Do you know the people in your neighborhood?

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by Tsh

Tsh is the founder of this blog and lives in Bend, Oregon with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

I have about six weeks left of this pregnancy, more or less, so I’m going to lighten up my writing schedule a bit in order to focus on birth preparation and nesting, while still running Simple Living Media. With this in mind, I’m bringing back Q&A, a popular series here on Simple Mom, where you provide the majority of the post’s content in the comments section.

Share your thoughts, ask more questions, and discuss the weekly topic amongst each other — and if you have a post on your own blog that’s relevant to the topic, then please share your link, too.

Note: I don’t mind a rousing conversation, but as always, ad hominem will not be tolerated — if you resort to attacking a commenter and not responding to the comment itself, your comment will be deleted.

Your neighbors as a community

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A few months ago, our family quite suddenly moved back to the U.S. from living abroad as foreigners. We lived in a city of four million people, perched on the fifth floor of a concrete high-rise. If I ran out of eggs, I could take the elevator downstairs, walk across the street, and have a stash of eggs in about five minutes, tops.

Now we live on three acres in a farmhouse-style home, with a horse next door for a neighbor and a scenic 20-minute drive to the closest grocery store.

We’ve been quite cognizant to the lifestyle changes these two living situations bring — in particular with community. So my question for us to discuss today is this:

How important is it to your family that you know your neighbors? How much do you depend on your neighbors? Do you feel like you live in a community with the people living around you?

I’m curious how this relates particularly with your living conditions (urban, rural, and the like), in what culture or country you live, and the overall life stage of your family (small ones at home? empty-nesters?).

This month’s theme with SLM is relationships and community involvement. So the rest of May’s questions will also be posed with this in mind. Have a good question? Let me know!

Please share your thoughts! I look forward to chatting with you today.

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  1. avatar
    Cathy G says:

    I live in a large town in England. We moved to our current house last year but have been living in this town for nearly 8 years now. I know most of my neighbours to say hello too and would help if ever any of them had an emergency, but my community is built from the friends I have made over the last 5 years since having children, lots of whom live close by. Also one of the main reasons we moved to this house is my husband’s parents live in the next street and since we moved here his brother’s alsomoved to our street which gives us a ready-made community! Our children definitely help with making friends in the locality as they say hello to everyone with no inhibitions…

    • Community for our family has largely come out of being intentionally involved at our kid’s school. Walking the kids to school, forming soccer teams from among friends, starting a peer lead book club, and simply trying to “be around”. It’s not that I’m the PTA president or volunteering daily, rather it’s making a point to have friends over after school and initiate little things like going to the park as a group. Getting to know those on my block is a bit more challenging. We have met a few neighbors (we recently moved). Gardening helps- as well as being outside with the kids. I guess it comes back to being intentional and seeing opportunities to share even a small part of life with a fellow human. I find living with an air of friendliness and openness is more satisfying in the long run…..

      • I hadn’t thought of gardening as a helpful “tool” in getting to know your neighbors, but that makes total sense.

        • I too have used gardening as a way of meeting my neighbors. Before I had kids, I was even more driven “by the clock,” and caved in to the internal demands to get all the housework and yardwork done on the weekends. Consequently, I didn’t have a lot of time for “interruptions.” Since I’ve intentionally decided to live life more relationally and less task-driven, I began to view gardening, and just playing in the front yard in general with my kids, as an open invitation to conversation. It’s been a fantastic way to open up to community, to introduce my kids to people of a variety of ages, and to foster excellent friendships. It’s one of the biggest reasons I’ve come to love spring!! (We live in southern Manitoba, Canada, where the snow and cold can keep us from playing outdoors several months of the year ;)…).
          As well, I now have tomato plants sitting on my counter, all ready to go into the garden in a weeks – a gift from my neighbor. One of those plants comes from seeds that can’t even be found in Canada – a polish variety – and I can’t wait to give ‘em a try!!!
          .-= Leah´s last blog ..Broken table, broken heart… =-.

  2. I live in an apartment building in an average sized city. We have private entrances, so it’s pretty easy to see all of the neighbors coming and going, and watch all of the kids play outside. Yet, I don’t know anyone personally. I guess we don’t live in the type of environment that fosters that sort of connectivity.

    It is something that I want to experience, however. I would love nothing more than to live in the sort of neighborhood you see in the movies, and truly get to know and befriend the people around me.

    • “I guess we don’t live in the type of environment that fosters that sort of connectivity.”
      While I would guess that there are some places that just REALLY make it hard for that to happen, I am pretty sure that most of the “whether or not” it can happen depends on you! (and me) ;)
      I live in the back house of 2 on 1 lot, in a medium-income neighborhood in LA. The neighbors have a big yard and there is no fence between our properties. While they have been nice to say ‘hi’ to, and they even let us use their yard for a crazy-big bounce/obstacle course, it hasn’t gone beyond that.
      I have been on the side of “driven by the clock”, and have also changed my perspective, as Leah wrote. Even at the YMCA, I wanted to get in, work out and get out. Now, I have made sure I take time to talk with those around me and have been pleased with the responses I get most of the time!
      My point is: YOU (and I) can make things happen that won’t just happen in their own. And you might be surprised at how well it goes! :D

  3. We’ve lived in the Middle East for the last 5 years. I didn’t know my neighbors in Kuwait well enough to borrow sugar but there was always a bakala nearby to run to for a quick ingredient. Here in Lebanon I do have neighbors I can ask for something or I can walk to the shop. That was very handy 5 years ago when I didn’t have a car here. This time I have a car so I can use it if I’m in a hurry or it’s raining.

    When we move back to the States this summer we’ll be on 12 acres. I have fairly close neighbors but many work. It takes between 5-10 minutes to drive to the closet supermarket. Not too bad, but to be avoided. If I end up working again, I’ll have the drive home to make a quick stop.
    .-= Thursday’s Child´s last blog ..Ugh! =-.

    • Believe me, I totally miss bakkals (what they’re called where we lived)! It feels so weird to be so isolated from that sort of thing, even though I do love being around nature.

  4. I live in a flat (basically, a 2-unit home) in San Francisco. I love our neighborhood and often refer to it as “Sesame Street” since we know most of our neighbors and even the local shop owners. When we took our firstborn out on his very first walk at 5 days old, the shop owners came out of their stores to meet him as we walked by! We have a great relationship with our neighbors, stopping to talk with them on the sidewalk as we see each other. We consider a few of our neighbors friends; we’ll get together for Easter egg hunts in the back yard, birthday parties, dinners out or at home, etc.

