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Use the fine art of storytelling to raise a frugal child

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by Tsh

Tsh is the founder of this blog and lives in Bend, Oregon with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

(Hi readers – normally the columnists’ weekly posts will be published on Wednesdays. But since I’ve got a week of giveaways starting this Monday, I thought I’d publish Maya’s column a few days early! Enjoy.)

The following is written by green and frugal columnist Maya Bisineer.

My toddlers never took to “no” very well. They were, however, amazingly cooperative when I gave them a convincing and logical explanation for that “no.”

I learned early on that tying several pieces of information together in a very logical manner really got the attention, as well as the affirmative nod, from my little ones. This was when storytelling became a powerful tool – and my best friend – for raising my toddlers, and teaching them about a number of things – including money.

“Frugal” is a wonderfully useful mindset – it saves us money, and it often provides better choices for the environment. So frugality really is not about just spending less, but  about making smarter spending decisions. Learning to live frugally is an incredibly useful life skill for our children as well.

If your little one loves stories and understands the concept of “cause and effect,” your toddler is ready for lessons in frugality. Here are some very basic ways to a conversational tool called storytelling for raising a frugal and money-conscious toddler.

(Having your toddler and his or her friends be the focus of these conversations piques their interest more than anything. And, with everything else, repetition is key. Tell a story over and over again. Kids love that.)

1. Share a story about the life-cycle of money.

Start with story as simple as this: “Daddy goes to office to do his ABC’s. He works really hard and then brings money home. Mommy, Daddy and Sammy will take the money and go buy our food from the store. And yes, we can also use the money to go for rides on the carousel sometimes.” Since I work at home, this is the story I shared with my little one as soon as Dad left for work everyday. It took just a week for little Sammy to make the association – no office means no money, and no money means no food or fun.

2. Connect money to everyday life.

Now that your little one has understood that work results in money, and money is needed for food and fun, try to connect money to other things at home as you go about your day.

Have a conversation – in a storytelling way – about why it is important to switch off lights in the home and to save water. Tie it to things that are most important to Sammy – such as carousel rides, or maybe a picnic. “We should switch off the lights here because we do not need it anymore and it costs money. Let’s turn it off, okay? We can save our money and have a lot more fun when we go out.”

Refrain from bringing up too many materialistic things, such as toys, into the stories. That might backfire.

3.  Explain your reasons for “special” experiences.

Have a conversation with your little one on the way to special places, such as the library or the community center. “We have to give the books back to the library so the other kids can read them. We do not have all the money or all the space to buy and store ALL these books, do we?   And sharing stories is so much more fun”.

4.  Make it exciting to choose homemade.

When you choose to make gifts at home rather than just going out and buying them, tell little Sammy why it is so special. “Aunt Sarah will feel so special when she gets this gift because we made it especially for her. You worked so hard and put so much love into it, didn’t you? How exciting!”

5.  Talk often about things other than money.

A number of frugal choices have an obvious benefit – such as spending time together, making something handmade, and going back to the basics to have fun. Remind your child about how much fun you had at the park the other day. Teach your child about wonderful ways to have fun without spending money. Teach them about the joys of music and dance. And incorporate these experiences in your stories. And then, make a big deal out of those experiences.

These five conversation ideas will teach Sammy about where money comes from, and what money is needed for.  While saving money is good, it is not essential for having fun.

As early as possible, teach your little one that your family doesn’t need a lot of money to be happy.  You do not have to talk about money all the time to teach a toddler about the frugal life.  Focus on sharing how frugal choices result in a richer life.

How do you teach your little one about money and sensible spending?


Maya Bisineer is a mom with a passion and an entrepreneur with a purpose. She is the founder of Memetales – a collaborative space for writers and illustrators to create and market children’s picture books. She blogs about her entrepreneurial journey at Geek Dance, and has an inspiration blog at Think Maya.

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  1. Great article with lots of good tips. I teach my son about tithing and saving. When he gets allowance we put 10% in the tithe jar, 10% in the savings jar, and then the rest in the piggy bank.

    I will definately be using some of your story ideas as well.

    LaToya @ Christian Momma´s last blog post…Post Baby Body Blues

  2. we do the same as LaToya – we have 3 jars and Josh knows exactly what each is for. the first time we took his tithe money to church he wanted a refund after the service was over… but that just showed us that he still needed awhile to grasp the concept. i like the story ideas also – kids learn so much from narratives.

    Krista´s last blog post…Book Review: The Moon Shines Down

  3. What a great post!! When we were growing up, my parents tried really hard to teach us the importance of money and spending. I remember how they would have us set aside 10% of whatever we earned for tithing to our church. It was a little thing but it taught us a great principle, one that we continue to use today.

  4. Thank you for the great article! We have raised our four children this same way. We use storytelling for other events too. On our way to a nice dinner or to a relative’s home we would tell about what might happen there, how the evening will play out, what will be the expected behavior while we’re there. This helps children to know what to do and what will happen during a new experience. They have knowledge and they use that to guide their own behavior/choices.

