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  1. Aimee Wiley

    Oh, Maeve, this is beautiful. You are a lovely gatherer at hope*writers, and you are an equally lovely writer. Thank you for sharing this gentle encouragement with us.

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    • Maeve

      Aimee, thank you so much for reading and for your kind words. I am so touched. So grateful to be a hope*writer with you, to be walking this road together & helping each other along the way. xoxo

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  2. Joe'l Povolni

    Maeve,
    Thank you so much for sharing. So much of what you put into words expresses my heart as a fellow introvert, one who enjoys gathering people at my home and one who struggles with how much to share or not share and how there is never enough time to get everything right before the doorbell rings and guest have arrived. And I have experienced the messed up meals too. Your encouragement is beautiful!

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    • Maeve

      I am right there with you. Thanks for sharing so honestly too — it is a tension, a beautiful & hard tension to live inside. But it’s so worth it too and we are refined in the process. And for that, I am so grateful. Thank you for reading & offering here — your encouragement & kind words mean so much to me. xoxo

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  3. Laura Thomas

    Maeve, this speaks to my heart! “Be the invitation”- yes and Amen! I love everything about hospitality yet it’s such a struggle… but always, always worth it. Thanks for sharing—I’m a fellow hope*writer cheering you on!

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    • Maeve

      Hi Laura! Thank you for reading & offering such kind words of encouragement. I am cheering you on as well! You are right, it is always worth it! I feel that fullness once everyone leaves & I breathe it all in or we’re all crowded around the table together. It’s like a magic hovers above the space. So grateful for you! xoxo

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  4. Diane Muldoon

    Maeve…oh, Maeve….It is a struggle. I have hosted 80 people at holiday parties with antique quilts covering all the mess, even in the kitchen.
    People had a wonderful time and always wanted to come to our parties…Early on, I realized that if I could not be perfect, well, why try…
    No one likes perfect anyway.

    Every Wednesday night for 18 years I have hosted a quilting group. At first, I baked Irish soda bread and put out nice dishes. Then my husband… lay dying, paralyzed in bed. I asked my friends to come anyway and they did. Soon, they took turns with the treats and we served them all on mismatched paper plates. When my man died, I never made Irish soda bread again, but my friends still came and we still laughed. Now at my old age, I am raising my three grandchildren. My house is always a mess, unless the part-time nanny comes….but friends still come. After death, my priorities changed. I do not care any more about mess, I only care about love. Please invite me to your parties. xoxo

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    • Maeve

      Diane, your words are so beautiful and powerful. My goodness, I am incredibly inspired & so deeply touched. I’d like to read a piece on hospitality from you because I think you understand it in ways I don’t yet — thank you for your insight. “I only care about love” — that line hit a chord with me. Because isn’t that what people remember? It isn’t the delicious bread or fancy plates, it’s the way you make people feel. Thank you so much for reading & sharing a piece of your story here too. It’s blessed me so much. xoxo

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  5. Ronda

    I feel like we are twins on this. I feel the same way so many times – I love having people over but stress about it so much before hand. I loved what you said about our gifts require grit and sweat and patience reminding me if I’m going to use my gifts well it will take work. Thank you for sharing.

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    • Maeve

      Yes, we are cut from the same cloth Ronda! It’s such a balancing act — a willingness to surrender and let go of control. Which never feels that easy to do. Thank you for reading, I am so grateful & encouraged by your words!

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  6. Debra Laughlin

    Maeve,

    By the way, one of my favorite authors is Maeve Binchy from Ireland. I also struggle with perfectionism and it is EXHAUSTING. Many times it is a joy stealer and I have to fight it back! Great words and and solid message . Thanks

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  7. Dane Valerie B. Magaway

    “And sometimes, I don’t feel like being vulnerable.

    Because there’s that middle place, you know? The one that lands between small talk and going real deep. Where you’re not quite skimming the surface and talking about the weather but you aren’t exactly sharing all the mess and pain either.”

    —–on point! I could have never described it any better.

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