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The one thing that’ll help you really move on

As I write, I’m hovering somewhere over the Atlantic, sitting next to my 6-year-old daughter. In a few hours, we’ll land at our first stop in Europe. For the next 10 days, we’re collecting our belongings from our former life abroad in Turkey, saying goodbye to the places that matter most, and spending time with people we love.

We’re closing the door as best we can,—18 months later than we wanted, but it’s better than nothing. For us, it was worth the money and the time spent to travel this month, spending time together, and reflecting on what once was.

Our return to the States was quite sudden. We initially flew to the U.S. with return tickets for a month later—we thought we were only visiting, and then we’d head back to our Turkish apartment and life and, well, everything we knew. My son was born there, and my daughter had lived there since she was two. It was home to them.

My focus now is on closure. I’ve had time to percolate our sudden relocation this past year as I’ve slowly adapted to being an American parent: scheduled playdates, drive-thrus, SUVs, parents who micromanage their kid’s entertainment.

Last summer, our family went to a week-long workshop to helped us debrief from our life as expats, and then to move forward. At the end of the week, we met with the children’s specialist to talk about her how to help our kids adjust. She gave us one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard:

Cut the bungee cords.

Transitioning from one thing to another is like crossing a bridge. You’re in-between two worlds, moving in one direction, and in order to make it to the other side, you need to temporarily hover over deep water, which can be scary.

The problem is, lots of us are tethered to bungee cords—we’re still tied to where we left. As long as you keep it on, you’ll ricochet back, unable to really move forward. You’ll get to the other side of the bridge, only to snap back.

We were told to take off the bungee cords. The way to do this is to live completely wherever we are, in the present. Not ignoring the past, but not wishing we were there, either.

Living in present also means not pretending like the here-and-now is a waiting room for the next thing.

To be fully present is to give thanks for the past (no matter how dark), say goodbye to what once was, and to move forward. To enjoy the view where we are.

These ten days back in Turkey are us cutting our bungee cords. We won’t pretend we never lived here, nor that we had to suddenly move back to the States without our permission. It’s to say thanks and goodbye in the most literal of ways, so we can move on with where we are now.

This is true for all sorts of experiences, whether we’re living in a new country or watching our kids grow up. Much as we might long for the past, wishing we were back there won’t make it happen.

When we do that, we’re missing out on what’s around us right now.

Saying goodbye is painful. We’ve shed tears this week, and I’m sure we’ll share more. But it’s the healthiest way for us to move forward.

I’m thankful for the path we’re on. And we’re taking off the bungee cords.

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  1. Katie

    I really needed that! Thank you. It’s amazing what God has in store for us that we fail to see because we’re always longing for the past, or wondering what would happen if we made a different turn.

  2. Monica

    I’ve been an expat for 2 years, and will be for the foreseeable future, but some times are harder than others. This is a timely post for me, thank you for reminded us to live in the moment.

    • Monica

      “reminding” 🙂

  3. Andrew Walker

    Hi there. That’s a very nice sharing. Great story!

  4. Archer

    Beautiful post, Tsh. Cutting the bungee cord is hard, hard work. I like the reminder to live in the present. I’ve been reading Ann Voskamp’s book 1000 Gifts, so the concept of living in the present is really being reinforced right now. 🙂

  5. Kathy S.

    It’s good advice, nicely written, heartfelt, applicable to life here at the moment. Hope you have a good trip! Kathy

  6. Blondage

    At present we’re living in my hometown Karratha (a small mining town in the northwest of Australia) but we’re in the middle of a very slow process of transfering back to the city – 1700kms (just over 1100 miles) away.
    I’ve been bouncing back and forth between the city and Karratha all my life. I once worked out that I’ve never been in one place or the other for more than 18mths at a time. So Lucky and I have made the decision that with our son now here in the world, we need to put down some roots and stop playing the “What if we just move to ____ for a year?” The bouncing around has been, until now, motivated by money. But with a child’s future to consider, we’ve decided enough is enough. We now need to look more closely at what infrastrure is on offer instead of what financial opportunities are available. We’ve made a lot of sacrifices to save a large deposit for a house and now it’s time to focus on our family.

    Now it’s time to cut the bungee cord.

  7. Corianne

    I moved back to Europe after having lived in the US for 3.5 years. The transition was HARD, mainly bc I didn’t want to start all over, make new friends, creating a home, etc. It took me a trip in May back to where I had lived in the US to really find closure and say the proper goodbyes, but also to embrace the season that was before me. With every end comes a new beginning, Ann Voskamp said, and it is so true. The embracing was just as important to me as the closure.
    After that, I came back with a fresh perspective and energy to start living ‘ here’.
    I don’t want to leave all of the experience of having lived abroad behind, right now I’m trying to merge to different ways of living into one new way, keeping the good, leaving out the bad. It helps me to be thankful for the experiences I’ve had, to savour the good and say thanks for them, and to freshly approach the future, incorporating both my first culture and the new culture I learned.

    • Tsh

      Wise words. Thank you for sharing.

  8. jewel

    You had a nice post..It’s amazing what God has in store for us that we fail to see because we’re always longing for the past..

  9. Joey Espinosa

    I love the last line about moving forward and being on the journey. This is so familiar, since we’ve been in a transition ourselves. We’re actually past most of the transition, but the process through it was so hard. So often we just felt alone.

    A year ago I was saying, “I wish I could just fast forward so I could look back.” But now I realize that the process / journey was the main point. God was/is growing me.

    (Without making this comment too long, I wrote more about that here:

  10. Nicole @ Burning Bushes

    We’ve started praying a prayer in the mornings like this…’God, today is ___(insert date). The only two things we know we have are YOU and this moment, today. Help us live fully today, here in this place and do all You have for us in this moment.’

    I can tend not so much to look back but to look too far forward and miss the gift of NOW. Prayers lifted that God will bring encouragement on your journey and give just a little glimpse of how He’s working it all out for your good and His glory.

  11. Emily

    Thanks Tish,
    I remember wearing the bungee cord for two years. Finally, when it was clear to me that we werent moving back, I decided that I didnt want to be unhappy anymore. So, I finally cut the cord. It always amazes me that some people can seemingly move place to place and it doesnt effect them emotionally. For me, it was a big deal. Also, your post is valuable because I couldnt find much on the internet about feeling that way. Most homesickness articles are for college students. Thx

  12. Shelia Butler

    Great post — both inspiring and practical. I am working so hard to let something go and your words have encouraged me to stay the course and live the life I am in.

  13. Jennifer

    This post has come at the perfect timing. We moved at the end of May from MI to KY. I am a borned and raised MI girl. This is the hardest thing I have ever done and somedays I feel so lonely. I know that I need to accept God’s will for our family right now and embrace this new life but I am stubborn and I keep fantisizing about MI. The funny thing is that MI was not perfect at all. I need to cut the bungee cord and be present in the here and now! Thank You!!

  14. Sara Schwab

    So insightful. Thank you, I’ve needed this lately. My husband has a job where we move every 2-3 years (so far) and you’ve inspired me to be more “fully there.”

  15. Marla Taviano

    I prayed for you just now, Tsh. For you and your pretty little travel buddy, and for the menfolk you left behind. Hugs!

  16. Katie

    My husband is a pastor and with that there is always a feeling of transition. We have never lived close to family and there is always a deep desire to be closer. This post hit the nail on the head. I am really thankful for it.

  17. Candice

    Thank you for your post, I almost felt a bell go off in my head when I read it. We moved 7 years ago from the West of the US to the South (not as big of move as you, but still very difficult for us). It was really hard at first, simply because I couldn’t let go of my previous life. I feel much better now, I think because of what you said, I embraced my life here, instead of wishing it could be something else. Cutting the bungee cords is amazing advice. I will remember this, just in case we ever move again.

  18. Audrey @ Mom Drop Box

    I have a hard time with living in the moment and not projecting into the future, so I like your comment about this not being a waiting room for the next thing. This is it, here and now.