    I grew up in the suburbs and had great neighborly relations there as well. Same with living in an apartment building in a small town. The only time in my life I haven’t known my neighbors was when I lived in a 4-plex home in a small beachside community in southern California… and that could be because I lived there less than a year and rarely saw anyone when I came and went.

  5. I recently moved to a new home in a suburb of New Jersey. It is the first time I have really settled in to a community and felt connected to my neighbors. We bake for the 90 yr old woman who lives on her own a couple doors down. Play with Miss Mary’s grandchildren when they come to visit. And practically share homes with our immediate neighbor, another SAHM with young children.

    Having this sense of connection and close community is incredible. I have benefited so much from the relationships and friendships already and I am grateful that my children are being raised with the example of cultivating generosity and friendship in community.

    I think a good question would be HOW (what specific creative ways) can we cultivate, reach out and establish relationships with our neighbors?
    .-= Lisa @ WellGrounded Life´s last blog ..Want your kids to eat healthy? Speak their language! =-.

  6. I live in a town with about 100,000 people in Texas. We moved here from California and I distinctly remember how everyone kept telling me how much I’d love the people here … and I thought each time someone said that, “I love the people in California”. I’ve always been close with my neighbors my whole life in California. Since we’ve moved to Texas … not so much. I’ve never had a single person on my block open their door and invite me in … that was a common thing in California.

    Our move to Texas brought us geographically closer to my husband’s family and that has been great for our 3 small children to get to know their cousins and grandparents … but I have to admit I will be VERY relieved when we move this summer for a job relocation.

    • I understand your sentiments. I too have recently moved to Texas from Missouri. I knew my Missouri neighbors (maybe it was parent influenced, since that’s where I grew up…so either way, I still knew them!), but I don’t know anyone here. Well, except the friendly apartment staff, who are basically the only people I see walking around outside.

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        Melissa says:

        True, Texans are are known for being very friendly. I know, I’m a Texan! However, you have to realize that if you move into a suburban or large city area-you may not get that small-town friendly feel. After all, many of those who move to the larger areas/cities are not Texans (***not saying that they are not friendly-and not saying only Texans are friendly).

        I do relate though. After living in the NW for a few years I moved to a suburban area outside of Austin last year. Many of my neighbors are friendly and fun-and some haven’t even introduced themselves yet.

        I’m sorry you guys have not encountered those warm and friendly Texans. If you were my neighbor, I’d have a welcome basket for you!

        • Funny that you said that. I live in the DFW area, but I don’t count my self as a Texan, but rather someone who happens to live in Texas. I’m not saying, I’m unfriendly either, just that I’m not a Texan (I’m still a Missourian at heart…).

          I have met a few friendly Texans! They aren’t my neighbors though; they’re neighbors to my boss. They also are out in the country in a small town of 3000 people, so I get what you’re saying about the cities. :)

  7. We know our neighbors! As a military community we are surrounded by people who most are far from family, they know how to support each other. We have cul-de-sac parties in the summer and on Halloween where everyone brings their grills and lawn chairs out front and we all let the kids run around until they all pass out. Our family hosts outdoor movie night for neighbor kids and their parents…we even hand out little invitations with the movie schedules. I love our neighborhood and our neighbors.
    .-= Eren´s last blog ..Friday Favorites: Redecorating Edition =-.

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      Vanessa says:

      We used to be a military family and lived on a military base. When we lived there, we definitely knew our neighbors. Our neighbors became our ‘second family’ and we still talk to most of them to this day even though it’s been 2 years since we’ve seen them and we are all thousands of miles apart now. Military communities are definitely, in my opinion, very community oriented.

      • You are so right Vanessa…I wonder if things being too “cush” in our country for the past several years has lessened the need for community. Now that things are difficult again, people are re-discovering their need for each other. The military forces you into needing each other and supporting each other. Hmmm….
        .-= Eren´s last blog ..Friday Favorites: Redecorating Edition =-.

        • I’ve moved away from home and the military post, and am raising my own family now . . . but I am still closer with some of the people I met on post when I was young than I am with my neighbors now. It was a very tight-knit community, and very much like a small town. I knew that if I messed around and got into trouble, my dad would find out!
          .-= Trina´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday: Mastering Leftovers & Make-Aheads =-.

    • Wow — that sounds ideal, Eren!

  8. We live in the suburbs just east of Detroit and I love our neighborhood. When we first moved into our home almost 4 years ago our neighbors in our block came by to welcome us to the neighborhood. We have a lot of walkers in our neighborhood and we all love being outside so we always get into conversations when people are walking by. I think it’s great because my kids know most of our neighbors by name too. I like that so if they ever have a problem or need to get help they can feel comfortable going to one of our neighbors. I haven’t had to borrow a cup of sugar yet, but I know that if I needed it I could run next door and be greeted with a smile.
    .-= Rana´s last blog ..Baseball Bats and Tea Cups! =-.

  9. I know my neighbors. They are wonderful! They help us cut grass, we let their dogs out, etc. It works out well! We’re out in a little suburb of a large city. :)
    .-= Mrs. Money´s last blog ..2010 Dirty Dozen List & Clean 15 List =-.

  10. When we were both working w/ no kids, we really didn’t know anyone in our neighborhood, except the people next door on each side (who would let my husband borrow tools). With a baby (who is now a toddler), we spend a lot of time outside and have gotten to know many more folks, although only 2 or 3 that we would borrow from or babysit for.

    I’m mostly an introvert, so I never really would have gotten to know these folks if I wasn’t looking for them. Our main “community” is our church, which is spread out over a 30 mile radius. But I want to make sure that (someday) I can let my kids play outside and go to friends’ houses without needing to hover over them every moment – and that won’t happen if we don’t know the people who live around us.

  11. We live in between two towns of about 20,000 and have 4 families that live right around us. I’m sorry to say that we are not on the ‘borrowing sugar’ level, about all we do is wave or sometimes chat at the edge of our road. I’d love to live somewhere where we had close friends and our children had buddies to play with, but we don’t. Instead, I will be happy and thankful for where we live because God is faithful and He knows best.

  12. we know three people on a street of about 20 houses. its sad really, but I think normal for this area (just outside of DC). Would have been nice to know more since we, too, just brought home a new baby. At least the friend across the street is an emergency room doctor should anything had happened with the labor (I went into labor right after a blizzard hit our area). :)
    .-= Tabitha (From Single to Married)´s last blog ..Sleeping Through the Night =-.

