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4 Days in NYC With My Teen

Last week, my daughter, Tate, and I finally checked something off our list: we went on a mother-daughter trip together.

We’ve told the kids for several years now we wanted to take them on solo trips when they turned 13, as a sort of rite of passage into teen/young adulthood. We’d explore a place together, have uninterrupted conversations, and make memories.

Tate’s actually closer to 14 by this point, but we still managed to squeeze in her trip during the year she called herself thirteen. We did it.

I was open to us planning a trip together, but she wanted to be surprised. All she knew was that sometime this year, I’d whisk her away, just the two of us.

When I picked her up on the last day of school before fall break, I handed her a tiny envelope — inside was this:

I told her she’d need to pack layers, bringing at least one sweater and her coat. I also added ‘swimsuit’ to her packing list, which accomplished my mission: it completely threw her off. She said, “I thought we might go to New York City, but since I need a swimsuit, I’m pretty confused now.” (The swimsuit would hardly take up space in her bag.)

Tate impressively managed to not know where we were going well until we were already on the plane — she purposely ignored the signs at the airport gate and plugged her ears when the airline staff made announcements both at the gate and on the plane.

She was thrilled when she found out our destination — we’ve been to the city before, but only for long weekend stints. We’d be there Monday through Friday!

Day 1

Our plane left the Austin airport at 6 am (ouch) and we landed around 10 am, which meant we basically had a whole day right away. But because we got only a few hours’ sleep (we had to arrive at the airport by 4!), both of us were fairly exhausted.

We took it easy our first day.

After we checked in to our guest house on the Upper West Side of Manhattan (we qualified to stay there because of other work we do), we grabbed lunch at Shake Shack. We have the burger joint in Austin, but we hardly go there. True to NYC form, we had to share a booth with total strangers… C’est la vie.

We then strolled through Central Park, only a block away from where we stayed. It was a perfect fall day, which, of course, made me say this multiple times.

Afterwards we explored the Museum of Natural History, on my to-do list for awhile. It was interesting, but admittedly a little outdated, and even out of the high tourist season, it was crowded.

(Hot tip: Buy your tickets in advance. I bought tickets on their website via my phone while we snaked through the eternal line, and got to jump out and go straight in.)

We then grabbed some coffee at Parliament, next door, then strolled through Central Park again because the weather was just too fantastic to ignore.

By this time, our feet were aching, but Tate said, “Will we get to see Times Square this week?”
“Yep, I said.”
“Oh good. But I want to make sure and see it at night at least once.”

So, I led us down there, leaving Central Park from the southwest exit and ambling down to Times Square by way of Rockefeller Center.

We stopped for about half an hour to watch ice skaters; Tate said she’d be cool with leaving once we saw three people fall down. (It actually took awhile.)

Finally, we made it to Times Square with the lights lit, and it made her happy which made me happy (I’m actually not a superfan of the lights and crowds there, but I like her).

We were famished by then, so we popped into Melt Shop and got a cheap (greasy, delicious) dinner.

Then we climbed the five flights of stairs to our guest house and crashed, hard.

Day 2

I let Tate sleep in every day; she’s a growing teen who needs a lot of sleep, and it was her fall break. Plus, we stayed out late every night, true to vacation in a city.

We walked two blocks to Le Pain Quotidien, one of my favorite chains in the world. I went for the avocado toast (gluten-free) like the grownup I am; Tate opted for the Belgian waffle with chocolate and hot chocolate to drink. Of course she did.

Next on the agenda was a bit practical: I’d lost my beloved Allbirds in London a few months ago (long story) and I knew there was a brick-and-mortar store in Soho, and Amazon had a store across the street (I needed to replace my portable phone charger).

Bonus: I saw At Home in the travel section! Super fun — they don’t carry many books, so I take it as a compliment.

We wandered Soho the rest of the afternoon, popping in and out of shops (side note: it’s so entirely fun when kids are finally at an age where they actually prefer this!), then we window shopped through Chinatown.

Thanks to a heads-up from a Twitter follower, I booked a tour through the Tenement Museum, and I am so glad we did. It was one of the highlights of my time in the city.

Located in real apartments, this museum tells the stories of immigrants who started their lives in Manhattan’s Lower East Side. These historic tenement buildings housed over 15,000 working class immigrants from over 20 countries.