  19. Pam

    Perfectly on time for me! I’ve only made one move in my life and my kids haven’t made any, so it didn’t connect with me on that level…but oh my word. I have two teenage boys (with girlfriends) and I’m having such a hard time finding a good balance. This was so very helpful to put it all back in perspective for me! Thanks!

  20. Kay

    I’ve had some tough moves and restarts, too, Tsh. And I know the feelings you are experiencing oh so well. Your post is beautiful and meaningful. And your children’s counselor is wise.

    You probably already are familiar with this scripture, but I wanted to offer it to you and other readers today. It has helped me to cut the bungee cords at times:

    “Do not call to mind the former thing, or ponder things of the past. Behold I will do something new, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.” (Isaiah 43:18-19)

    Those verses were especially significant and encouraging to me when I made our last move to Arizona. I’m used to tall pine trees, lots of green, and rolling hills. But it wasn’t just the geography of Arizona that looked like desert to me. The future looked dry and boring and hard. But God has truly made a beautiful road in the desert and springs of His grace have sprung forth where I thought that was impossible. Be encouraged. God has good things in store.

    • Corianne

      Wow, the same scripture spoke to me tons in times of transition, and especially in the ‘closing times’. Thank you again for sharing that one!

    • Sara Spencer

      Thank you, Kay, for that word! I’ll take that to heart too.

  21. Shannon Wheeler

    Wow – I needed your words today about this. I’m SO wearing a bungee cord. We’ve been back from Ukraine for a month, from a precious visit with a boy we hoped to adopt but who cannot ever be adopted now that he’s “aged out.” My heart has been so stuck in Ukraine. I am having a hard time being present, and I can feel that, but I hadn’t been able to really put words to it as well as you did. I’m praying for your family, as you move forward into the next place God has you, and I’m praying that God will use what you’ve shared to help me cut those cords that are keeping me from being ok with my heart being fully here, when there’s a boy we promised to be family to across the ocean.

  22. Lucinda

    That is so wonderfully said! I lost my husband 5 years ago and have had such a battle within myself. Reading your post made me stop and think if maybe that is not what I’m doing. Just holding on to the past! Thanks for sharing that.

  23. Kim a.

    Love this post! Thank you! We are constantly helping our students and staff (and us and our kids) transition as they return from missions trips local and abroad. I am starting to make ‘transition bridges’ with my kids. Where we write down some key things that happened and that hold us to the past and some things we are looking forward to in the new place. We write them out on strips of paper and lay them out like a bridge so we can walk over it….moving to our new place and time. I think adults probably need to do this as much as kids 🙂

  24. Mary

    I could so relate to this post. I lived in southern Europe for 7 years and three of my children were born there. I cried when I left Italy and thought I’d never get over my love of that country. Then I fell just as hard for Spain. My kids were all in preschool when I came back to the states but all of them want to travel in Spain very deeply.
    On another note, I hated our starter home though we lived there for almost 10 years. The new buyers saw it so differently and used the little money they had to fix it up with mostly love (for example, they painted a quilt on the wall at the end of the dark hallway). The house sprang to life and they sold it a year later for a bigger profit than we did! I loved it – it taught me to embrace where you are. Thanks for reminding me of that today!

  25. Shauna

    Great post! My family just recently moved across the country from everything my children have ever known and we are doing our best to adapt. I’ve lived by these ideas as long as I can remember. Whether it was the move from small hometown to college, from college to adult working life, from my first solo living to moving abroad, from moving abroad to moving back to my parents with a new husband in tow and now from leaving the comforts of “home” to building a new home for us without any other support. It’s important to remember your past but completely embrace the present. We get out and do as many activities and sight-see and get involved as much as possible. Good luck with your journey.

  26. Missy June

    Oooh – it really hit me that I’ve been considering this season of my life (recently singled mother of three) as waiting room for my “real” vision. There is such lack in that sentiment and the value of now is being wasted. Thank you for the hard but true determination to live fully now!

  27. Rob

    great metaphor.