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    Michelle says:

    We recently moved out to “the country,” after living nearly 10 years in a neighborhood of 1920’s bungalows. We started out on a cul de sac and knew everyone around us – and it was great, but sometimes felt a little like we had no privacy! We recently moved 30 minutes out of the city while expecting our 4th child (our 3rd boy). We wanted room to run without having to go to the park to do it – I guess I can’t shake my rural roots. We love our new house. We live on a very large lot but still are in a neighborhood. Our neighbors are all friendly, they all wave when driving or walking by, but they also keep to themselves. Not sure how I feel about that.

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    Vanessa says:

    I live out in the country so neighbors aren’t very close. We do have one neighbor we talk to somewhat frequently, mainly because he and his wife own the house we rent. A lot of my neighbors are Parent’s of teenagers. I have two toddlers so they don’t often get to have friends to play with out here. It’s a friendly area, everyone waves at each other when passing but I only know two people by name out of our 4 mile long street.

    At my Father In Laws there is definitely a sense of community and even though we don’t live there, we are close to his neighbors as is he. Whenever we visit all of the kids play together and there is never a problem with asking a neighbor for a cup of sugar. I would love to have that kind of community.

    Right now we are venturing into activities that are age appropriate for our daughter’s so that they begin to socialize a bit more and start making friends.

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    maryann says:

    I remember when I lived in an apartment building in Queens, Ny (the suburbs of NYC).
    We were all rude to each other, always in a hurry, didn’t hold the elevator for the neighbor retrieving mail from the box…No one knew each other beacuse we all went to work…

    Then our super, an immigrant from Albania, deceided to have a Christmas/ Holiday party int the lobby. He supplied the booze & we all were supposed to bring something for the buffet table.

    What a wonderful time we had! I even met the neighbor that lived directly next door to me, who I had never seen, but often banged on her wall for me to lower my stereo.

    We’ll never know if the super had an ulterior motive for the party (I suspsected he was soliciting holiday tip$) but wow, what a great idea to get out little apartment building community together.

  16. We live in an apartment, in a college town and I have been so frustrated. I have always dreamed of living next door to someone with kids the same age as mine so they can play together and we can sit and talk, but no one here wants to meet anyone else.
    We’ve tried saying hi, but this complex seems like such a temporary part of life, that no one seems to bother with making friends.
    I still dream of having a neighbor become a dear friend, but for now, I have to wait.

  17. I live in a town that used to be a real town when I was growing up, but is now considered a suburb of Kansas City. We know our immediate neighbors and lots of neighbors all over by face, because we are out and about so often. When we first moved in, we tried to connect with our neighbors, but frankly, they were older than us with children graduating from high school. Conversely, I had just given birth to our first child.

    Theoretically, I would love to know my neighbors, but with this particular group, there is just not much in common with them. So, overall, it does not bother me.
    .-= cagey (Kelli Oliver George)´s last blog ..The Mother’s Day Gift Guide Men Wish They Could Write (for Their Wives) =-.

  18. We have lived in the same house in an inner ring suburb of Cleveland for 15 years. We didn’t plan to be here this long, but the community we found (made?) has us reluctant to leave. We have seen aging neighbors sell to young couples who proceed to have babies in a few years. We have seen the progression of neighbor kids through grade school into our now babysitters. We make dinners for each other in trying times, have a block party every summer and willingly “lend” butter, eggs and more. Interestingly, I have much more of a true neighborhood here than in the small town where I grew up!

    • Meg, this sounds ideal, I’ve always wanted a neighborhood like that but just haven’t found one yet!
      I see why it makes you stay put!

  19. A note on building a neighborhood. All it takes is for you and one or two others to organize a simple block party or to extend help to someone you learn has a need. Before I had children, which most of the others on the block had already, I was hospitalized unexpectedly and had a lengthy recuperative period. My generous neighbors brought dinners over every other night for a couple of weeks. When the next expectant mom had her baby, I was right on board with dinner for her. Before that, I felt like a bit of an outsider, as I did not have any children. Simple acts of kindness and a willingness to extend yourself will go far toward building a community.

  20. We live in New England where the adage goes, “Good fences make good neighbors” which has some solid truth to it. It’s good to let relationships take time and certainly we like our space and privacy. On the other hand, we like knowing who’s around and have formed some nice friendships with several of our neighbors as we’ve gotten to know them over the years. The best part about this is that, unlike school associations or work-based relationships, these are relationships that spill out beyond our usual age-based or interest-based associations. One of our closest neighborly friendships is with an older couple in their 70’s.

    We’ve gotten to know many of our neighbors because we’re out and about so much – walking, jogging, biking, or rollerblading up and down the road. We’re one of the few families out together doing this, but we’re starting to see a few more over the years. And many times our family run goes on for a couple hours as we stop and chat with different neighbors who are out in their yards along the way.

  21. I love our neighbors! We live in a little cul-de-sac with five other houses. We are in constant community with four of the five. As the only young family in the group it is fun. Three of the houses are ALL guy college students and the other is an older bachelor. It is great for my husband to connect with other men without leaving the homestead. We share BBQ’s, produce from the farmer’s market and dinners. One of the guys has started to ask me cooking questions and advice. The bachelor has a lovely herb and small produce garden and is constantly coming over with bags of fresh arugula or herbs. I think it is good for our kids to know the neighbors and have a sense of community too. They stand at the screen door and say hi to all who walk by, it is cute.
    .-= Keilah´s last blog ..More Felt Food =-.

  22. avatar
    Holly Berry says:

    Wow, Tsh, I’m only one week behind you in my pregnancy! Which, coincidentally, has drawn us slightly closer to some of our neighbors who have small children since this will be our first. We live in a culdesac on the edge of Austin, Tx which is very representative of the city population as it includes a couple of young families, a few childless couples or single people, a couple of multi-generational Hispanic families, one older retired couple, and one Italian family who only lives here part of the year.
    I think living in a culdesac is more conducive to knowing your neighbors because your houses all face each other and even though we’re not particularly close to any of our neighbors, I know I can depend on them when I need to.

    • We’re in Austin! Small world, eh?

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        Holly Berry says:

        Crazy! Maybe we’ll bump into each other someday. I’m not surprised since you have what many would call an “Austin mentality”. I adore this city…and your blog!

