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  1. Seana Turner

    I love your point about not assuming the way I see the situation is the way the hurting person might be seeing and experiencing it. I often say that we never truly understand what we haven’t experienced, and in situations of grief, even though I may have been through something similar, it is NOT exactly the same. We really are all different, influenced by our backgrounds and worldviews. Presence is everything.

  2. Rita

    Really terrific advice! And thanks for the point to the Ring Theory article – very useful!

  3. LS

    I really like that ring theory. This summer I lost my husband. Suddenly. We went to bed one night and everything was fine. Normal. I woke up a widow. At 49. With 2 teenage daughters. And when my aunt called a couple days later she told me that when she found out it was the 4th bad news she’d heard that day. And she told me all about the other 3. I know she meant well, but I sat right there and lied about needing to go because my sister in law was at the door. Because who says that? And even though I know she didn’t realize what she’d done, it still really hurt and I didn’t want to say something I’d regret. Then I did a lot of dumping out to other people. Cause right then I was at the center.

  4. Linda Sand

    I was once the recipient of a prayer circle and it felt so good I had trouble admitting it when it was time to take me off their list.

  5. John A

    Real great advise, misinterpreting a situation can be a big no no specially to someone going through a tough time. Just comfort and have them in your prayers.

  6. Pamela List

    I work with people in crisis twice a week. They generally have very few friends as they are homeless or very poor. It can be isolating for them. I generally grab a few cold waters at the start of our meet-ups and just let them talk. There is no way I can fix all of there problems. It hurts but using tools like listening and not pretending I know how they feel are so hopeful. Many of my tools are how you treat a good friend. Anyway, great post. Happy Sunday!

  7. Kay

    This is such a helpful article, thank you so much. I also went over and read the other one too, it all makes so much sense. x

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