.
    Thanks Tsh & Annie!

  471. Jody Carr

    I would love to give this to my 14 year old daughter who is currently facing the mean girl attitude at school. This would be a great tool for her!

  472. Michelle

    I would love a copy for my 14 year old niece…perfect Christmas gift.

    Thanks for the opportunity

    Michelle

  473. Deb

    My teen girls, 17 and 18, course if they have to share it, they might have to read it first! 😉

  474. Carrie

    I’d love to give this to any of my friends and family!

  475. Athena

    This would be great for my 12 year old daughter and of course I’d love to read it too!

  476. Deanna

    My sister!

  477. Thyla

    This sounds like an awesome book that everyone needs to read! We should always think before we speak. My girls are 7 & 9 and are starting to snap at each other. This would be good for each of them to read and for us all to discuss. I work at their school so the book would be a good one to pass around. James 1:19. Thanks for all the good info!

  478. Leslie

    I would love to have this book for my sweet almost ten year old daughter. Sadly, mean girls make life miserable for other girls and often become mean women. Their cruel words leave scars thar can last a lifetime. I’m so glad there is a new book thar addresses this issue.

  479. Leigh A

    My daughter is 9 years old and loves to read. She is 1 0f 2 girls in a class of 10. I think this book is great for girls at this age to realize the impact their words have and that most of the time it’s more important than actions. People always remember how you make them feel!

  480. Janet Graham

    Mean girls have been celebrated for so long it is a blessing to see someone begin to change the tide.
    I would like to read this book myself as an older woman who struggles with the messages of “my little girl inside.” I never learned how to speak love to myself nor was it demonstrated in the women around me growing up.
    I also mentor high school and college age ladies.
    Thanks for making a difference in the lives of young women!

  481. M-P Guimond

    I only have sons, but I’m sure this could be useful for the whole family.

  482. Amy @ A Journey of Purpose

    I would give this to my neice, she is just entering this phase! Thanks for the giveaway!

  483. Denise White

    First, I would give it to myself. I am all too often guilty of allowing unwise words to fly out of my mouth especially when under pressure and stressed. Then I would share it with my 3 sisters as we are cut from the same cloth!

  484. Sally

    I have a teenage daughter as well as a tween one, and I’d love for them both to read it.

  485. MicheleStitches

    My youngest daughter will be 12 years old in just a week or so. I think she is the perfect age for such a message. Of course, I want to read it too! Come to think of it, just about any age is probably the perfect age for this message!

  486. Andrea

    I have 2 daughters, 9 and 4, but it’s me who needs to read this. Thanks for hosting the giveaway.

  487. Julie

    My daughters and then their friends!!

  488. Kirstin

    I would live for my teens to read this. I think there are a lot of adults that would benefit from it too. ….sadly.

  489. Jen

    What an amazing gift to share with young women! I would love to share this book with my daughter and her friends.

  490. mrskeshkent

    I would love to share this with my soon to be 17yo, her birthday is 12/29…I am also gifting her a purity ring. 😉

  491. Rachel

    I’d use it to lead a small group for our teen girls and then give the book away to one of them!

  492. Kim Mislock

    I would like to give this to my daughter, who is a sixth grader.

  493. Aimee

    My 9 year old daughter after I read it, of course!

  494. Jen Mc

    I would love to read this and then pass along to other friends!

  495. Jacque

    I would love to gift this to my sister in law! (I feel guilty for saying that… LOL!) But between her and her house full of girls? (four ages 5- 15) I think she could really benefit from this!

  496. Maren Blid

    I would gift this book to the parent library of my daughters school. After I have a look at it of course. I would see if it is a good candidate for the next parent book club. If that is the case I will need 10 more copies:)

  497. miriam

    This would go to my oldest niece, Maddy, who’s 12.

  498. Julie

    this would be a great book for my younger sister-in-law.

  499. SusanI

    My 8-year-old daughter has already been facing bullying issues at school. Her psychologist has been helping her learn to use a strong voice. The powef of words, how they are used, the manner in which we use them are all a part of how we are now structuring our family communication. This book would fit right in with us! A book I would share with my daughter most definitely!