        • I’ve noticed ‘Texans’ seem to be collecting around this blog! It’s gotta be the mentality! We’re in the Austin suburbs too. I’d have to say we aren’t as close to our neighbors as we’d like. Some friendly waves and an occasional conversation is all we get with the people on our street (though the school aged children are regularly out together), but there are a handful of people in our neighborhood as a whole that we’re getting to know better, and a couple we regularly talk to and spend time with. I’ve had some great conversations with our HOA president when we bump into each other, and I’m hoping some ideas I bring in my volunteering can help to encourage a greater community bond. I also try to take the little steps – talking to the kids when my daughter tries to run around with them (eventually you meet their parents too), visiting neighbor’s garage sales, even if I’m not in need of anything, and always passing along incorrect mail to the right house in person.
          In growing up on two cul-de-sacs and currently living on a short street that has a cul-de-sac at each end, I’d have to say I notice the same trend of the people living in the cul-de-sacs seem to know each other better than people living on streets in even the same neighborhood.

  23. avatar
    Tawnya says:

    I live out in the country, but the nearest towns are only about 5 miles away in either direction. On our street we have only five houses. The first two houses, we are really good friends with; and I could ask those guys for anything. There was a time that we had an emergency and I had to ask them to watch the kids (they were 7 months and 22 months). The niether of the guys are married or have little experience with kids, but their girlfriends helped out until I was able to get back. The other two families I know well enough to say “Hi” and have small talk with.
    I grew up in a small town where everyone knew you, your family, and how to reach them. Growing up I hated it cause we always had to behave; but knew we were safe and that appeals to parents.

  24. We had a neighborhood party and it was a great way to meet everyone! I just put flyers on everyones mailbox (about 60 houses so i didn’t take too long just strolling the girls along with me) We also set up a yahoo group to better communicate. I met friends with a pool WOO HOO!! Now another SAHM and i exchange babysitting while we can run errands. It’s great!

    • That is a great idea! We set up Yahoo groups for kid things etc, but why not set up one for the “Neighborhood” Thanks!

  25. I live with cows for neighbors – and I’m cool with that. I can see neighbors across a cornfield, and family lives about five minutes away.

    If I need an egg, I either take the four-wheeler to my grandmother-in-laws or hop in the truck. I asked the cows, but they just stare at me.

    Freaks.

  26. Great question & discussion. Since we’ve also recently moved, we’re starting from scratch with getting to know people. We’re on a quiet semi-rural lane with neighbors on both sides, but not too close. Already we feel the sense of community here and think it’s going to be an ideal place to raise our children.

    I have my eye on my neighbors massive rhubarb patch; I’m hoping to trade some fresh baking for his produce! That’s what being neighborly is all about!
    .-= Aimee @ Simple Bites´s last blog ..Ten Ingredients You Absolutely, Positively, Must Have on Your Spice Rack =-.

  27. I live at the end of a rural road with about four neighbours. We all know each other. We don’t hang out per se but some of them bring cookies or homemade candles over to us at Xmas time and once I went to a wreath decorating party at one of their houses. I love that we know each other but don’t get into each other’s business. It’s s great set up and the first time since I was a kid that I’ve really known who lives next door.
    .-= Melodie´s last blog ..When To Send Your Nursling on an Overnight =-.

  28. we live in what should be a perfect little community: it’s near the airport, so it has a very rural feel (surrounded by acres of land all around) and yet we’re less than 5 minutes from a grocery store or walgreens. however, i’m acutely aware of A) being one of the only young moms w/ young kids and B) people’s lack of desire to know one another. i rarely see anyone moving about; almost everyone works long hours, and there are a few retirees who don’t wave back. it makes me so sad b/cs i’ve just longed for community, especially in a place i hardly know (we’ve only been here 2 yrs). i drive to one of the neighboring areas for garage sales and neighbors are always chatting to each other while mowing the lawn or kids playing. i wish i had that.
    .-= misty´s last blog ..i have a tan =-.

  29. I love this topic! Knowing our neighbors has been something that my husband and I have wanted for much of our 18 year marriage, but it wasn’t until we moved into our house 6 years ago that this occurred. Our neighbors are wonderful. Some just say Hello and stop to look at our chickens. Others have helped us out when we had flooding under our house. We share eggs and strawberries, (my kids love taking them to our neighbors) in return for avocados, oranges, and baked goods. When we are on a trip, these are the people we know will be watching our house. We also have five neighbors that attend our church! It is so fun to gather weekly for our neighborhood homegroup (Bible Study) and know that we can walk to the meeting. :) We share a wheelbarrow, tools, cars, babysitting, etc. with these neighbors. When we tell friends about our set up, they are always surprised, as we don’t live in the country, but rather in Santa Barbara, CA! I am so grateful for my neighbors and so thankful we can live in community with them.

  30. At the moment we live in a little suburban neighborhood with lots of neighbors. But we don’t actually talk to any of them or even seem to have much in common with them either.

    Hubby and I have a dream to start a small community on a few acres of land where we can build our dream home. We’d love to also have some friends and family with similar interests to join us and create our own community surrounded by people we love and can have a close bond with :)

  31. We know our neighbors by name, some better than others. When one of the neighbors takes the time to organize a neighborhood event, I’m usually pleasantly surprised to learn about my neighbors and their lives and how they wrestle with the same issues as we do. It takes an effort to get to know neighbors in the same way you get to know co-workers and other friends, but definitely worthwhile. Since I’ve stopped working, I’ve found a mini-community of bus stop parents and school volunteers.
    .-= ami´s last blog ..Do you have the mind of a six-year-old? Can you succeed like a six-year-old? =-.

  32. I feel so Blessed to live in the mountains in a small town! Four years and 2 boys later, I can honestly say I am happier than I ever have been in my life. I love my husband, my children and our friends. Living in a town where there really is a sense of community has helped shaped the kind of Mom that I am. Stumbling across this amazing town and the beautiful people in it has brought so much joy to me.

    Yes, I know my neighbors and feel much better for it!

  33. I live on the Central Coast of CA in a small city, but in a culdesac of a 50s tract-home neighborhood and love it! Most of my neighbors know each other and those of us in teh culdesac see each other almost daily as our kids play in that culdesac, ball games and anything with wheels under their feet and legs. We’re all different, but there is peace because we keep the conversation pretty light. Deeper conversation happens when we have opportunities for one-on-one time. When I was in the hospital for a few months, a neighbor surprised us by mowing our lawn while we were gone. Another neighbor feeds our cat while we are away. Sometimes the neighborhood kids pull weeds (just for fun!) It’s a great community atmosphere – like the old days.
    .-= Krista English´s last blog ..After a Long Absence… =-.

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    Tianna says:

    We live in a condo complex. We know a lot of people in our complex because they go to our church, but there are also a lot we don’t know. Half of my stairwell, for example. I WANT to know my neighbors better, but I don’t. I haven’t in most of my last several houses/apartments. But I think it’s largely my shy attitude. I think anyone can get to know their neighbors well if they want to and are willing to put forth the effort to go visit them. My neighbor I’m the closest to now is only that way because she’d randomly come by and visit after we first moved in. At first it was awkward, but I’m glad she did because now we’re good friends.

  35. great discussion! we live in the historic district of a small city. i love being downtown and being on friendly terms with everyone from the bookshop owner to the mail-lady, to the people downstairs, across the street, and around the corner. just the other day we made some new friends who live in a cul-de-sac behind our house. they have kids too, and they invited us to come join them in their yard whenever my daughter and i are out. so sweet to meet neighborly people like that- and such a blessing to have another place for the little one run around since we don’t have our own yard. God knows our needs. :)
    .-= tacy´s last blog ..Saturday Links and Lists =-.

  36. I live in Arizona, as a transplant from the midwest, and the only people I know on my street are the snowbirds/retirees. Why? Because young people in Arizona (at least on my street) are weird. They don’t come out of their house. Even in this gorgeous spring weather we have right now (I can understand staying inside when it’s 115 degrees). It’s frustrating always being the one making the effort to get to know them! We have had two houses sell this past month, so again I will make the effort… wish me luck.

  37. It’s really important to me that I know my neighbors. I would love to live next door to someone I can depend on.
    Thinking about this makes me very sad.
    I grew up in a really close neighborhood. We knew the majority of the neighbors, we were friendly and we always felt safe.
    Now I’m married to a soldier and we move around quite a bit. So far, this is the third place that we’ve lived since we’ve been married. I have tried really hard at all 3 locations to try and get to know my neighbors. I’ve brought food over for new comers, gifts for new babies, and I’ve tried my best to chat with them every time I see them outside. It’s almost as if people living around here have decided that since the Army might be sending them somewhere else, they aren’t going to bother to try and make friends.
    I can’t wait to move out of military housing and into a more friendly community. I have such fond memories of my mom chatting with our neighbor while she hung laundry or sending me across the street for an egg or some sugar. :(
    Maybe some day I’ll be able to live in a true community. I hope it happens before my children are too much older. I would love for them to grow up in a caring community.

  38. We live in a large suburban neighborhood outside of Austin. The town still has that small town charm, w/ an old time Main Street and downtown square. Our neighborhood is very unique. Not only is it large and homes are pretty much right on top of one another-there is a great sense of community and family here.

    Our neighborhood hosts many events for the neighborhood and surrounding community. We have music festivals, holiday get-togethers, garden tours, golf tournaments, 10k, Austin area children’s triathlon, pet festivals and summer movie nights at the park. We can play at the many parks, pools or fish at the small lake our neighborhood provides.

    I know my direct neighbors and can borrow garden tools or ingredients from them. I send out my baked goods to them and we seem pretty close…well, except for one neighbor. We all believe she is in the witness protection program. Even though we’ve only seen her for a brief moment in the past year-we still are good neighbors and wrapped her pipes during the hard freeze.

    Now, our favorite neighbors announced they will be moving to California. When we heard the news, we were sick to our stomachs. Hoping for new (and good) friendships…
    .-= Melissa´s last blog ..GO TEXAN Grapefruit, Honey and Lavender Cupcakes =-.

  39. We’ve lived in the suburbs for about 1.5 years now and know our neighbors a little. BUT we are part of a group of like minded people who plan to build a co- housing community, so we’re excited about that. Everyone will own their own home but we will know each other and share things like a communal garden, playground and even cars if we want!
    .-= amber´s last blog ..Goodbye Grandma. =-.

  40. When we got married, we lived in a small college town, and we knew all of our neighbors — even though they rotated every other semester.

    Now that we’re out of school and living in another small-ish town, things are very different. We know our neighbors to say, “Hi” and wave, and we watch out for their homes, but other than that, we’re not close with them at all. Our son is considerably younger than the other kids on the street. We tend to spend our free time with friends who are co-workers or from college and have kids the same age as ours.
    .-= Trina´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday: Mastering Leftovers & Make-Aheads =-.

  41. I like this topic. The older I get, the more I find the yearning for community (maybe having children affects that?) I’ve lived in Indonesia (18ish years), America (4 years), China (4 years) and now we are in the first of 3 years in England. It is interesting to compare the sense of community in each place. I wonder what a survey on income vs. “neighborly-ness” would show? I’m guessing you will find more community connection in areas where the community “needs” each other more. In order from greatest to least community “feel”: Indonesia, England, China, America (not including family and church connections). Here in the UK we live in an area of government housing. I’ve found that we have a much more open, connected neighborhood than friends who live on “posh-er” streets. But, like someone else said, having small children definitely does help to build friendships.

  42. I live in a great neighborhood in a city with a population around 200,000. We are actually planning to have a couple block parties every summer (our first one coming up this weekend)! There is a group of us in about 5 houses, that are all getting to know each other and we are all young families. We all enjoy spending time in the evenings outdoors during the nice weather, and letting the kids play together!

    I lived in another neighborhood before we bought this house in the same city, and I lived there for 4 years and didn’t really know any of our neighbors. It was more of a working neighborhood where everyone worked a lot. In our neighborhood, more of us stay at home, so I think we see more of each when taking the kids outside to play, and it’s so nice to have other adults to talk to, while the kids can play together!

  43. Great topic! We live in a European city, on the 3rd floor of a block of flats. I LOVE our sense of community here – we have a park outside and between 6-8pm all the parents are outside with their kids in the park. We adopted our daughter from China 7 months ago and I have to say that having kids is a HUGE factor in getting to know your neighbours here.

    I also love that within a 20 minute walking radius we have pretty much everything we need: shops, supermarket, schools, dentist, doctors, fruit shop, bakery, sports center, library. I love that about where I live.
    .-= Jane´s last blog ..That one little word =-.

    • “I also love that within a 20 minute walking radius we have pretty much everything we need: shops, supermarket, schools, dentist, doctors, fruit shop, bakery, sports center, library. I love that about where I live.”

      Sigh… I miss that so much about where we used to live! It seems pretty common everywhere but the U.S. (more or less). I think that’s the thing I miss most.

