Interview and giveaway: Mindset for Moms

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I‘m speaking at Blissdom this weekend, so I thought it’d be fun today to publish a little interview I did this week with my friend (and editor of Simple Homeschool!) Jamie Martin. She’s the voice of Steady Days, advocate of Love146, and all around cool cat. (You should see her dance moves! I have.)

Me: Mindset for Moms is all about changing our thinking, not changing our circumstances. Why is this so important for moms?

Jamie: I think Martha Washington put it best when she said, “I am still determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may be. For I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”

The workload of most moms, especially those with young children at home, can be grueling at times, and we can’t always change the actual circumstances we find ourselves in. It’s a tragedy for us to wish away these precious, once-in-a-lifetime days, yet I know I’m not the only one who has wasted time with thoughts like, “If only my kids were older, if only I could sleep through the night, if only we had a better home or more money.” When we fall into negative thought patterns like these, we run the risk of living life through “someday” lenses. We push our happiness and joy away.

But when we realize that much of our life experience depends on our perspective, we begin to learn that we can make our lives what we want them to be, we can want what we already have, we can live our dream life NOW, not putting our hopes on a shelf for another time. As I share in the book, this epiphany led me to learn more about mindset, which ended up transforming my own, and eventually made me so excited about this message that I felt I had to share it with others. The amazing part of all of this is that often when we work on changing our thinking, we find that our circumstances end up changing as well. I believe God loves to give us the worthwhile desires of our heart; we collaborate with Him when we keep our minds focused on gratitude instead of grumbling.

Me: So give me an example of when changing your own mindset changed your attitude.

Jamie: Positive thinking has seen me through many ups and downs of life: a move cross-country with two babies, the dream I had since a child to be a writer, the desire for a new home that would better suit our needs, and the roller coaster of emotions that arose from our attempt to add a fourth child to our family. I share all these stories and more in the book.

But the importance of a positive attitude is also present in less dramatic situations each and every day. Take today, for example. My husband is out of the country on a work trip for the second time this month, I’m handling the kids solo for several days, and I didn’t get enough sleep last night. My current lesson in life is that happiness is in the right now…this moment.

So often we mistakenly outsource our joy to another place or time. But I’ve learned, “No, it’s this life. This life I chose. This life God blessed me with. This moment right here—with silly kids, and toilets to scrub, and laundry to fold—this is the good stuff.” That really resonates with me now, and even in the midst of the daily grind I see the wonders of what it means to live my soul purpose. That is the place of transformation. And that’s also the message I hope readers of my book take with them.

Me: What was the book writing experience like? How long did it take you to write it; what was your daily routine, etc.?

Jamie: The inspired idea for this e-book came as I was in the bath at the end of a long day last summer. My husband Steve looked a bit bewildered as I grabbed my journal and started jotting down the thoughts that buzzed around my head. (Yes, I put clothes on first!)

It took about six months to write. I worked on it here, there, and everywhere: every Tuesday evening, in the early mornings, during the kids’ rest times, and while they watched videos. I also put it away whenever I felt stressed about it, determined to practice the message in it. I trusted that it would be finished when it was finished, and that the timing would be perfect. It has been.


Jamie wants to give TEN Simple Mom readers a copy of Mindset for Moms! To enter, leave a comment telling me why you—or someone you love—could use this book. (If you’re reading this via email, you must click over to the post to comment.)

This giveaway will end Saturday night, February 25. I’ll announce the winner soon after!

Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is the founder of this blog and just finished traveling around the world with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

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  1. I almost never try to win giveaways, BUT finding joy in the life that I am given is something I’ve been working on. I think this book will be a much need push forward for many many mothers.

  2. I struggle with keeping a positive mindset. A new outlook would be a great blessing!

  3. I’m in the thick of it (4 & 2 yr. olds and a 3 mo. old) and very much trying to practice the message of this book. Would love to receive some additional insight and encouragement!

  4. I am a mother of 3 wee ones (6, 3, & 13mos). I struggle daily, even hourly, to silence the negative voices inside my head. I “try” practicing living in the moment, but feel the “good” moments are only fleeting. I feel misunderstood and alone in this journey of motherhood. It would be comforting to gain some insight on how to turn my mindset around and feel enlightened. I mostly miss feeling joy.