  500. Gretchen

    This would be awesome for my kids and for our youth group!

  501. julia

    I have 3 and 5 year old girls. My life, and views on everything have obviously changed so dramatically since they have been born, I really want to soak in and pass on every great thing I can. One of the main things I had to work on to ensure my daughters were raised to be kind was my filter. The filter on the words that come out of my mouth needed a lot of work. This book would help us all a great deal I believe.

  502. Amy

    My niece is freshman class president and doesn’t seem to see how much her words weigh with others. I would love to give this to her!

  503. Lori G

    I would love to share this with my 3 granddaughters when they visit!

  504. Nancy L Miller

    My lovely niece Emily would be my recipient of this book–but I will check out Amazon to get it for her regardless.

  505. Elizabeth

    WOW! I would love to gift this to my niece.

  506. Heather

    I would give this to my 14 year old niece.

  507. Kim

    Every semester I teach a group of about 30-5o students in a college communication’s class. I would share the things I learn from the book in our discussion about verbal language. So I guess I would gift the book to me! But pay it forward with those with whom I learn.

  508. Jenny

    I have three daughters; the oldest is thirteen. They all love to read – it would benefit them all greatly (and their friends) to have a copy of this in our house.

  509. Rebecca Morse

    I would love to give this book to my two adult daughters and get one for myself, too!

  510. Idaho Jill

    My daughter is only 6, but I’d love to read it now and pass it on to her in the way-too-near future.

  511. Kate

    As a school administrator, I frequently encounter situations with students, parents, and teachers that are difficult – I am constantly trying to refill my toolbox and need encouragement to speak love.

  512. Katherine

    My niece , who just started high school this year.

  513. Julie

    I would love this for my 11-year-old niece!

  514. Sarah

    I would love to give this book to my beautiful daughter, Hannah. She wishes there were no mean girls, and I am always open to things that will help her be a force for good!

  515. Erin

    We have several nieces who I know would benefit from this message as they get older.

  516. Brenda Kelley

    I would really love to be able to gift this book to our local Teen Center.

    My adult niece and I have made a commitment to find ways to support the teens in our community after losing another young man to suicide. We’ve launched “Hope and Love for Los Alamos (HOLLA) and have begun to develop a game plan that will work alongside our county-owned Teen Center and our Juvenile Justice Advisory Board. This book seems to be exactly what we’re trying to focus on – valuing and affirming each person and building on the premise that we need to speak love.

    Coincidentally, when my kids were younger and the sibling strife was at an all-time high, it seemed that the only thing that made a difference was to explain to them that the mean and hurtful words carried far more power than they realized and they were wielding that power not only in our home but throughout their various environments – school, on the field, etc – and it was affecting how others were treating the sibling. That’s a lot of power.

  517. Kim

    My daughter!

  518. Brenda Kelley

    I would like to gift a copy of Speak Love to our local Teen Center. My niece and I have launched an effort called “Hope and Love for Los Alamos (HOLLA) in the aftermath of yet another devastating loss of a high school boy to suicide.

    We will be working in conjunction with our county-owned Teen Center and the Juvenile Justice Advisory Board to promote hope and love as just one small step in preventing suicide, encouraging teens to value themselves and one another, and breaking down the stigma that compels people to keep their pain hidden. We want to speak love where there has been silence and share the power of affirming the value that each of us is born with.

  519. Rachel

    I hate to admit it….but I could use a gentle reminder of the power of words myself on occasion. I would start by reading it myself, living by example for my three chidlren and then passing the book on and reading it with all the women in my life… what powerful way to make a small difference in the world.

  520. Geeta

    Would love to read this book with my daughter especially as she leaves for university. I think it would help her especially with any fears of mean girls at university esp as she won’t have any family support. Thx

  521. Kate W.

    I would love to give this book to my nieces and I look forward to when my daughter is ready for this. And honestly, I could probably stand to read it! 🙂

  522. Alison

    This is so important! I see girls, even in the homeschool setting struggle with being mean to each other. As a mom of four daughters, the oldest being 13, I would really enjoy reading this book with them and having those profound discussions

  523. Kathryn Gates

    Good Morning! It is interesting to imagine how much better life would have been if I had felt empowered in middle school. I have two nieces (12 and 14) who I would love to give this book.

