I’m still slowly working my way through Tsh’s ebook One Bite at a Time and journaling my progress here. My favorite part of the book is that it can be done in any order, which is helpful for my oftentimes scattered brain.
Somehow there is so much mama guilt out there. Or rather, in here. For some reason, I’ve come to believe that not only do I have to do it all, but I have to do it all basically perfectly, and without complaint, hesitation, or even so much as a sigh.
And you know what? For a while I tried that.
And you know what? It didn’t work for long.
So this year, I made the decision to not put my daughter in preschool and instead use the money we would have allocated to her tuition to hiring a mother’s helper.
There are a lot of reasons (too specific and boring for me to bother laying out in detail here) why I made the decision, but part of it boiled down to the simple fact that by the time I did all of the load up, car seat buckling, unbuckling, driving to and fro, I would really only end up with a whopping one hour of unencumbered time.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized that was a very expensive hour. What I really needed was just an extra set of hands for a few hours per week. Someone to put the baby down for his nap and keep my 4 year old occupied while I did my part in the hybrid homeschooling program my son attends.
And if that someone could do a few simple household chores while she was at it, well, that would pretty much be heaven on mama earth.
After much hemming and hawing, back and forths, and heaping tons of guilt (Why couldn’t I just do this by myself? Other moms set up lavish work boxes for younger siblings to do during home school time…why can’t I? My grandmother would be appalled that I am hiring help! Ack!), I finally hired a mother’s helper.
Three months in, and it is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Here’s why I love it, and why you might want to consider hiring one yourself: