Freedom to fly (or fall)

As you begin this week, may you remember to hold your children loosely, with open hand and outstretched fingers, rather than white knuckles and clinched fist. School’s out, days stretch long, and it’s an ideal time to explore…discover…seek adventure. While I’m encouraging you, I need to encourage myself just as strongly – I’m living in (read more…)

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Everyday mentors and village people

I was a bystander this time, an observer, learning a lesson again I am so quick to forget: Words are powerful and persuasive and have the capacity to change lives. I know this, I even live it, but watching and witnessing a relative stranger speak wisdom into my teen son’s life, I saw it fresh, (read more…)

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Parenting teens: consequences, peer pressure and making a way out

Two painful truths I’ve learned in parenting teens are: good kids “do” (where the “do” manifests itself in many ways, shapes, and forms), and your children will make choices that disappoint you. This shouldn’t come as any big surprise, but when (not if) something happens, we’re still bewildered. Maybe all the signs were there, but you missed them.  Work (read more…)

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The importance of being current

A few years ago I learned an invaluable parenting lesson in the most unexpected of Life Classrooms:  a funeral. From the time I met her in the hospital, Teresa had always been in poor health.  In the few years I knew her, she visited death’s threshhold multiple times, always fighting back for more time.  She (read more…)

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The decision and indecision of parenting teens

More than an ocean had separated me from my children when I returned home from two months abroad; I wondered what re-entry would look like. Would we pick right up seamless and smooth, a comma punctuating our good-bye instead of a period? Or would it be a gravel road, pitted and pocked and jolting? I’m close (read more…)

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