  28. Lynn

    As a missionary’s kid, this lesson is the hardest one I ever had to learn – and the most important. I can’t live in the past, I can’t live in the future. I have to live in the here and now.

    Thanks for this post!

  29. karen

    Thanks for this post. It’s definitely something that struck a chord with me.

    Just so you know, I did write a post about some thoughts I had from this one, but did link it back to you. Thanks again!

  30. Laurie

    Praying for you!

  31. rae

    my husband and i relocated to kingston, jamaica after spending 10+ years in brooklyn, new york. i anticipated waves of homesickness and moments longing for all that we left in brooklyn…and although there are those fleeting moments, they do not happen frequently nor are they intense. i have embraced this move with my entire being and it has been made clear to me time and again that we are in the right place…we are on the right path…we are supposed to be here. it is a beautiful feeling!

  32. Sharon Ankerich

    I LOVED this post~ we are in a situation that we feel we are being called toward so tend to live in limbo~ loved reading this as it makes me realize we need to live the here and now~ tomorrow will take care of itself. I posted to my FB page but gave you full credit~ thank you so much for sharing!!!

  33. Vicki

    Our family moved to Canada a few weeks ago and we are very homesick. I’ve never been outside the US and I know it doesn’t seem like much but moving 3,100 miles is a ton!
    Thank you for posting this. I think it ws perfect timing for me. 🙂
    Grace and Peace,

  34. Sage

    Good analogy. I think we can all relate to dragging something behind us–past hurts, past relationships, old ways of thinking. Thanks for the reminder that the only way we can move forward and truly embrace the goodness in our current lives is to cut the ties with the past. I’ll be mulling this over all weekend.

  35. Melody Ann

    A good analogy for me too. thanks for sharing. blessings on your journey and may it be more than you imagined it could be for the healing/closure you’re seeking.

  36. Maggie

    This is a nice post, but it is so much easier said than done from my experience.
    We are living in the US right now and in the beginning I was all for making a life here however long, but since about three years I am in transition and so ready to go back to my home.

  37. Mrs.B

    Needed that too.

  38. Luanne

    I really appreciated this post. We moved to a new state last summer and our daughter is still wishing she was back there and has a grand plan to go back when she graduates high school next year. It makes me sad. I want her to live in the moment with us. I think one thing that keeps her there is facebook. I’ve tried to control as much as possible how much she’s on it, but she’s 17 and has access to the internet all day long. I wish I could eliminate it from her life but that’s not realistic I don’t think. I might share this post with her. Thank you.

  39. Nicole

    Huh. I’m definitely on the transition bridge. We left a ministry position this summer, stepping out in faith. We know God has something for us, its confirmed at every turn. We just don’t know what it is, how to get there, and what to do in the in between time. Thanks for your words.

  40. Joyful gal

    Oh THANK YOU so much for writing this :-). We move across country next week and I really needed your advice right now. I do not like moving, I get very attached to people and places and yet this move is really a blessing for me as we will be near my family (who I’ve been away from for 4 yrs). Maybe I sound like a complete wimp to some, guess I’m just old fashioned and I love living in the same community and really KNOWING my neighbors. Thanks again for your timely wisdom, I’ll be cuttin the cords…

  41. Sarah G @ JoyontheJourney

    Thanks so much for this post Tsh, like so many others, I found the words much needed. I’ve been in constant pain for over a year now, and no one knows why. It affects how I relate to my amazing husband, my precious toddler and even whether or not we’ll be able to have another tiny blessing. Sometimes I feel like my whole life has turned into an “in between”. In between appointments, test results, prayers, I have to remind myself that just because this wasn’t the plan I thought God had for our family doesn’t mean it isn’t an incredibly beautiful one. If I keep hoping for the life we had before pain invaded to return, I’m in danger of missing all the blessings that the pain has brought to our relationships with one another and God.