      • I know, I miss that too, I am in a tiny small rural area with houses and what seems like a lot of depressed and poor people, and it is a beautiful 20 minute drive to another small town where you shop for necessities. I am very sad that I can’t just step out the door and have a nice walk to the market or P.O. or Coffee Shop! Also having sidewalks in our “community” would help people to want to walk around more I think. It is a drag jumping off the road to avoid cars every few minutes with a child and maybe lowering the speed limit of 40 would help!
        Just wishes, I’m sure they won’t really happen! I think a friendly neighborhood is definitely a combination of physical factors as well as the attitudes and efforts of individuals.

  44. When we were looking into building a house a few years ago we wanted to find a community that was still “in the country” but felt like a neighborhood! We found the perfect neighborhood and have LOVED living here for the last two years. The neighborhood is very diversified- we have Filipinos, African-Americans, a lesbian couple with children, a lesbian couple without kids, three gay couples, families with kids, families without kids, families with stay at home moms and families with working moms….and we love it! When we take walks in the evening so many neighbors are out, either walking with their kids or their dogs, or playing in their yards. Then all the kids stop to play together…it’s a spontaneous play date! We “Boo” each other at Halloween and do the “Christmas Angel” at Christmas. We had a block party last summer and look forward to having another one this year since we’ve had a lot more houses built over the fall and winter! We have made great friends already and love our neighbors and our neighborhood!
    .-= Kari´s last blog ..My First REALLY Successful CVS Shop =-.

  45. Growing up in Brokklyn New York, I always knew our neighbors. Everyone knew everyone. All my friends from the block went to my school. In the mornings we all walked to school together. Are parents all knew each other and were friends. It was easy because we all lived in the same building or 2 houses down. You could cross the street and get a gallon of milk, or an ice cream. In the summer we had Block parties. It was great. I have never experianced that anywhere outside of New York. It’s funny cause people dont think of New York that way, but it is. It’s full of tight knit communities. Now that I live in MD, I miss it so much. We have been here for 5 yrs and still dont really have any friends. It’s something that I really miss and hope that my kids and have some day.

    • It’s interesting, about big cities. You don’t have nearly as much personal space (backyards, etc.), but somehow, the close living quarters make it more neighborly, doesn’t it? It was the same in our little area overseas. We didn’t know tons of people, but you see the same faces day after day, and after awhile, you just start becoming neighbors in the best sense.

      Your growing up experience sounds wonderful!

  46. COMMUNITY! I love it! We live in Mpls, MN (urban-midwest, hispanic/hippie cultural area. My husband and I rent a part of a duplex from some good friends of ours. We depend on them very much and they are very important to us and our young family (3 mo. yr old son). We share almost anything with us and have a very open home. This has inspired us to get to know our neighbors. A few we know, but so many move a lot so it is hard to know them for too long. But, summer is here and everyone is outside now!
    Once we can afford to we would love to buy a house and have community IN our house by sharing space.

  47. We have lived in the same little house in a little cul-de-sac for almost 5 years now. Since the neighbors got wind that my husband was a pastor (without us telling them!) and it took a LONG time for them to let us into their lives. This was really hard and really humbling for us. Many had quite an idea of ‘religious’ people and didn’t want to be judged. It’s taken years but we know many quite well, mainly because I decided that I would invite kids over all the time and that I would bake cookies every weekend. Homemade cookies and a dad who would actually play with the kids was enough to draw the whole gang to our house, then we got the chance to know the parents eventually too. I’ll never forget the night the pre-teen kids knocked on our door and asked if my husband could come out and play tag! It was precious and he did.

    We’ve hosted BBQ’s and cookie exchanges and have shared any extra chicken eggs we have with most of the neighbors. We share ingredients and recipes and swap hair cuts for dinners! If we ever move, leaving them will be the hardest part.
    .-= karissa´s last blog ..Multitudes on a Monday… =-.

  48. Very timely post for me Tsh. I use to live in a pretty rural area where we did know our neighbors that lived on our block, enough to say hello and even attend a Christmas party. I had actually been craving a place where “everyone knows your name” so to speak. Just so happens that just a few weeks ago, we moved to one of the most family friendly mid-sized cities in the US. (my opinion of course). We live in a two story apartment on a main street directly above a health food cafe. It is actually pleasant that everyone speaks and holds light conversation. I go downstairs for coffee at the shop beneath me and speak to everyone by name. They know my children’s and husband’s names. It feels cozy and inviting. And I really enjoy it.

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    Denise says:

    We live in an apt. in a huge city in Asia, I get to know my neighbors in the elevator. I thought I didn’t really have a relationship with any of them until one day a woman in her sixties stopped to help me carry my groceries home. I was embarrassed to need her help, but she wouldn’t take no for an answer. We can’t talk with each other very well, but I know I have a friend in the building now. I wish I knew more people better, but that will come with my improving language skills. Oh there is one other English speaking family in our building which is nice.

  50. I dearly loved my neighbors in our PREVIOUS community. We watched each others home while on vacation, dropped off care packages when someone was in need, shared dinners together, etc. – it was like having an extended family.

    However, when I started meeting families in our CURRENT community I was quite often met with “we’re in the military and we’re leaving in 2 years” or “we’re here for 3 years at .. Air Force Base”. We are not in the military and we plan to be here for years.

    One time at a party at a neighbor’s house we were introduced as being “the ones not in the military.” Nice and classy, huh? Being “greeted” with that kind of statement is rude and makes it clear they are not interested in getting close to us or being friendly. I hope these particular families leave as soon as possible – on to their next base. Between these families and the constant rotation of renters around us, we are sad and disappointed. So much for “moving up in the world”.

    Sometimes I feel like we live on 10 acres with nobody around us when we actually have people surrounding us on all sides.

  51. There are only four houses on our road, so we all know each other to at least some extent. One couple has children of a similar age to ours and this has opened up a great friendship. It takes time to build relationships, starting slowly by talks “over the fence.” As time goes by, friendships grow and we begin to look for ways to help one another.

    Coincidentally, I wrote about neighbors on my blog this weekend. I hope you’ll have time to check it out.
    .-= Fatima´s last blog ..Neighbors =-.

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    Ashley says:

    Sadly, we don’t have much community with out neighbors. When my husband and I were looking to buy a house, we drove through this neighborhood over & over again. We were so excited about all the young families outside with their children. We had high hopes that we would move here, befriend the neighbors, and would spend many warm summer nights sipping wine under the stars and chatting with our neighbor friends while all the children played in the cul-de-sac. However, once we moved here we found that while the neighbors were outside a lot, no one really spent much time together. We chatted up some of the neighbors, but only one couple showed any interest in having any starlight chats. We did that one night….and they never initiated it again. Our kids do play quite often, but we don’t have that kind of relationship where they’re even comfortable letting their kids play in our backyard without coming with them. We often wonder if it’s us or just the neighborhood. Everyone seemed so friendly when we were just driving through…

  53. This topic is interesting for me mostly because living in the US in general has been a big change for me. I grew up in Africa and lived there until our first born came along. Generally, i lived a life where neighbours and friends were always nearby and knew a lot of people. But once we moved here, the first few years in the South was a horrible experience. Neighbours weren’t neighboury and everyone had the windows and curtains shut. I thought I was weird being outside a lot gardening or with my windows open. Now, we live in a nice development and know our neighbours very well. Even with people on the street, we exchange hellos and chitchat about kids if we bump into each other. Sadly, we a soon planning to move and the thought of starting all over again with neighbours is rather daunting. But, on the other hand, am sure it will be just fine and we try to reach out to neighbours.
    .-= lucy´s last blog ..{ a black pepper } in Artful blogging Summer 2010! =-.

  54. Community is very important for my family. I grew up in farm country and while we didn’t have close neighbors we knew everyone in our little town. Moving to a more urban area was a little bit of a change for me and my first impression was that most people were very private. I’ve since built a great community with a fairly good sized group of friends and neighbors and it’s been great. My community is very important to both myself and my family and I make a point of keeping the open door policy with all of them.
    .-= Tina@RideOnToys´s last blog ..The Peg Perego Ride On Train Makes Riding Fun For Your Little Engineers =-.

  55. what a great question!!!

    we live on a road leading into a small neighborhood on the rural edge of suburbia. before having kids we kind of enjoyed the “privacy” of our situation. neighbors that say “hey how are you doing?” when you pass on the street but don’t know (or care to know) your name or anything about you.

    (i grew up in a kind of fancy homeowner’s association kind of neighborhood and i always found it a little constricting.)

    but since having kids things have shifted a bit. i’m finding that i’d really like to know my neighbors a little more. i’d like to have someone right next door that i could call in a pinch for a cup of sugar or help moving furniture. so we’re starting to reach out and slowly get to know some of our neighbors and invite them over for BBQs in the summer etc.

    sometimes i dream of moving into a more neighborly neighborhood but the trade-off of having our beautiful land and the privacy when we want it is not something i want to give up.

    thanks for this question. and best wishes to you as you prepare for your little one’s birth…

    ~erin
    .-= exhale. return to center.´s last blog ..exhale interviews :: chris carr =-.

  56. I live in Tennessee and we currently have some of the worst flooding conditions in Tennessee history. All over Facebook I see a rallying of support for those in need. It dawned on me last night, wow, my neighbors, my community is so much larger than the houses that surround me. Oh don’t get me wrong. My next door neighbors are great. We have an unoffical watchdog group of mommas that take care of all the kids that cross our path. Our kids play together, catch the bus together and know that our homes are safe places. But I can also, at any given time call for help on Twitter or Facebook and I will get a swarm of replies saying “what do you need?”. How wonderful is that? My world became enormous and the true nature of my friends revealed. I am blessed because of this revelation. :D

    • I live in California and am an empty nester. We do know our neighbors and do have a sense of community. I love it when our neighborhood is brought together and we talk more, help each other more, relate more. I have lived here for 25 years so I have had a lot of time to get to know others here. I love to walk and one reason is because it gives me the chance to talk with neighbors.

  57. We live in a very quiet apartment complex, and I long to know our neighbors! I always try to talk to them if I happen to see anyone in the hallways, but everyone else seems to be very private and quiet. I’m not complaining that we have a quiet apartment, but…I do miss the interaction and friendships.
    .-= Nikki Moore´s last blog ..My True Feelings About Lawn Care (late night imagination) =-.

  58. I live in a city of about 4 million (not counting the burbs) and while I am on a quiet, picturesque street with friendly faces who know and talk to one another, I don’t feel like I’m part of the community. Don’t get me wrong. I want to be. But my neighbor, the woman in the house next to me, is the neighborhood gossip and she is in everyone’s business, and we are pretty private people who like to mind our own business, so having her in this mix does not bode well for us. And so we remove ourselves from the community.

    We say hi, we make small talk and nothing more. We rely on people who live much further away, who are friends, but we’re planning on moving to a smaller city or town and hope to change this. We would like to be a part of the community, and raise a family where people can trust each other with their kids. We hope to get there.
    .-= JT´s last blog ..My playground faux pas =-.

  59. I live in classic suburbia and I try to find a balance between not being a busy-body, but also knowing our neighbors well enough to offer help if they need it or ask for a cup of sugar if I need. (Really, I have asked for sugar, eggs, etc!) The added benefit of knowing my neighbors is my kids, as a result, have many places all along their way to school that are familiar to them and where they feel safe. As a mom, I appreciate knowing that my neighbors are all looking out for my kids when they’re on their own, as am I looking out for theirs.

  60. We live on a small military base in San Diego, and sadly we don’t know our neighbors. We even live on a cul-de-sac, and in my previous experiences that usually makes for a more neighborly atmosphere. We’ve lived here for six years, and tried to get to know the people around us, but everyone seems to stick to themselves. Despite having lots of kids on the street we are the only parents that take our son outside to play. It just really isn’t what I thought it would be, but we are moving soon so I hope we can get that nice community feel the next place we go.

  61. We originally chose the neighborhood we live in now partly because of how it seemed when we drove thru the first time – kids playing in the streets waved to us, people across the street form the house we looked at stopped by and visited on the sidewalk – it was very welcoming! Now that we’ve been in for 5 years we know the names of the close neighbors but don’t hang out together like I originally hoped we would. Our kids are different ages, with ours being the youngest. We’re committing to being outside more this summer and I think that will help a lot. I always think of those older nieghborhoods with Craftsman homes with big porches and neighbors out every night. Sounds so ideal!
    .-= Karissa´s last blog ..Text Storm Your Mom =-.

  62. I know most my neighbors as strictly a ‘hello’ basis. We are the only family on the cul de sac that have kids, everyone else is older. I was so excited to move to a cul de sac because I pictured block parties and fun. Instead, most the people stay inside, even hiring others to do their yard work. We are friends with our neighbor across the street, that is about it.

    I guess it has its advantages and disadvantages. I do have the one friend that I can borrow milk and such from. I can be in my yard and pretty much be left alone. But I do sometimes wish to have that neighborly couple that I could play cards with.