  5. Sarah Raines says:

    What a fantastic idea for a book. I (a seasoned full time working mom of 3) could benefit from an attitude adjustment, and this would also be great for some moms to be that I know. Thanks for sharing this with us.

  6. I’ve been in kind of a slump lately and this book sounds just up my alley. I need to focus more on appreciating what I have and this book sounds inspirational!

  7. I have just made a life-changing decision to quit my job as a teacher and desires to focus on a job that wouldn’t take me away so much from my boys. Their dad just passed a year ago and I believe that we are all not fully over our grieving. We can all use the examples and experiences shared from the book from a mom’s perspective.

  8. I would like to win this book for myself…I have a problem living and being happy in this moment.

  9. I would love to win this book:). I am going through a particularly difficult time with my middle child & have been guilty of thinking – boy, can’t wait till this stage is over!

  10. I could so use a book like this. I use to think that way before children. I have been working on and focusing on seeing the good in situations and life. I try when the kids are driving me to the funny farm. Though that’s the toughest part. Then later I beat my self up realizing I messed up again and how I missed the perfect opportunity to teach, love, to learn, cherish the moment….
    Then there is my hubby. Oh how he could use this book. he stresses so much about work, money, the economy giving our 3 girls all they need and some of the wants. He gets so focused on the negative and forgets the joy in every day life.

  11. I felt such a connection with Jamie when I read this as I too just moved across the country (well halfway) with an infant, have always had a dream of being a writer, and struggle with “if only” every once and a while!

    Also, what an awesome quote from Martha Washington!

    Thank you for putting this together!

  12. Jen @ A Living Family says:

    Literally the answer to an unspoken prayer in my heart (and my husbands’ as well). I’ve learned optimism will only get you so far … faith on the other hand will take you as far as you need to go.

  13. I would love t read this book. I’ve got two little ones and one due in two months and I really need an attitude adjustment most days. I really struggle with living in the here and now and being grateful for the plan God has for me. I think this book sounds like just the thing I need!

  14. Jocelyn O'Leary says:

    I’m intrigued by this book and think it would be a tremendous blessing in my life. I have three sons (4, 3, and 1) and a little peanut due in September. My second son, Charlie, has cerebral palsy. Being a special needs Mom is both exhausting and isolating. I am grateful that God chose me to be Charlie’s Mom, but I often feel that I am in survival mode. To have tools that would help me move from survival into both living and thriving in the moment would be a gift to myself and my family.

  15. “Organized Simplicity” changed my mindset about what I want and need from our home in order to have the best life for my family, so any book that Tsh recommends is probably a good and worthwhile read! I have a 16-month-old who is torn between trying to nap and trying to play at this moment, and a baby due to arrive in 7 weeks. Maybe I’ll be too busy to read, but I’d like to try!

  16. Teresa Galashan says:

    I have always found the “Serenity Prayer” to be a helpful way to understand the world, myself and others. I am more of a “change the situation” kind of girl, and God is teaching me to change my attitude instead–more than anything, He’s teaching me that through my children (ages 9 mo, 2 years and 5 years). I would love to read this book as an avenue for God to show me more about how to do that in practical and loving ways.

  17. I spent an hour this morning with a screaming, crying 2 year old who was too hungry to calm down, and too upset to eat. I need a little perspective!

  18. I would LOVE to read this book. Right now, I have a toddler gifted in tantrums, I nanny a cholic-y 5 month old (my house has LOTS of screaming on any given day), and I’m 18 weeks pregnant. Everyday feels like a battle to want to be there. So I would love encouragemetn on my attitude!

  19. Heather Myhr says:

    I would love to get a copy of this book. I’ve been thinking about purchasing it as I know my attitude/mindset is something I need to work on. I would love suggestions and simple steps for working on it as I know I need to learn to be not so negative.