We took their newest tour, called Under One Roof, about three different families who lived in the Orchard Street building: the Epsteins from Poland, right after World War II; the Saez family from Puerto Rico during the 60s; and the Wong family from China during the 70s and 80s.

It was so good, and our tour guide, Kirk (from Austin!), was even better. They’ve got a virtual tour online, if you’re curious.

Thanks to another Twitter follower’s suggestion, we then had blueberry pancakes for dinner at Clinton St. Baking Company for dinner, then walked through Chelsea Market and the High Line before taking the subway back to the Upper West Side for the night.

Day 3

By now we had walked approximately 18,374 miles, so it was time to take it a bit slower. Touristy as it was, we had brunch at Ellen’s Stardust Diner, and Tate was absolutely enamored. Singing waitstaff! While they refill your drink! (She’s in a youth theater company this fall, so she’s into this stuff right now.)

Then came the moment I’d been giddy about for months: I surprised her with Hamilton tickets! Kyle and I went the last time we were in the city, I was eager to see it again as soon as we left. Tate, like many teens (and adults! who are we kidding) has been obsessed with Hamilton, so she was squirming in her seat the whole time we were in the Room Where It Happened.

We left with a Broadway high, so even though I was thinking of doing this the next day, I asked Tate if she’d like to see something else. “YES!” she said, before I finished the sentence. So we got in line at TKTS.

Thanks to Twitter yet again, we snagged half-off day-of tickets for Puffs. I hadn’t heard of this off-Broadway musical, but was bummed to miss out on Harry Potter & the Cursed Child (holy $$$, Batman), so I hoped this was a good partial solution.

While we waited for showtime, we wandered the famous NYC Public Library (At Home is still in the system!), Grand Central Station, then hopped back on the subway to grab cheap bowls of Ramen at a tiny Japanese place near the theater.

This gave us the giggles — we sat right by the menu posted outside and this one woman read it studiously.

Turns out, Puffs is a complete delight. We loved it! Now, it’s not little kid-friendly — there’s quite a bit of swearing and sexual innuendo, which I’d have appreciated a heads up about, seeing as Potterheads span all ages. I felt badly for the parents in front of us who took their boy who looked about 8.

But it really was hilarious. We appreciated seeing a polished, phenomenally successful Broadway play, followed soon after by an off-Broadway play in its infancy, still getting its feet wet. All the props to hardworking actors and production teams who make these shows the magic they are, day after day.

Day 4

This was our coldest weather forecast — high of 45 degrees Fahrenheit! — but I knew we needed to spend it in Brooklyn. So, we grabbed quick bagels at the Zucker’s near our guesthouse, then took the subway to Brooklyn, where we spent a glorious late morning at DUMBO.

We wandered around the waterfront, strolled the ubiquitous charming brownstone neighborhood streets, and yep, rode Jane’s Carousel, because who says we’re too old for that?

We also happened upon a filming of Broad City at Brooklyn Ice Cream Factory!

Then we got in line to wait about 30 minutes in the chilly air to dine at the famous Juliana’s Pizza, and it was worth every second of the wait. Read up on the history, but in short: it’s rated #1 for pizza on Yelp (as in, for all pizza), and Zagats currently rates Juliana’s as the best pizza in all of NYC.

(You can bet we said this in line repeatedly.)

We were stuffed post-lunch, so we walked if off by exploring classic Brooklyn neighborhoods, hitting up a few thrift shops, then walking along the promenade back to DUMBO.

We’d planned to walk across the Brooklyn Bridge for sunset, but by now, we were exhausted. So. much. walking (which, for the record, I love!). Instead, we stood for a bit to watch the fading sun from the waterfront (views of Lady Liberty!), then took the subway back to Manhattan.

(Side note: I seriously want to go back to Brooklyn during the weekend, to hit up both Smorgasburg and the Brooklyn Flea. Next time…)

I wanted her to see the 9/11 Memorial, so we walked a bit through the financial district before heading to the Oculus and grabbing juices for dinner. We both felt the need after our heavy lunch.

The next morning, we grabbed a quick breakfast at Lenwich before heading to the airport, where we flew to Charlotte for Nest Fest and the Popcast Live (where I was on their death panel).