  42. 1hot&tiredmama

    WOW! I definitely need to cut that bungee cord. I have been so tied to our past, but not because of a physical move. My husband owned a business for 10 years that provided very well for us for those years. With the economic downturn, he closed his business and then was unemployed for 15 months. I was a SAHM at the time (and had been for 10 years). So financially — well, we we a little distraught to say the least. My husband has a good job now, but not as well-paying as before. I have also gone back to work part-time. I keep dreaming of “those days” when money was not a huge issue, when I was a full-time mom. I have been yearning for those days so much lately that I am not fully HERE! The truth is that God has always provided for us. Unlike a lot of folks, we have been able to keep our home and always put food on the table. I actually like my new job and feel like my work is meaningful. Yes, I would love to be with my children full-time, but God has provided a pretty good gig for me and I am still able to be home in the afternoons and evenings. I need to cut that bungee cord and quit dwelling in the past. I need to embrace all that is still so good in my life. I need to be grateful!

  43. Sara Spencer

    Wow, your post really hit home for me. My husband and I recently relocated from the US to Sweden. We spent the last 12 years in Portland, OR ( incidentally =) where my husband is from and now we’ve taken the step to live in Sweden for a while, which is where I’m from and where my family lives. The transition has been really tough with both culture shock and reverse culture shock. Even with family close I miss all that was and I don’t feel so Swedish anymore either. So many things has changed. You said; “not pretending like the here and now is a waiting room for the next gig”. Oh, that was for me. I keep waiting for the moment we’ll say, ‘let’s move back”. But as Christians that’s really up to God to tell us if and when that would happen. In the mean time I am seeing that I must live fully present, here and now. Tough to do, but your post really challenged me to think about this more intentionally. Thank you!

  44. Ted

    Wise words (and lovely sentences). Thank you.

  45. Maureen

    Well spoken, good words. We had two daughters move out this summer, leaving behind family adjustments and changes. “Wishing we were back there…” Ah, that rings true, yet, it is good they are growing up and I wouldn’t want them little for ever. …”missing out on the present, what is around us right now.” Again, so true. The boys still at home – we have some fun years ahead, and – once I get through this rough spot – I am looking forward to every moment of it. Thanks, a great post, carefully written.

  46. Candice Kingston

    Wow, it is crazy to read here not only your words, but those of others whom share this sentiment. We were expats in Chile for a year, and instead of staying for a total of 4-5 years, came back quickly due to some issues my husband had with his health. The limbo before we left, and now the limbo we are in now waiting to get back in to our house has put a strong weight on the bungee cords! The kids are fine, it’s me that is stuck in my nice little life in Santiago and the wonderful community I had there. I don’t want to forget it so I tend to dwell on it. I know I need to cut the cords, which includes the constant facebook surfing of all of my friends there! Thanks for this message!

  47. shelly walker

    I think you wrote this post for me! I have unknowingly been wearing my bungee cords for about 6 years now. Through relocating back to the US, beginning a career, meeting and marrying my husband, and having a child. Obviously my “old” life is no more. And now it is clear that I need to adjust my perspective so that I don’t miss out on the beauty of THIS life. Thank you!

  48. KazF

    Timely post Tsh.
    We moved 5 hours away from our family 7 months ago so Hubby could study fulltime for ministry. We went back to our old church last weekend when we were up there visiting grandparents. It felt strange, almost evil. This was the church where hubby was baptised, where he was confirmed, where we had gone to youth group together as teenagers so we could go on a date together, where his parents had married and were buried, where we had married and baptised our children, where he served on the sanctuary team and parish council including as rector’s warden, where I had run the playgroup and been parish secretary, where he had endured abuse as a child but did not let this turn him away from his calling, where some of our best friends were.
    We know now that we made the right decision to leave and follow God’s will for us. We have settled in our new town, feel loved and accepted, have thrown ourselves into church work and family, hubby into his studies and discernment, the kids into their new (church) school, and me into a job I love (outreach nursing – a ministry in itself!).

  49. katie @ Imperfect People

    Wow! How do you keep up with your blog so well with all that going on in your life!!?? I have been a follower of yours for a while now. I love every post but something about your personal life is just so interesting! Thanks for being transparent and sharing!