  524. Cindy

    I would share this book with my three nieces and they will hopefully pass it down to my daughter when she is older! Thanks for the chance to win . .. .

  525. Gayla

    I would love to share this with my daughter.
    Thank you!!!!

  526. Amy

    I would just love to give this book to my 12 year old daughter!

  527. Lesley

    This would be great for my nieces!

  528. Jess

    I’d gift this book to my youngest sibling, she is about to turn 13, thanks 🙂

  529. se7en

    This sounds like the sort of book that my 12yr old gal and I really should read together. Plenty of material for both of us in there!!!

  530. Tamrah T

    I’d like to share it with my Mom. She already lives a life that speaks love. I’d say it would be more for me to read first. It would be a wonderful way to engage a conversation and learn more from her personal perspectives to life.

  531. Susan S.

    I would love to share this book with my nieces (13 and 11). I am actually going to pass this post onto my sister to check out.

  532. Emma

    I want to read this and save it for my daughters when they are a bit older.

  533. Amy*

    I would love to gift this to my daughters…after I read it….
    Thanks for the chance to win!

  534. Katie S

    Love to add this to our library! We have two girls who could read it eventually and I think their mama could learn a thing or two from it too!

  535. Marsha

    I would like my daughters and I to read this book.

  536. Stephanie G

    I would love to give this book to my 12 year old daughter.

  537. Kelly

    Not only do I not want my daughter to be a victim of the mean girls, I want her to be a positive light and advocate for any girl around her who might be a victim. We would love this book!

  538. TaSha

    I would still buy this if I didn’t win. I would read it, gift it to my best friend with a high school daughter and two young girls, and the. When my baby girl is ready for reading id have her read it.

  539. Sally

    I’d love to share this with my daughter.

  540. Kari Beth

    I would give this book to my 12 year old daughter, knowing that she will share what she learns with my 8 year old daughter.

  541. Lorraine

    My mother used to say “speak only good things for what you say effects what happens”. I want my granddaughters to understand this message and I will pass this book around to the three of them, Grace, Bryce and Camryn.

  542. Kathryn

    I would love to read it through first – I’m sure I have lots to learn about the power of words! But then I’d really love to save it for my daughters, when they’re older. The oldest is just 4.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  543. Kris E

    My two daughters are grown now and raising young families themselves, and my youngest child (my boy) just started High School this year. He has MANY friends (girls of course) that talk to me (Mom K) about a lot of personal issue, and commonly end up borrowing a book from me.
    I’ve heard great things about this book, and would really enjoy adding it to my collection!

  544. ReneeB

    This sounds like the perfect book for our four girls. Thanks Tsh for offering here.

  545. Jacquie

    I have a new blog and I have so many articles I’ve drafted that is written along the lines of this thought that women need to support each other rather than compete against one another in a mean spirited fashion. I’m am so excited to learn about this book. I would love to win it and I would share it with my 9 year old daughter. If I win this book, I would also be very happy to promote it on my own blog! Thanks for letting your readers know about it!!

  546. Barefoot Hippie Girl

    I would read it now, and as my preteens get a bit older, I would have them read it too.

  547. Mal

    I have several cousins in the tween stage-would be so helpful.

  548. Marci

    I have 3 daughters, and I’m the advisor of a Senior Girl Scout troop. I would love to give this book to all of my girls.

  549. Taryn

    I would love to give a copy of this book to my beautiful niece who is 10 years old. And when she is a little bit older, my own daughter, who I am trying to be a living example for.

  550. Claire

    I’d like to read this and share with other women friends, and my son who is 12 years old.
    (Boys matter too!)

  551. Vidya

    I would love to read it myself and for my daughter when she grows to be ten!

  552. Candace

    This book would be perfect for my daughter.

  553. brooke wagen

    i would love this to be a salina street every girl reads it book club book. and eventually make it down to elaia. 🙂

  554. Catherine

    I would give this to my 11 year old daughter. I will be buying it anyway if I don’t win!

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