We were both sad to leave this city we’ve grown to love… After a week of dreaming and scheming ways to afford living there, we felt like we left a piece of our heart there. Tate says she’d like to move there after school, but then again, she’s also said that about Hawaii, London, Paris, Italy, Australia, and New Zealand, so who knows… She’s her mother’s daughter.

A few final thoughts:

I adore and am completely dependent on the CityMapper app, for all cities with a great public transportation system. I used it both in London and NYC, and it’s magical.

The subway really is easy-peasy. Not quite as clean as the Tube in London, but we had zero issues getting around.

I used Lyft for getting to and from the airports (in Austin as well). Great service, good employee reviews.

Wear good shoes. (I’m such a fangirl of Allbirds.)

Dress in layers — you’ll be freezing as the wind hits just so, then you’ll want to melt as you head down to the subway station with zero air circulation.

How about you — what’s your favorite thing to do in NYC? Or have you ever taken one of your kids on a one-on-one trip?

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  1. Ale

    Loved seeing your itinerary – thank you! We are headed to NY with our boys (10 and 11) next month. We have booked a Hamilton Tour and also bought tickets to Puffs. Apparently, the matinee is more cleaned up. I am definitely going to look into the Tenement Museum – looks awesome. And…will definitely check out the Citymapper app too.

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      Good to know about the matinee! I didn’t know that… And yes, Tate loved the Tenement Museum! Such great hands-on history.

  2. Louise

    This made me tear up – what a lovely thing to do with Tate! My mum turns 60 and I will be 30 next year and we’d like to do a weekend in Europe somewhere together (we’re UK based so not as insane as it might sound).

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      Oh, so fun! Yes, you totally should.

  3. Janette

    Hi Tsh! I love this post because it reminded me of the few mother-daughter trips to NYC I’ve taken with my mama. I think our first was when I was about Tate’s age. She’ll never forget it!! The Tenement Museum seems amazing and makes me think of a favorite book called A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Davis. Have you read it? It’s fairly slow and not necessarily plot driven, but is a coming of age story about a young girl in early 1900s New York. It’s a really lovely story & fascinating to think of NY around that time. And finally, I hope you enjoyed the pancakes! That was a mother-daughter stop for me the first time I went. ❤️

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      Yes, I thought of that book quite a bit during our time there!

  4. Aimee

    Thank you for this post, Tsh!

    My seven-year-old has been begging for the past year for me to take him to the Statue of Liberty. We told him we would make a family trip to celebrate when we are totally debt free – FREEDOM! 🙂 It looks like we are coming up on this milestone in the next few months. I’ve never been to NYC but your post makes me even more excited to share this city with him and gives me some great ideas on places to visit.

    Our trip will probably be shorter and more simple in some ways, but I’m curious how much you budgeted for this trip, if you don’t mind sharing?

    Thank you for giving us so much wonderful information about your trip!

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      I mean… NYC is just expensive. It’s my least-favorite thing about it. The nice thing is that walking around is free, and it’s a great city for just exploring in that way! We stuck with no fancy meals, picked only a few things to actually spend money on (theater, Tenement Museum), and a did minimal shopping w/ no real classic souvenirs. That helped.

      This is a place where the just being there is part of the magic, you know? I definitely don’t feel compelled to do All The Things, b/c that’s when it really adds up. So, just think about the top priorities for you, channel your funds there, and do frugal the rest of the way.

    • Lisa

      I have made several trips to NYC (before children) and second Tsh’s suggestions to decide what you want to splurge on. My sister and I stayed in a Red Roof Inn in Little Korea that was about the size of a closet! Seriously, only one person could fit to walk between the end of the bed and the wall! But all we did was sleep in the hotel. We walked everywhere, took the subway for longer jaunts and spent our money on tickets to plays and other touristy things like the Statue of Liberty. We had a good dinner in Little Italy but it wasn’t overly expensive. Set an alert on travel sites to catch good prices on plane tickets. I think you can definitely have lots of fun on a budget. It’s certainly no more than many people spend on theme parks!! 🙁 Have fun making memories!!

  5. Sheila DelCharco

    I’m planning a mother-daughter trip with my 18 yo. I’ve only been to NYC once for a wedding and there’s so much to see/do! Your trip will be helpful for planning ours! Thanks for sharing!

  6. Sheila DelCharco

    I am planning a NYC mother-daughter trip with my 18 yo. Since I’ve only been to the city once for a wedding, it’s hard to decide what to do! Thanks for sharing your trip! It will help me in planning mine.

