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Three kinds of expectations

It’s still the most surprising thing Becky has ever said to me. “OK,” she declared. “I’ve decided to lower my expectations of you.” Becky has a theory and after two decades together I’m convinced she’s right: Most conflict and unhappiness in relationships comes from three kinds of expectations. Unreasonable Sometimes our expectations are unreasonable. In (read more…)

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The Art of Simple Podcast, episode 74 with Tsh Oxenreider and Stephanie Langford

#74: Pillows matter, man

We’re back with a new podcast! This is the first episode from the road—many of you have asked whether I’ll keep the show going during our round-the-world trip, and the short answer is: yes. It may be more sporatic, since recording depends so heavily on a strong Internet connection. I’ll take advantage of the technology (read more…)

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Beloved dust {giveaway!}

We all know what it’s like to feel exposed. We know what it’s like to have the light reveal the dark places we have been trying to hide. In those times, questions of right and wrong rarely enter our minds. Instead, something clicks on deep inside of us that turns us to the pragmatic. “How (read more…)

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Remember your reasons

Almost two weeks ago my family and I transitioned over from China to Thailand as part of our extended travel experiment. The real change wasn’t geography, however—it was a change in pace, in lifestyle. In China, we were mostly tourists, visiting three cities (four, if you count Hong Kong) in 23 days. Our days were (read more…)

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Weekend links

• Harvard, schmarvard: Why getting your kids into college should be the least of your concerns :: HuffPo • A couple’s incredible 550,000-mile odyssey through 177 countries over 26 years—in a single car :: This is Colossal • Parenting as a Gen Xer: We’re the first generation of parents in the age of iEverything :: Washington (read more…)

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