You’re made for a God-sized dream (and a giveaway)

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by Holley Gerth

Holley Gerth is a bestselling writer, certified life coach, and speaker. She loves connecting with the hearts of women through her popular blog and books like You're Already Amazing and You're Made for a God-Sized Dream. She's also cofounder of (in)courage, and a partner with DaySpring. Holley lives with her husband, Mark, in the South. Hang out with her at www.holleygerth.com.

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Note from Tsh: I first met my friend Holley Gerth several years ago, and every time I’m around this woman, I walk away a bit lighter. I’ve never met anyone so obviously blessed with the gift of encouragement, so I’m honored to let her encourage all of us a bit today. I absolutely love her newest book (and even ordered it for a friend or two as soon as I finished it myself!), and you’ll get a chance to win a copy at the end of this post. Read on!

Our world tells us to be independent. We’re supposed to “pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps” (whatever that means). We hear stories of heroes who seem to do it all by themselves. We read self-help books. Yet all of that is ultimately a myth.

We need other people. I do. You do. We need each other.

That’s especially true when it comes to pursuing a dream in our lives. So let’s talk about who can be on your dream team.

A mentor

There’s nothing new under the sun and wherever you’re going, someone else has already been there. Find someone who has pursued the dream that you have who can offer wisdom along the way. Or, if their journey isn’t the same path as yours, at least look for someone who has experience doing what it takes to complete a dream well: taking risks, building relationships, persevering.

Someone to encourage you

While a mentor is a few steps ahead of you, an encourager is someone who’s right by your side. Your journeys are somewhat parallel and she understands where you are now. You’re facing the same kind of struggles, celebrating similar victories, and when one of you has a bad day, the other can be a source of strength.

Someone you can encourage

We also need to pass on what we have to others. The person you encourage may just be starting out in her dream while you’re midway through yours. Perhaps she wants to grow in an area where you have experience. Or her spiritual faith might be just taking root while yours has gone a little deeper. Who can benefit from where you are now?

A cheering section

As I tackled a challenge, my life coach Denise Martin gave me the idea of setting up an “advisory board.” These women serve as a team who can review ideas, pray for me, and speak the truth to me no matter how hard it may be to hear at times. I love that each one brings a different perspective and their variety of strengths fills important gaps for me.

It’s just as important to know who not to have on your team. So let’s take a quick look at that, too.

  • Avoid negative people as much as possible. They will shoot holes in your dream, get you discouraged, and distract you with problems you can’t fix.
  • Be ready for the doubters. Many people will tell you that your dream is silly, foolish or will never work. Take those statements as compliments and proof that you’re disrupting the status quo.
  • Stand guard against bullies. One step past the doubters stand the bullies—those who intentionally oppose your dream. Again, if you’ve got bullies it’s a pretty good sign that you’re doing something significant.

You matter.If the idea of having people share in your dreams leads to thoughts of, “I don’t know who I would ask to be on my team,” then you’re not alone.

Most people don’t have a group like this in their lives. And we all go through seasons and circumstances, such as a move, that impact our relationships.

If you have even two people in your life you can confide in, including family members, that’s more than most Americans, according to research. Cultivating these kinds of relationships takes time and intention but is definitely worth the investment.

Being connected and getting the encouragement you need always starts small. One phone call. One email. One conversation. What’s your dream? And who will you invite to share it? They will be a gift to you. And by letting them be part of your dream, you’re giving them a gift too.

We need each other. And life is simply better when we do it together.

Win a copy

God-Sized-Dreams-by-Holley-Gerth-coverThe above is an excerpt from Holley’s book, You’re Made for a God-Sized Dream, and as part of our monthly book series, today Holley is offering TEN Simple Mom readers a chance to win a copy!

To enter your chance to win, leave any comment below this post. (If you’re reading this post via email, please click over to the original post and leave a comment on the blog.)

This giveaway is now closed. Check back on Sunday, March 31, for the winners!

Who do you need for your dreams to come true?

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Comments

  1. Wow, what amazing God timing!
    I was just talking to my husband tonight about the dream God is growing in my heart and how we can’t do it alone and how we needed to form a team of trustworthy people. Thank you for posting this tonight -just what I needed to hear!

  2. What a wonderful opportunity! :)

  3. I would love to win this book!

  4. Love this book Holley, and everything you do to foster the dreamer in us. I am dreaming bigger than I have in years and I love the voice of reassurance that comes from your cheerleading section!

  5. Wow, as a staffer at a church this sounds like an amazing read! Thanks for the giveaway.

  6. Wow, amazing timing! We just moved and I’ve been hungering for this kind of encouragement.

  7. I have been blessed with an incredible chain of support, from my partner to my favorite cousin, and friends who are family. Now I see the next generation rising up to join the circle, and I give and get support from my nieces and the children of my dear friends (and those “children’s” spouses. I am thankful every day.