  5. This is an amazing post…and a well timed one at that!

    I am so glad I found this blog through the 2009 bloggies!
    Your storytelling suggestion makes so much sense. I don’t have kids yet, but I am amazed at how many of my younger cousins have no concept of how money works and don’t appreciate how much they have.
    Thanks!

  6. This is a great article. My little ones aren’t fully talking yet. (2 under 2) But I do try to use logic with my oldest as much as I can. The thing we’re learning now is more about material possessions and the idea of generosity. I want my kids (and me too) to learn that spending less is not just to save (like you said above) but also to give to those that have less. i started to talk a bit about this in a previous blog post. (http://burningbushes.org/?p=39)

    anyway, i love your thoughts and will start employing them soon.

    Nicole´s last blog post…Everyday…Redeemed

  7. Hi Maya – What a fabulous post. I love the part where you said, “Teach your child about wonderful ways to have fun without spending money.”. When I was growing up, we spent a lot of time outdoors. It challenged our imaginations and thinking back, those were some of the best memories.

    Barbara Swafford´s last blog post…What Benefits Does Your Blog Provide?

  8. LOVE IT. What great advice!! We will be covering this for family night this coming week. My kids have been struggling to understand the money thing……and understanding that just because we may have enough money for something…it doesn’t mean that we SHOULD spend our money on it. Thanks for the terrific article!

    sarah´s last blog post…Y.O.E.

  9. Hi Maya, I loved your article!
    After reading it this afternoon, I tried it out on my 2 yr old son. As he was having his snack I said,
    “Where’s Daddy right now?”
    “Work”
    “Right! And because he is at work, he comes home with money…then we can buy the food we are eating right now with that money. Isn’t that great?”
    “Yes! Thank you Daddy for working!”
    So, though the money part may have been lost on this little two year old– a message of generosity was taught through storytelling! Thank you for the inspiration!

    Lisa Byrne´s last blog post…Are you getting enough primary foods?

  10. avatar
    Melaniesd says:

    My son is 3 years old. We have always put any money he recieved as gifts into his piggy bank. We save the money from returning our recyclables into his piggy bank too. He has never spent his money before. This week we rolled up what was currently in his bank and he had near $30.00. He really wanted Gordon the Train to go with his wooden train set. I suggested that he could buy it from HIS money since he had been such a good saver and had been helping mommy by making his bed and feeding the doggies. He thought this was so special! Off we went to buy Gordon this morning. He told the clerk that he was buying the train with HIS money and that he makes his bed cause he’s a big boy! The clerk got a big kick out of it. It made my son feel so good about his train. We put what he had left back into his piggy bank so that he can save for another train later on.
    We have not started an allowance yet and probably won’t until he’s 5. At that time I’ll encourage him to save a certain amount for giving, saving & spending.

  11. This is great! I’m a BIG fan of teaching kids to be frugal. I’m an admitted coupon-aholic and I laugh when the kids ask if they can get something at the store, and then answer themselves with, “Oh, darn, it’s not on sale.” I think it’s good for them to wait to buy something they really want–till the price comes down or until they’ve earned the money themselves. Often things they think they have to have aren’t so important if they have to part with their OWN money to get it.

    Dara´s last blog post…A Little Heat for January

  12. A great post!! I need to figure out how to send a link to my daughter? She’ll really appreciate this, too!! She’s in the midst of going green and is a SAHM.

    bfs ~ “Mimi”´s last blog post…Wordless Wednesday

  13. we do the same thing around here and it does work amazingly well! but i do have to laugh when my 2 year old informs daddy that “daddy go work – make money so buy toys.”

    they get it.

  14. I like the way you share your smarts through stories.

    Storytelling is powerful.

  15. Thanks for this great article!

    One important value that I try to instill in my kids is to appreciate the importance of not wasting resources and related to that – frugality (as in to be mindful of how we spend our money).

    In addition to the points mentioned here, I also talk to my 4yo and 2yo about the plights of less fortunate kids who may not have enough food, books, clothes and toys because their parents may not be able to afford them. They always want to know why these parents cannot afford more.. so we discuss where money comes from, and why we must help others and not waste what we have etc.. We talk about sharing our things with others who may not be as fortunate, of donating to charities etc..

    Now my kids stop talking about throwing away toys and books that they don’t like anymore and often talk about giving them away to other kids who may not have as much.

    Domesticgoddess´s last blog post…New Art School

  16. SHOP THRIFT STORES! There are so many lessons learned in thrift stores! I’m currently working with Denver Goodwill to use my daughters elementary school as a springboard to launch a new program of field trips to thrift stores.

    My girls love thrift because they can afford it! Children want spending power too! How sad it is that today a $5 allowance buys squat or junk that falls apart the day of purchase.