  50. Marith

    Oh, thank you, Tsh!
    This was a powerful post and really hit home for me.
    My transition bridge has been long (five years and counting) and my bungee cords seem exceptionally sproingy. Like many posters here, I moved to a remote place, leaving loved ones behind. Sadly, I’m often so busy looking back, crying and waving goodbye to friends and family, that I barely notice God has generously blessed me with a far-better new life. But with love and patience, he has more and more frequently been turning my gaze to the present.
    Thank you for your words of encouragement and wise council, Tsh. And for letting me know I’m not the only one.

  51. Nancy Madsen

    Thank you for such a sensitive post. I love having a visual to understand things I am feeling in life. At a time when I felt those bungie cords, I let them go, and it was a frightening thing to do. However, it was the best thing I ever did. I look back now on what was and there are still tears from time to time; however there is sweet reconciliation of all that has occurred that allows me to find joy in the present and hope for the future.

  52. Rachel @ The Travel Pen

    I appreciate this advice a lot. My husband and I have moved back and forth from East Asia a number of times (as singles and now as a family), and I find that I constantly feel pulled between “two different worlds”. We love living overseas and raising our daughter here, but we feel the loss of not being near grandparents and not having some of the things we love and value about American life/culture. Thanks for the reminder to live in the present and be thankful for what’s right in front of you.

    As for myself, I can see that I need to “cut the bungee cord” in the area of longing for the (probably false) sense of security that America offers – car seats, clean air, smoke-free transportation and restaurants, good health care, etc. We have chosen to have babies here in Asia, so I need to LIVE and not let fear get the better of me.

    Thanks for your post!

  53. Brittnie (A Joy Renewed)

    This is a great post. Cutting the cords of our past is HARD work although so needed if we truly want to fully live in the now of our life. We can potentially miss out on so much of our present life if we are only focused on what once was our reality. Thank you for these encouraging words – always good reminders no matter where we are in life.

  54. Kate

    Thank you for this post. We are in the midst of uprooting our family (again!) and heading to Africa. Amidst all the chaos right now, this is a great reminder to embrace the experience, and truly live it. Transitions are tough, but ultimately, we are lucky to have this experience!

  55. Laney

    This blog really touched me. My family is going through a very long transition time right now, starting up blogs, changing jobs, starting a business. We are looking at what God wants for us, but it is not clear. I forwarded this to them. Thanks for the inspiration.

  56. karen

    Oh, I can relate to this in the most painful of ways. Think we’re awfully close to cutting some bungee chords, and my heart literally hurts just thinking about it… Thank you for sharing your own heart… am hoping to hear more about your journey overseas and back again.

  57. Amy

    I understand but what practical steps can I take to find peace where I am right now when I so don’t want to be here?

  58. Criss

    Great reminder of an important lesson.

  59. Whitney

    Thanks so much for sharing so openly about the emotions of an international move. It really touches home with me, as my family is about to return to the US after living in Peru for 15 months. We are torn about leaving, and are unsure how to adjust to life back in the US. We are praying for a smooth transition, but I really appreciate your words of wisdom to help with the adjustment!

  60. MaDonna

    Transition is never easy, even when you want to make the move and have planned it. I liked that piece of advice, “Cut the bungee cord”. It is such a great picture word! We’ve had to cut that bungee cord many times as a family…life overseas, people coming and going, or us leaving. I am constantly reminded that “this is not our home”, and one day I won’t have to say “good-bye” to anyone or thing again. I don’t “know” you that well, but I pray that your next 10 days brings closure for you and your family. That you get to take LOTS of pictures to help you all remember your favorite things. That you get the chance to see all the people you want to, eat at all the local dives you’ve missed, and do get the scissors out to cut the cord; to close the door and get excited about what God has for you next. Also, I just pray for wisdom for you and your husband as your children will probably all deal with this process differently. Blessings!