  8. Loved the podcast with Holley. This sounds like a great book!

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    Segolene says:

    Sounds like just the right thing for me these days…

  10. I would love to read this book. After the podcast I tried to purchase it, but it’s not available in Australia yet.

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    Constance says:

    This post comes at just the right time for me. There are several changes I am making in my life taking place right now. And keeping up perseverance is just so much easier when others walk with you and give you encouragement, strenght or even just a hug for comfort.

  12. What a timely message!

  13. It does take time to build relationships with those who will become a group like this for you and help you reach your dreams. Great giveaway!

  14. Such a gift! Our women’s ministry is considering doing this book for a study group… looking forward to reading it. :-)

  15. Wow, I would live to win this & share with my husband who just started out as a life coach!

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    Sara Mc. says:

    Wow! This looks like a great book and something much needed.

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    Marianne says:

    Thanks for the reminder that things are not what they seem This everyday life is part of something wonderfully amazing! Love this adventure.

  18. I’d love to win!

  19. I am blessed to have found mentors for my professional life and now am seeking one for my personal life:-) I am also grateful to have people who believe in me and my cheering squad and I think the one thing I really need to make my dreams come alive is my own perseverance to see them through and not quit:-)

  20. This sounds like a wonderful book, and just what I need right now!

  21. Love this post and would love to win a copy of her book!

  22. This sounds like a lovely book. It is so important to have people who are routing for you and your dreams, and to turn off the “doubters”. What great advice, I can’t wait to read it.

    Kate

  23. This sounds so great to me right now.

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    Krystal P says:

    I’d really love to read this book, sounds like i need to start building my team

  25. avatar
    Rebecca in PA says:

    This sounds like an amazing book… thanks for the giveaway!

  26. What encouraging words, and so in line with where my thoughts are these days. I need people in my support group who can help me find creative ways to carve out time in my schedule for pursuing my dream.

  27. Happy day!

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    Beckie Keezer says:

    While reading this post I thought of three gals that I need to get in touch with. This is a concept I’ve heard before but since our move I have been waiting to find the “right” women. Waiting a little too long. This was just the encouragement I needed to get engaged. Thanks!

  29. Would love this :)

  30. Just the title is a huge encouragement!! I am looking forward to finding my God-sized dream as He reveals just a little more each day! Thank you for the giveaway. Here’s to hoping I’m one of the blessed ones to receive a copy.

  31. The book looks wonderful. Just the kind of encouragement I could use right now. Thanks to you, Tsh, and to Holly, for offering the giveaway.

  32. I’ve put off one my dreams for so long. I would love to read this book.

  33. avatar
    LindsayN says:

    I could use this book right now. My biggest hurdle is my own lack of confidence in myself, and surrounding myself with positive people is an excellent first step. Wonderful encouragement.

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    Babaspice says:

    Without even creating my own advisory team intentionally if feel like God has placed the right people on my team already. I have one. Great friend that is also my boss that no matter the situation she is the person that can be the most honest person with me. She has the most gentle way of sharing the truth even when it is negative. She is very motivated and we compliment each other well in our friendship. I thought we only became friends by chance by I now see that it is all part of a greater plan.

  35. Love the message of this book. Would love to read it!

  36. My husband and I have been thinking through a lot of these same thoughts lately. I definitely feel like God is really trying to get this message across to us.

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    eunice b says:

    Thanks so much for the encouraging giveaway….would love to read this book!

    ~eunice b
    tigergal01 @gmail .com

  38. Sounds like an amazing book.

  39. I’d love to win. Thanks for the chance!

  40. Very cool to see an encourager have the platform to encourage more people than just the ones she personally comes in contact with!

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    Melissa Webb says:

    I’ve seen Holley’s name pop up several places recently and would love the *free* chance to learn more!

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    Christine C says:

    What an inspiring post. Great title for the book too!

  43. This book sounds amazing. Exactly what I could use a big dose of right now!

  44. This idea intrigues me. Thanks for sharing!

  45. Oh my goodness. The podcast you guys did talking about this book was one of the most inspiring moments I’ve had for awhile. Would love to win!

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    Rachel Baker says:

    Wise Words! Thank you!

  47. Beautiful words and very well done at breaking down the different types of relationships we all need to thrive.

  48. I would love to win this book!

  49. I’ve heard about this book over blogland, would love to read it!
    Sarah M

  50. I can’t wait to read her new book!!

  51. That’s what I need to hear right now.

  52. Perfect timing for our family.

  53. I’m just starting out on the motherhood journey and my dreams seemed to have exploded since my little one was born. I have so many things I would like to accomplish as a mom so having this book to encourage me on this great adventure would be great!!

  54. i would like to read this book.

  55. Great advice! Sounds like a great book!

  56. avatar
    Charity Purdy says:

    I am always looking for inspiring new reads. :-)

  57. Sounds like I could use a dose of this book! Thanks for the chance to win!

  58. avatar
    Jody Carr says:

    These were the words I needed to hear today!

  59. Can’t wait to give this book a read :)

  60. Who do I need for my dreams to come true? Myself I guess. There are a lot of people that can aid in it but I would be the most significant person in the equation.