    I will say this though, even our ‘acquaintance’ neighbors would look out for our house, so that is good. I do miss the type of neighborhood I grew up in where everyone sat on their porches and talked to each other. But, you just don’t know these things until you move in.
    .-= Kris´s last blog ..Making the Most of Being Unemployed or Under Employed – Working Toward Figuring Out What You REALLY Want to Do =-.

  63. We just built a house on a cul-de-sac in an established neighborhood. There are five other houses on our street, and I’ve met every one of them. They’re all very nice except one couple, who I think are a few cards short of a deck, anyway. So I leave them alone. None of us just hangs out or anything.

    I have other friends but do feel that something is missing in my life with regard to people and friends who I can count on. Have many of you found large groups of friends through church? My husband and I are trying to find a place that feels like “home,” but it’s a challenge!
    .-= Kelli´s last blog ..Tuesday Truth #10 – I can’t stop looking =-.

  64. We do know our neighbors. I’ve lived for lengths of time in two neighborhoods here in St. Paul and new folks both places. I would put myself in the “chatty” category which probably helps. In our current neighborhood we have a monthly neighborhood knitting night where I have met lots and lots of neighborhood women. Also, we value just hanging out in the yard versus having lots of planned activities so I find myself chatting with other moms while our rugrats run around. I have very fond memories of my neighborhood growing up and I hope our kids do, too.
    .-= minnesota madre | Sarah Jane´s last blog ..random tuesday =-.

  65. I grew up in a upper middle class neighborhood in the midwest and although we had neighbors we didn’t really have “neighbors.” My husband and I are packed in a teeny house in a lower income area with our four kiddos and I feel like I finally have neighbors. We know their names, we make take meals when trouble comes or there is new baby. We walk my oldest daughter to school and I never want to move. I think we are taught to want MORE. More space, more land, more privacy, more distance from other people. Maybe what we really need is LESS.

    • Well said. I’ve heard that from friends, that when they live in lower-class neighborhoods, you get to know each other better. Not as much driving straight into the garage kind-of living, in a sense.

      I’ve heard that because it’s also sometimes not as safe, it’s beneficial to know and trust your neighbors well, and when that happens, there’s more of a sense of fostered community. You look out for each other. Interesting…

  66. we are actually on our way across country (military move) back to the east coast from california. our last home was in a military community with a nearby neighborhood school we could walk to. i was so blessed to meet some incredible families (several blocks away) with whom we grilled out with, played together (a huge posse of little kids) and helped eachother out. these same friends watched our kids while we were packing out and cleaned the home with us for the inspection too!! everywhere we have been stationed the lord has provided friendships that have been more then surfacey. something i try and remember is to be intentionally praying for relationships in our new homes. he always provides. so for those of you who are wondering how to get starte – start with prayer. who knows you may be an answer to someone else’s prayer.

  67. Growing up in New York City, I always had a kind of “I’m too busy to get to know the neighbors” kind of attitude; I was content to smile and nod on the way in or out. Of course, after I had kids, I wanted the whole Ozzie and Harriet thing and moved to a very family-oriented neighborhood, where it seems that everyone, including the store clerks and mailman, can greet each other by name. Interestingly enough, though, we don’t ever really make plans to do anything with the neighbors. Most conversations or meetings are impromptu…running into each other at the market, or while taking the trash out to the curb.
    .-= Tisha Berg´s last blog ..Biz Mommy of the Week: Micki Berg =-.

  68. To be honest, we know the last name of one of our neighbors, and that’s only because our mailboxes are next to each other. We’re getting ready to build a house in a new subdivision, and my hope is that we will be able to get to know a number of the people in our neighborhood.

  69. We’ve always been quite involved in our church, but the past 4.5 years, we’ve lived in a very community oriented neighborhood. I think several factors are at work here: we’re in an older neighborhood (our house is 80 years old), so nearly everyone has specifically chosen to live HERE as opposed to the nice, new neighborhoods a few miles away. We’re in a neighborhood that not only has a history to it, but continues to function as its own little community with grocery stores, banks, etc. all within a couple of miles. The rest of the “real city” our address label points to is distinct from our little area. In addition to picking a neighborly area in which to live, we have made it a point to take neighbors up on their offers (someone walking by when you’re in the yard says “Oh, you should come see my roses sometime if you like to garden.” We take them up on it.). We initiate: calling a next door neighbor up and just asking if I can borrow some sugar starts the ball rolling. We bring food to new neighbors, new parents, etc. Those of us who’ve been here a few years are all on an informal email list, so we keep each other up to date of anything significant (births, deaths, moves, etc.). It’s a very organic group–nothing official–but we’ve become quite connected because everyone makes the effort. No one has garages and everyone seems to like to take walks–we see people more than in the new neighborhoods where people pull into their garages and go straight into the house without being seen by anyone on the street. Also, since we’re all in older homes, there’s ALWAYS some home improvement project that people can help out with! So, find an older neighborhood!

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    KAS141 says:

    DH and I recently moved to a new neighborhood where there are a lot of young families, and we were told that everyone was friendly and had neighborhood “get-togethers” all the time. We had come from a similar townhouse community, so this sounded like a dream come true! We don’t have kids (yet, TTC #1), and honestly, you’d think we were aliens! Initially the neighbors were friendly, but after the “Do you have kids?” question, they don’t speak to us again. Really strange, kind of makes me feel like I’m in high school again with the “neighborhood clique”.

  71. I know some of my neighbours here in Jerusalem. I wouldn’t think twice about knocking on some of their doors and asking to borrow an egg, or a cup of sugar, adn they do the same to me. The young kids around the place are in adn out of each others’ houses, adn even the family across from us, who sometimes have their baby grandson come for childminding are ahppy for my kids to go over and play in their yard.

    What made me really feel like part of a community was when one of the local shopkeepers noticed I hadn’t been in to his shop for a week or 23, and asked me next time I went in if everything was OK, and the time I left my credit card in the other local shop, and the shopkeeper saw me in the street the next day and told me that they had it, was I going to come in and pick it up today or will they put it in the safe to keep it until tomorrow?!

  72. I was just at Borders Bookstore & came across a book about just this topic (In the Neighborhood- I think). It’s about a neighborhood where a murder takes place. This event makes the author realize how little he knows his neighbors and he sets out to get to know them. I’m thinking this post is a sign I should pick up that book and start getting more social close to home =)
    .-= Carla´s last blog ..On Fire =-.

  73. My question is: Do I have a right to know the names and more about my neighbors, and everybody in my town?

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