  20. I would love to give this book to my sister-in-law. She’s having a hard time right now.

  21. So often in the evening I reflect back on my day and realize that while I may have crossed a bunch of things off my to-do list, I’ve often skipped over the chances to sit on the floor and actually play with my kids or snuggle on the couch and read them another story. And it makes me sad because I know that those are the moments that I will look back on and cherish. I’ve struggled my entire adult life to “live in the now”. Any book that serves as a reminder to live each day they way it is right now is welcome on my bookshelf.

  22. I’m participating in a mindfulness workgroup with a group of local moms and have really enjoyed it so far. I think this e-book would be a great topic of discussion for the group.

  23. I have a major problem with being contented. My kids are 5, 3, and 8 months; the oldest has ADHD. I know the days are flying past, but I have a hard time loving the mom life.

  24. Julie Holland says:

    I’ve been waiting 3 years for a second baby, and being patient is hard. I’d love to enjoy my family more while I wait.

  25. I would love this book. This week I have been in kind of a “survival”mentality with my children. Not happy about that and would love encouragement to be in a good frame of mind no matter what the circumstances are . 🙂 Thanks for the opportunity.

  26. A friend of mine is determined to take a “Summer Retreat” from her family. She wants to move to an apartment for the summer and live on her own, so she can figure out what’s going on in her head. She is rejecting her husband and her two boys. She fails to listen to any reason or to the Holy Spirit’s prompting. She needs this book… something has to get through to her.

  27. I am blessed to be able to stay at home with my two children and I love my job! Just like all jobs, mine is more difficult on some days than others. My oldest is 3 1/2 and on our tough days, I question my mothering abilites, I know I can learn to do better!

  28. I could really use this book. As a relatively new mom, I’m still trying to figure everything out. Having a baby really made me want to simplify and prioritize. The problem is I put so many things on my to-do list that will make life better for me/us and put unnecessary pressure on myself. I think shifting my perspective would help me ease the pressure on myself and enjoy this special time in my life.

  29. Thanks for a chance…I could use this. I work full time and have 3 kids…and I’m so tired sometimes! I need a new mindset because I want to fully enjoy the precious time I have with them! Amy

  30. I second the motion of what Mom doesn’t need this book! We’re all doing the best we can with the circumstances we have been given. All Moms deserve a little support along the way and quite honestly it’s not given often. So we support each other… in person, on the phone, through the mail or via the internet.

  31. I have 5 kids, 13, 11, 8, 5, 2 and one due in July so any help I can get is greatly appreciated!! I would love to win this book!

  32. I’m constantly preaching to my family the difference between NEEDING something, and WANTING something, and I truly believe this corresponds nicely with the book’s theme of “changing our thinking, not changing our circumstances.” There are things in life that can be changed, and if they need to be, do it – otherwise, make lemonade out of those lemons!

    As a mom of a senior, a 5th grader and a kindergartner, who works outside of the home and still strives to be the best mom and wife I can, I face challenges across the board; but I’m learning not to wish a single second of it away. I’ve even adapted a new ideal for lent – I’m trying to refocus by focusing more on the little things: the here, the now. During these 40 days, I hope to find a new mindset that can help me through Lent, summer and beyond!

    I’ve just now gotten back into reading after an oh-so-long hiatus, so I would L-O-V-E a good book to help me “do it better!”

  33. I would love to read this book because try as we might…we can all use a little mindset adjustment:)

  34. Eliza Hinckley says:

    My only son is adopted and had a traumatic early history. This has lead to attachment disorder, ptsd and sensory disfuction. My everyday is really tough with him because he suffers alot and makes our house chaos. Everyone is recommending that I get help so I am in a good place because as the saying goes “If mama ain’t happy nobody is happy”. So, I think this book might help me along my path.

  35. This sounds like just what I need right now!

  36. I would love this book. I feel like I say way too often, “it will be easier when the kids are older.” I want to appreciate every minute even when my head is pounding and I’m tired!

  37. This sounds so beautiful Jamie. I loved your first book and felt that your message of “professional motherhood” came to me at the right time. I look forward to reading this one too.

  38. I have had a few good cries about this very thing lately. I often feel like I am wasting away the here and now that I am blessed to have at home with my two sons (3 and 9 months) by focusing on the future worries about having to go back to work (in 6 months). I don’t want to miss the joys of the sticky faces and silly games now while I worry about what ifs that may not need to be worried about. I really need to be more mindful of the small moments and be more intentional in experiencing them. This book seems like just the resource I have been praying for.

  39. I have three kids and sometimes feel the drudge of every day tasks. I would love to read the book.

  40. As a mom with three little ones (one just a week old!) I can use all the encouragement I can get. And as I recover from a third C-section, I suspect that the message is particularly timely. Thank you for the opportunity.

  41. I was just thinking of your book this morning. I was having a particularly trying time with my three-year-old son and thinking, “I so want to be saying something besides ‘no’ to you and I so want to be enjoying our time together, rather than just feeling we are ‘getting through’ this.” So I’ll give myself one more chance to win the book, but if not, I’m purchasing. Because this is the life I chose and I do want it to be more intentional and in the moment.

  42. I am a wife and mother of three. I struggle with the idea of finding my true purpose. Am I already following God’s will or is there more I need to do?

  43. I feel like this ebook was written for me!! I have definitely been living in the “trenches” lately, with three little ones 3 and under. I have been so convicted about my lack of joy during what I know are precious years and would love the encouragement of this book to help me! Thanks so much for writing this!

  44. Shannon Belgarde says:

    I need this book! I feel so frustrated every time we leave the house. It seems I can’t keep my cool when trying to hurry everyone up. I need a new outlook. I’m tired of apologizing to my kids every day!

  45. We went to an open house for kindergarten last night–for the child who was just a baby yesterday, it seems! Definitely trying to keep a mindset of savoring the moments.

  46. You’re book sounds wonderful. I’m a stay-at-home mom with a 10 month old, and I feel blessed to have the opportunity to be home with my daughter, but there are many times I find it hard to live in the moment as you talk about. Your books sounds like a great read, and seems to address what I long for as a mom and wife.

  47. I think this book has a good message for everyone–moms or not! I’d like to read it and share it with my daughters. Thanks for the giveaway.

  48. I’ve got a ton of negative circumstances in my life right now, and need help making some good come of them.

  49. Like so many other commenters I have kids…so this would be super helpful. I have a group of moms who share books so if I win it would benefit about 5 of us. 🙂

  50. I have three kiddos- ages, 4, 3, 2. I am living the life I always dreamed about since I was a little girl being a home-maker with little ones but for some reason I don’t see it as so dreamy now that I am here. It’s so easy to think the grass is greener some where else (like before we had kiddos) and I know that is a lie. I would like a copy of this book for some encouragement and direction of how to intentionally focus my thoughts on Christ and finding more joy in the mundane on child-raising.

  51. This book sounds like it would be an answer to my prayers. I’m approaching motherhood – coming up mid-April with the birth of our first baby! – and already feel trapped by a life that isn’t even happening yet. I desperately want to seek balance… I want to be able to believe that my dreams won’t go away… that the leap my husband and I took was the right one and God will keep on blessing us. This book seems like it would help me.

  52. Oh I’d love to win this! Not only for myself, but for the many moms I work with in my health coaching practice.

  53. My daughter is two; I’m told after I blink my eyes twice she’ll be graduating from high school. I want to make sure I don’t wish away all the moments in between by wishing ahead to the next milestone.

  54. This attitude adjustment has been so much on my heart lately. I’ve got 8- and 5-yr-old boys who seem to challenge me at every turn (sometimes for my betterment, too often not). Would love the encouragement and reminder!

  55. I love my life as a mom to three, but I’m always love reading parenting books for encouragement.

  56. As I type, I’m still trying to cool down from a very taxing last 30 minutes with my 3 year old son. At a lost of how to respond and praying in the midst of it all, I put him down for an early nap. My 10 month old is rolling around in his crib and I’m quietly hushing him back to sleep…”please, just another few minutes.” I love my kiddos so I’m interested in what Jamie has to say about mindsets. Her words seem very fitting for me right now. What a school motherhood is! Yep. =)

  57. I would love to win a copy of this book myself. . . Living with 3 kids far away from family is at times taxing. It seems that this book could provide some guidance to maintain positive.

