Weekend links

"One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well." -Virginia Woolf

I’ll leave you with a quote that’ll be in my forthcoming book and has resonated truer in my life than ever since I started my Whole 30:

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.” -Virginia Woolf

Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is the founder of this blog and just finished traveling around the world with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

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  1. THANK YOU for linking to that wonderful response to the “Mom on her iPhone” message. I saw the post yesterday all over my Facebook wall (ironically shared via mobile) and found it so condescending and offensive and sexist that I had to walk away for a few minutes.

    And I don’t even have a smartphone or data plan. I don’t use the internet from my phone at all. I was just appalled at the gall of whomever wrote that. Fried Okra handled her response with far more grace than I would have.

  2. I find it interesting (ironic?) that simplemom has a link to the post saying it’s okay for moms to be on their iPhones and simplehomeschool has a link to an article about the risks of parenting while plugged in. Agreed that the mommy judging needs to end. Also believe that, and this includes myself, being so plugged in to technology often means we are not as plugged in to our lives (which includes kids, husband and a whole host of other people and responsibilities) as we should be. Technology can absolutely help us live simply but I personally find it a frequent deterrent to living mindfully.

  3. Kathryn H says:

    Thanks for posting the iPhone response. I too saw that ridiculous post all over my facebook page and thought I was alone in my disgust at the judgment contained within. The response from Fried Okra was what I would have liked to say if I wasn’t too busy putting my phone down so I could go swing my child! Awesome.

  4. Great links this week – thank you! I managed to not have the original iphone post appear in my social media worlds, but the response is one I will be sharing today. The bottom line is we need to stop assuming – assuming we know what is going on in other people’s lives and assuming our way is the right way. The judgement that has become so pervasive in our society undermines any of the advancements people THINK they are making as “good” parents, people and more.

  5. Oh Tsh, for a moment I saw your first link and thought it was the FIRST “Dear Mom on the iPhone” that came up on my Facebook feed this week, and my heart just sank. THANK YOU for posting this wonderful response! I agree with the above commenters, Fried Okra gracefully and articulately responded, and helped me see better why that note left me feeling so frustrated and condemned. My baby girl is 11 months old and still needs me with her every moment at the playground. I am eagerly looking forward to when she can play by herself for a bit! I loved when you talked about that in a podcast a few months ago – stay-at-home moms are spending all day long focusing on their kids; sometimes the playground is the best outlet for free play and a quick break for moms!

  6. Thanks so much for linking to the Fair Trade Chocolate Chip Experiment. I hope you and others will find it helpful! Commenters have also left some great additional info. So many fantastic resources for slave-free chocolate!

  7. Thanks for linking to my cloth diaper drop out post! So kind of you 🙂

    Loved the Fried Okra response to the iphone/mommy guilt post, too. Hooray for those speaking out against mommy guilt! You already know my feelings on people who choose to use their platforms to bring moms down 😉

  8. Um, that quote just rocked my world. We are moving in to our new house on Friday, and I am SO gonna print that baby out, make it look pretty, frame it, and HANG IT ON MY KITCHEN WALL. Seriously. So inspired right now. Thanks Tsh!

  9. Love “Mom on the iPhone!”

  10. Thank you for the links. Lovely letter you linked to.

  11. Thank you so much for sharing the Mom on the iPhone post, here, Tsh, and thank you to all of your lovely readers for their thoughtful responses here and on my blog. It’s been heartening to hear from so many who share my search for grace and freedom in Momland (and Dadland!) (and Personland!)

  12. One point I particularly like from the Fried Okra response was:
    “You’re sitting on that bench texting the precious video to her Daddy at work” I sometimes do wonder, what do people think, if this is the moment they caught – while I was sending over my kids’ video to daddy, telling my kids to wait until I am done, whatever they were trying to show me – and they missed the moment, when I was taking the video or picture, or when I was playing peek-a-poo with them while pushing them on the swings.
    However, I don’t think the original post of “dear mom on the iphone” was as offensive as I thought. What was offensive might be how it was kept circulating around and what people might have said with it. I honestly could easily “share” it as a reminder for myself and fellow moms like me – since I do sometimes had too much screen time at the wrong moment…

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