    CHILDREN WANT SPENDING POWER! Take them thrifting and they can buy sweaters, CD’s, purses, books, jeans, jewelry, scarves, shoes, dresses, etc and do this with THEIR OWN MONEY. The children are empowered. They don’t need help and often they don’t want it.

    Many years ago when oldest daughter was four, she received $5 from a grandmother and was so thrilled to have her own money to spend. Stupid me took her to a major discount retailer. (This was before I got smart and started thrifting.) Her shoulders slumped when she saw the prices and seeing your child’s shoulders slump is heartbreaking. Mine slumped too and my heart sank. It was a giant let down.

    Let’s teach our children how to spend as you go. Give them a healthy sense of purchasing power. If they always have to borrow from mom and dad then they’ll grow up borrowing.

    If grandparents must give them obscene amounts of money to buy a birthday gift, children will grow up spending obscene amounts of money.

    THIS IS ONE OF THE HARDEST PARTS OF PARENTING, your children are always watching and learning lessons you don’t think you’re teaching. Remember that when you go shopping or when you buy a $200 pair of jeans.

    Best,
    Shopping Golightly & now Mommy Golightly

    Shopping Golightly´s last blog post…Children Want Spending Power Too!

  17. I love your idea of using stories to teach small children! Sometimes the children can teach us too … we had planned to take our grandson to the toy store on a beautiful Saturday morning to get a new board game. “Oh grandma!” he replied “do we HAVE to go to the toy store? Can’t we stay here and play with the helicopter leaves?” He taught me to look at what we had been given right there – a gorgeous day with time to play outside instead of heading to the mall … and in his little mind, it had nothing to do with being frugal but everything to do with getting the one resource he has so little of … playing outside!!!

    Mary´s last blog post…A different idea for using your emergency fund …

  18. I like the cause and effect idea here. I want to raise my kids to question things, and figure out why something is, instead of taking anything at face value. This might be a good way to develop that habit early on!

    I think that you’re a creative person Maya. You seem to come up with a lot of original, common sense approaches to things.

  19. I think we all do well with stories. It is a powerful to take ourselves out of our heads, and into a new world. Of course with stories it helps when there’s a moral of the story. ;) This is such a perfect way to teach kids about the value of money.

    Great one Maya! :)

    Nathalie Lussier´s last blog post…55 Green Budget Tips to Show Nature You Love Her

  20. This is wonderful– thank you. My oldest is 2.5 and I lead a pretty frugal lifestyle, but had no idea how to start to teach him our penny pinching principles. I’m excited to put these techniques to use!

    Cara´s last blog post…Have a heart: Repurposing for Valentine’s Day

  21. Hi Maya,
    While my “little ones” aren’t so little anymore – they still relate to stories. And they also relate to outcomes. As in – we don’t need that toy, or that extra snack, or that bigger television – because if we buy those things, then we might not be able to go on a big vacation. This is an example that has worked really well – as we’ve decided that one of the things we want to give our children are experiences. And that comes through visiting and exploring places outside of our area we’re in. And they seem to get this. This idea that we ca forgo some of our ‘wants’ now for some of our real desires down the road.

    Lance´s last blog post…Sunday Thought For The Day

  22. nice blog! helpful tips…thanks!

    jona´s last blog post…Paying Post

  23. Hi
    great post. I wrote about teaching kids about the world with some thoughtful travels – please read

    James Dunford Wood´s last blog post…Bodrum Cup Race, Aegean Region, Turkey

  24. Excellent! I just tweeted a link to this as I think teaching what is important in life and how to live a good frugal life needs to start young!

    We are 3 years into an open ended world tour and use many of these things with our child. We thrive on living large on little and find an extraordinary simple, green, fulfilling & free world-traveling life with an emphasis on education, creativity, connection and family bonding costs much less than most realize.

    We travel the world on 25K a year total costs & have been to 4 continents & 29 countries so far. I want my child to know that traveling and connecting with others from around the world is easy today and costs little or nothing.

    Stories and books add so much to a child’s life and help impart ones values. Combining that with hands on, experiential learning like life as a field trip and the possibilities are endless for our global citizens of the 21st century!

    soultravelers3´s last blog post…Family Travel Photo-Spain

  25. Hey, Maya!
    I am aspiring dad trying to rise my two daughters by values. While money is not in our values list it is important to explain them what money is all about.
    I loved your story a lot and “Share a story about the life-cycle of money” is my favorite. I am big fan of life-cycles of anything ;)
    Thanks for sharing.

    Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com´s last blog post…Program Yourself For Extremely Fast Performance

  26. I love #4. It also teaches the child that they too, are special. Explain how special their “one of a kind” creation is, and how their may be thousands of the same item in the store. The comparison may help add perspective.

    larzini´s last blog post…larzini: @switzke Glad you liked them, l;ooking forward to the CD, thanks for mentioning @storytellingmag over at supervillain, http://is.gd/jaTs

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