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    Inger Frauenheim says:

    Those words are the words all people on this earth need to hear, and live out! Do hope to win a copy, but if not in the cards, hope to read it someday soon.

  62. I heard Holley on the podcast & was intrigued by her book then–can’t wait to read more!

  63. Looks like a great read.

  64. What a great message! I have felt so blessed as I have gone through my life, especially a tough divorce, as I realized I had a cheering section, and many close cheerleaders that helped me through. I hope to win a copy to share with those that I now cheer along in their battles. Thank you for bringing hope to so many!!

  65. Awww at 54 I am finally learning that I can have a God sized dream! Ha! After 7 children..still raising 3..God has showed me that It’s ok and good to pursure my dream..which by the way I didn’t even know that I had! LOL I would love to read this book by Holley!

  66. I’d love to win! The book sounds like an inspiring read.

  67. I would LOVE the opportunity to read this book! Inspiring!

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    Barefoot Hippie Girl says:

    I have 2 people who always cheer me on in my dreams-my husband and my BFF. It is very encouraging.

  69. God has given us all circles of people who support us. And he has given us TO the circles of others. I’ve been trying to explain that to my teenage daughter. It sounds like this book may be just the words I need. Thank you Tsh for sharing Holley and her book…and now she joins all our circles! :)

  70. I lost my dream partner. I’m waiting for the timing, the how and the why to move forward.

  71. I can’t wait to read this book! :)

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    Carol White says:

    I’ve been going through so many life changes. This book would be a help and encouragement to me. Thanks for the chance!
    Carol

  73. Serendipitous that this was your post today. I’ve been needing encouragement and just yesterday was convicted to just allow God to do His work, to quit chasing and open the door.

  74. Pick me! Pick me! I would love to read this book.

  75. I can’t wait to read this! Thank you for sharing! I’ve been working with a life coach and this seems right in line with where I’m at in my journey!

  76. Look forward to reading this book! Would love a group of women to dream with!

  77. I’m currently in grad school to become a registered dietitian so that I can help others become healthy. As I’m persuing my God-sized dream, having a team to help me through these years would be amazing!

  78. Such a great book by a wonderful author. I need God to keep pushing me forward.

  79. I can’t wait to read this book!
    I really hope I win!!

  80. My husband is taking the kids tomorrow to give me a mini-retreat so that I can hear what God has planned for me next year. This was very fitting post today for me.

  81. Sounds inspiring – I’d love to win!

  82. I’m at a crossroads in my life right now and this is great stuff. My birthday’s tomorrow and winning a book would be fantastic!

  83. Who do you need for your dreams to come true?
    I am so blessed with the people who are already in my life. I am actively working on building my “community” intentionally by going out and taking that risk—asking, will you be my friend?
    Believing that God has my back, I have been overwhelmed with the positive responses. What a world!

  84. This sounds like a great book!

  85. would love to win-

  86. God’s timing is always impeccable!
    If I don’t win a copy I’m going to have to buy one.;)

  87. What a great giveaway!
    What do I need for God to complete my dream?? A support system with like goals/beliefs. Fundraising (and someone who has experience in that area), a location (or direction on where to go).

  88. I’m working on making my dream a reality, which includes being the best wife and mom I can be, growing our family, taking the leap and launching a photography business, and working very part time as a nurse (since I miss it oh so much). I’m still in the process of making this a reality because I want WHAT MATTERS central to my life – God and family. And I also need a “YES” team in my life, and get “NO” people off my team. This book looks amazing.

  89. What a wonderful post! I would love to have this book.

  90. This book is perfect for where my husband and I are at. God is planting a dream in us.

  91. As a mother and teacher, your blog is always inspiring and uplifting. This book sounds like it will be perfect… you seem to align yourself with others who have the same beliefs and daily struggles.

  92. Sounds great! Reading Desperate right now by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson. Would love to read this next.

  93. Amazing! It has been a little over a week now that God has been speaking to my heart this very message.

  94. I could use some encouraging in the dreaming area. When I dream, it’s small potatoes. And I’m much more focused on “what is” rather than “what could be”.

  95. Sounds so great! I’d love to win! Thanks!

  96. This book would be awesome to win!! I have dreams but feel like they are not worth pursuing!! Could use some help in that area!!

  97. wow…powerful..would love to win..if not, i will check out the library

  98. Yesterday I was talking to a co-worker about dreams we had as kids of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Today I wrote a letter to my daughter for her birthday on Sunday (which is also Easter this year). I write her one each year & put it in her baby book. I included that she has taught me so much about life, living & dreaming. Her dreams have shaped/changed my dreams. I also received this amazing email today. God is great & I can’t wait to read this book!

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    DonnaMarie says:

    Thanks – I needed this reminder today.

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    jessica b says:

    Wow! I am in a place where I have been surrounded by nay sayers and bullies. Those I sought for wise counsel were either wolves or didn’t love me enough to say what was true. Now I am in a different state and felt “needy” for wanting to build the relationships spoken of on this blog post. I have expressed the need but I often am told I just need to read the Word more or “trust God”.
    We need each other !