  58. This book sounds perfect for my wonderful sister-in-law who is raising three great kids, including one with autism. She could use a gift just for her!

  59. As a single mom of two very active little ones, I could always use a little help – and this book could definitely help!

  60. Big family life is the life for us; God abundantly gifted us with 6! Have always desired life to be simple and in balance with God’s priorities. Would love to read this book!!

  61. I already have Mindset for Moms and don’t need to be entered in the giveaway. Just wanted to say what a beautiful family you have, Jamie.

  62. Beth Crawford says:

    Would love the book–I have three littles too!

  63. I have too many days where I wish my life was more like that of the no-kids wife next door, who is always flying off to exotic locations, going out to “adult” dinners, going to the movies at 6pm. At 6pm, I am frantically trying to figure out how to dress up the green beans so that the kids will eat them. And I still have dishes to wash, kids to bathe, stories to read…and all I can do is stare at the clock and wish I could fast forward an hour or two, to the time where it is just me.
    I want and wish I could enjoy my kids more, but I can’t shake the feeling that there is more to life than what’s in front of me now-3 kids under the age of 6. I want to be able to look at my life and cherish it.

  64. I would love to receive this book, I have two kids and I am always looking for ways to become a better mom.

  65. I related so much with what you said in your interview – thank you for sharing! This is EXACTLY what I am focusing on this Lent. I think your book would be a great help to me right now! Thank you!

  66. Wow, as a homeschool mom of three, I could use some help in all areas of life,especially when my main job is as mother, so I would appreciate it sooo much if I won a copy of this book…. there’s always room for inspiration from someone in your shoes or someone who’s been there, done that. 🙂

  67. I am the mom of 3 and the caregiver of 8. I am hungry for reminders to savor the moments and not let the junk of the day get in the way.

  68. Oh, how I needed this today. As I sat here ending week 4 of a one week bathroom remodel and a toilet STILL in my living room, I was giving way to discouragement rather than embracing my family life in the now. What a good reminder that it’s my choice to live life with joy, I’m not a prisoner to my circumstances. I’d love to read her whole book.

  69. I could use this book because I find myself continually reminding myself of how little time I have left with my kids – and I want to mindset to enjoy every minute of it!

  70. I would love to win this. I have three kids–7, 5, and 2 1/2, homeschool my middle child, and also freelance about 20 hours a week from home. Life is full and I often find that I don’t experience the joy I want to have because I’m often running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Sounds like this book would be a real encouragement! Thanks for the opportunity.

  71. I’m a mom of 2 wonderful kids and would love to win a copy of this book. We work hard to have balance in our house especially with a Husband/Dad who works multiple jobs and is going to college nights. We do our best to support one another and help each other get through all that we need to. I think the contents of this book can only add to our hard working family…

  72. I could use this book, and share it with my circle of friends, because I often get lost in the sludge and drudge of child-rearing. I am trying to think more about “this too shall pass” and BE with them, in their zen moments. But, oh, to be inspired would help.

  73. I am a Mom of a 3 and a 1 year old. That’s why I need this book 🙂 Plus, this would be a great book for all young moms to read, it sounds like.

  74. Thank you for your encouraging words. I look forward to reading your book. I will enter in hopes of winning a copy! Why could I use this book…..well, in the past few years our family has gone through the agony & heartbreak of an adult child addicted to drugs, job loss & moving 2,600 miles for a new one (& back again a couple of years later), raising our grandson, raising our granddaughter & having her taken away by our son in recovery….and in the midst of it all I am struggling to find the joy & blessings in each day.

  75. Oh boy! This book looks amazing! I have 2 little girls (ages 6 and 2 1/2) and the word “mundane” goes through my mind A LOT! I could def. use some “marvelous” thinking! 🙂

  76. Could really use this book! Looks so useful.

  77. I would love a copy of this book! I have a 19 month old and right now have no desire for other children b/c I can’t wait to get out of this stage, I can’t wait for her to be older. I need to relish this time b/c it will never happen again. I need an attitude adjustment, really.

