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When Everything Seems Difficult

I recently took up weightlifting. The whys and wherefores aren’t relevant here, but just know that this is highly out of character—fitness and I have never really been friends.

And yet here I am, in an unfinished, unheated outbuilding, trying to squat down and stand up again with forty kilos balanced on my back.

The thing with weightlifting is it’s a raw example of deliberate practice in action—you get stronger by continually working at the edges of what you’re capable of.

The logical part of me understands that this is the way you grow the quickest; deliberately pushing your boundaries to force your body and brain to adapt.

The trouble is, it’s not that much fun. And it always feels hard. (It’s supposed to!) Maybe if you’re motivated by the reps and the weights and hitting a PR then that’s ok. Me? I’m more about finding contentment in the journey.

In my teens I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro and stopped one base camp away from the summit because I just wasn’t enjoying it anymore. I decided I’d rather hang out with a new friend and watch the stars above the cloud level than push through the oxygen depletion to reach the peak.

To this day I stand by that choice. I don’t mind doing hard things that have to be done, and I can appreciate the challenge of solving a tricky problem. But hard stuff for the sake of it being hard? Not so much.

The flip side of that, though, is spending your life at the same level, and still finding it hard. And that’s not great either.

Then one day during a warm-up, thinking with trepidation of the weight to come, I realized the weight I was now lifting, easily, was the difficult work set just a couple of months ago. And it hit me.

Don’t judge yourself by what’s still difficult. Judge by what’s now easy.

It sounds simple now I’ve thought of it, but this one principle has made a massive difference in my outlook, not just in the relatively straightforward world of weights, but in other areas too.

I’ve stopped looking at the new recipe gone wrong and thinking: Why is this still so difficult? Instead I think of the fact we have a different meal every day of the week, and that used to seem impossible. Now it’s a baseline.

So when I find myself in the midst of the difficult conversation, the new technique, or that last rep, my brain still screams: “This is hard! Why am I doing this to myself?” But now I can reply: “Yep. This is the one that makes the rest of it easy.”

The edges are still difficult; that’s ok. I’m working on making more things easy. Now that’s a goal I can get behind.

Katie Finlayson left behind the world of software development for the rather more unpredictable world of home educating her four children. She lives in rural mid-Wales and blogs at

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  1. Amanda Waters

    This is exactly what I needed to hear! I am terrible at not pushing myself, and I forget that growth and change require pressure. You put it so well!

    • Katie

      Thanks! Here’s to putting in the work to get to a bigger and better comfort zone 🙂

  2. Rainya Shingledecker Mosher

    I follow A Course in Miracles as best I can. Miracles pop up when you need them. If you can be aware, you notice them. This was my miracle today. 🙂 It resonates big time for my current Kilimanjaro Weight Lifing journey.

  3. Dawn

    Katie, I love that this is short, to the point, and yet potent! I have begun running (running and walking by the telephone poles on the side of the road ?) and I see these principles in action! We are often the worst critics of ourselves and forget to look back to see how far we have come. Thank you for the reminder ??

  4. robin shipman

    I love your line….. ‘Then one day during a warm-up, thinking with trepidation of the weight to come, I realized the weight I was now lifting, easily, was the difficult work set just a couple of months ago.’ Yes, yes, and again, I say yes! I am pushing myself in a national yoga certification program and after a physically intense yoga practice this morning instead of feeling discouraged I noted that poses that were nearly impossible for me a few short months ago, I am now holding with ease. Thank you for your encouraging words, ‘Judge by what’s now easy.’ Beautiful, heartfelt writing. Bravo!

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