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      I’m so glad!

  7. Karrie

    Would love to know which allbirds are your faves.

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      I legit love all 3 styles: the runner, the skipper, and the lounger, and I get the ‘tree’ kind instead of the wool, since I’m in Texas (I think the trees are warm enough because the inner soles are still wool).

  8. Gina

    My daughter and I did this last Spring to NYC and had such a wonderful time. I’m curious how you knew about where to eat or if you happened upon many of these places. I understood about the pizza in Brooklyn but I find this the hardest thing about NYC – trying to coordinate where I want to try for restaurants with where we are in the city at meal time…if that makes sense. We had a gorgeous day walking around SoHo and a terribly rainy one exploring Oculus, subways and Bloomies. So glad you had this special time!

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      The first way I get recs: I ask! Either on Twitter or a random, nice-looking Jane on the street. People love to give local-fare advice. 🙂

      The second way: the Yelp and TripAdvisor apps. I’ve had great luck finding good stuff with them, especially since with Yelp I can toggle ‘current location’ and find stuff on the go.

      The third way: I plan in advance in using good ol’ Google. So, if I know I’ll be in midtown, for example, I’ll search something like ‘casual dinner in midtown NYC’ — there’s more reviews than I could possibly read! 🙂

  9. Kaye Lyssy Berman

    What a lovely trip with Tate! Thank you so much for sharing it with us! I can’t wait to visit the Tenement Museum next time I’m in NYC. I’ve never spent time in Brooklyn, have always wanted to and now it’s on my “must do” list. What a wonderful experience for you both!

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      Same! First time I went over to Brooklyn, and I’m so glad I did! Can’t wait to go back.

  10. Heidi

    How awesome is that? While you guys were doing NestFest, I took my 12-year-old daughter to Asheville for a few days. We had a blast, meeting up with friends, hiking, touring the Biltmore estate, and turning a wooden bowl with our hosts! We both ate tons of great food, poked around in shops, and read books. The best part was being able to talk without constant interruptions from the two younger siblings who stayed home with Dad. She’s a funny person when she’s not being shouted down by those two. It was terrific!

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      So fun! I love Asheville — such a great town.

  11. Hillary

    Love this post Tsh, and so timely! We’ll be heading there soon, although with a 9, 7, and 2.5 year old, so our trip will be bit different… I definitely like this idea of taking a teen at a time when they are that age!

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      I’ve been to NYC when our kids were roughly that age, and it’s still fun and do-able! 🙂

  12. Aubrey

    My husband and I (and our 3month old , at the time) went for a Fri-Sun trip to NYC last summer. I had always wanted to eat at Laduree, so we had breakfast there. Then we had a bookish day: a pilgrimage to Strand and a visit to THE ACTUAL POOH BEAR at the public library. I was the biggest nerd in there–as soon as I saw Pooh I burst into tears. For lunch we went to Ivan Ramen, which had been featured on Chef’s Table (we’ve been ramen snobs ever since my husband was stationed in Okinawa). Then we had those famous cookies from Levain–the one near Central Park, where we went for a walk with full stomachs. That was back when our baby could sleep anywhere so back at the hotel we brought her bassinet to the bar and had cocktails while listening to live jazz. It was the best quick trip I’d ever been on.

    • Tsh Oxenreider

      That sounds so lovely! Yes to Laduree, yes to the Strand and Pooh Bear, yes to ramen, yes to Levain (I had to throw away my partially-eaten one as we entered Hamilton, and I was so sad!).

  13. Sabrina Pursley

    I love this! I live in NYC and have three daughters (ages 3 and under). It made me so happy to read about your adventures here with your girl! 🙂

  14. Christine Bailey

    LOVE this! How special for you to do that with her. When I went recently with a girlfriend, we stayed with family in Astoria, Queens, and riding the ferry from there to Wall Street was one of our favorite things. And it was only $2.50 for a fare, just like the subway, yet totally clean and super nice! We got to sit on the open-air top deck and enjoyed every minute of the 35 minute ride past Roosevelt Island, under the Brooklyn Bridge, past the State of Liberty, etc. The other place I loved was Citizens of Chelsea – had an INCREDIBLE waffle there with dragonfruit panna cotta and hazelnut dust (I mean seriously?!) and the perfect matcha latte. Such a good brunch.

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