  61. April Perry

    Beautiful post, Tsh! I’ve never lived abroad, but this idea of being present and living fully where you are applies to even the smallest decisions. I went carpet shopping today, and I was debating between the cheaper renter-friendly carpet and the luxury we’re-going-to-stay-in-this-house-forever carpet. Ideally, we’d like to move out in a couple of years and move on to some other goals we have, but I’m tired of the “temporary fixes.” I want to live like we’ll be here forever. Obviously, there are some places where it’s important to manage costs (and I do on just about EVERYTHING I buy), but little decisions like this carpet reflect more than just how I feel about home decor. Good luck to you and your family!

  62. Jade Tiu

    What a lovely story you got here. I love reading it.

  63. Erin Messing

    Thank you, thank you for this message. We moved overseas a few months ago and it has been a hard adjustment. However, I need to let go of my dreams of maintaining an American life here. It’s not going to happen. I must embrace life here. In a few years we’ll return to the States and a whole new round of adjusting will begin. For now, I am going to enjoy the moment and the life God has for us here.

  64. Lindsay Sledge

    Thank you for sharing Tsh. My family was stationed in Italy for two years when my daughter had an accident and we had to leave very suddenly and didn’t get to say goodbye to the life we made there. It was very difficult for everyone to readjust to being back in the states. It took a long time to get over it. This helps 🙂

  65. Kathryn Cross

    Thanks for this post, it was really timely for me to read as I’m going to be moving internationally in a few weeks. Just wondering if you had any advice for saying goodbye to toddlers. We’re going to be saying goodbye to my 3 year old niece with whom we’ve really had a close connection with over the past 2 years and I’m not really sure what to do. She’s too young to really understand what’s going on. Any ideas?



  66. Jessica

    yes, we’re leaving our house of 8 years, where i brought my son home…great advice.

  67. Charey Neal

    Tsh, my parents were missionaries in Burkina Faso, West Africa. That’s where I grew up and where I called HOME. It was very hard at almost 16 to move back to the States and adjust to life here…talk about culture shock! 🙂 But I’ll never forget Mama telling me that, “God never takes something away from us but what He gives us something even better in return.” When we’re living in the center of God’s will for our lives, wherever we are, there can be no place better to be…and no place better to be used by Him! God bless you and your family as you all navigate through the changes…and rest assured that you are RIGHT where God wants and needs you!

  68. Living the Balanced Life

    This was so perfect, yet tough for me. My bungee cords have nothing to do with moving, but with a time of life before. Before a mental and physical breakdown that has left me unable to live the life I had “before”. I spend so much time angry and grieving that life I had, that I am not fully present, even in the pain, to learn and understand what God may be trying to teach me in my NOW.
    Thank you Tsh!
    When depression comes knocking at your door

  69. Emily D

    Oh good heavens, I appreciate this post like you have no idea… From my professional life (seeing a long-time friend and coworker leave) to having my daughter prepare to leave for college – I have a lot of bungee cords in life. I appreciate your words and have TAKEN THEM TO HEART. Thank you, thank you, thank you…

  70. Faith Barista Bonnie

    Hi Tsh, I’ve been thinking about you since you posted this last week… I have not gone back since “it” happened. It took me 3 years to finally talk about it.. and now it’s over a decade. I don’t think I can do it yet. 😉 Just thinking about it is hard. I can’t wait to hear all about your journey there and back.. So courageous you’re doing it… ‘cuz I know the comfort you will receive .. you’re going to give it to others in your ministry of soul care. You’re in my thoughts and prayers too. *hug*

  71. Jennifer

    thank you for this post. we are moving back to the US in only 8 months after living abroad for 3 years. lots to process, indeed.

  72. Jennifer

    This posting has been sitting in my e-mail inbox for a couple weeks now. It’s been read over a dozen times. I’ve been thinking I really need to write Tsh and let her know how much this posting meant to me.

    Unfortunately, I don’t have the right words. I couldn’t possibly begin to explain the spark that this posting ignited in my heart. I couldn’t possibly describe the spiritual journey that I have been on since I read this. So all I can say is, God bless you and thank you for sharing such special and profound words.

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