  78. What an enlightening interview and generouse give away. I need this because I find myself in a contentious relationship with my 4yr old son and a distant relationship with my 12 yr old daughter. My husband and I have begun marriage counciling, which has us sacrificing in other areas to cover the expense. I’m tired of simply reacting to what life throws at me, I want to begin to make conscious choices in regards to where my path leads. Joy and serenity is difinitely my ultimate goal. I feel this book could help me create that goal.

  79. I want this book because well…Who doesn’t need an attitude adjustment, at least sometimes?

  80. I’m a mom to 2 precious little girls. It’s tough! I think all moms could benefit from this book!

  81. Rachelle potter says:

    This is so where I am in my learning too, really great insights. My Fav quote at the moment is, “often God doesn’t change our circumstances, but He changes US in those circumstances”. I’m finding the key to be gratefulness in everything, finding the good, in all things. I’d love to read this book, as the key is in our thinking, and I so desire to learn and grow even more. And in our busy household of 7, making the time to read, grow and learn is sometimes hard, but always rewarding 🙂

  82. Jen Jandreau says:

    I would love this book! As a mother to 3 boys (10, 8, and 11 weeks) and one more baby on the way, I can use all the help I can get! As wonderful as my kids are….

  83. I quit my job to stay home w/my 2 young sons, and it’s not all that I had hoped it would be. It’s much tougher than I thought, and sometimes I feel like I have no purpose in life, except for cleaning toilets & getting them to do things they don’t want to do. I spend a lot of time escaping via the computer, even though I want to live in the moment and spend more time enjoying life with them. I think this book would help me in this endeavor.

  84. I can’t wait to read this book. If have 5 children all five years and under. And they are all home with me. Every day I feel like my own personal Tony Horton trying to prepare and make it through a successful day!

  85. Beth Dempsey says:

    I would love to read this book and find it very relevant to my life right now. I also have lots of friends I could share it with!

  86. OH wow, I need this book!! I have been struggling with being content with my circumstances every day lately… which is tough for me to sort through these emotions, because I am normally a very optimistic, positive person. I could really use a new perspective on gratitude, and some encouragement in this area.. please pick me!!!!! 🙂

  87. I’ve recently made some major life changing decisions and think this book sounds like just the inspiration I’ve been searching for!

  88. I would love this book! I need to learn to change how I view caring for kids.

  89. Dana Bacon says:

    Would LOVE to win a copy! Thanks so much – I’m a mom of 4 year old twins and could use all the help I can get!

  90. Brandi Watson says:

    I could use this book. I’m always daydreaming about when I will have a bigger house, a nice school room, better curriculum… I need to change my thinking, not my circumstances. I would love to win this book!

  91. I am a mom that is juggling childrearing, working from home and being a good wife. I could use this book to remind me to live in the moment and enjoy every minute with my family.

  92. I need this book! I have a busy 18 month old son and I will be delivering a sweet little sister for him on Tuesday! My husband is a pilot and owns his own business so he is gone all the time. I already get overwhelmed with just being pregnant and taking care of my son on my own when the husband is gone. I know it will be much harder with a newborn!

  93. This sounds like an amazing book. Thanks for the great post!

  94. I am a mom to 5 children ages 8-15. I am a stay at home mom who has made the choice to stay present for my family. I love serving them and making them feel loved. I look forward to reading your book as a way to keep focused on them when I have “one of those days.”

  95. I would love to have a copy of this book. I am a mother of three who loves being a mom!

  96. We just moved and are missing home. This book would be a blessing to us as we start our new life.

  97. I would love to win this book very much. I have a dear friend who just started the adventure in homeschooling her two children. I know she is going to do a wonderful job with this, but, she is worried about how well she will do and if she is going to be good enough to teach them. I have told her “of course you will” with the Lords help there is nothing he did not prepare you for with regards to your children. With this being said I feel like this book will be a great thing for her to read and give her the encouraging she needs..

  98. we can’t always change the actual circumstances we find ours-so true I wish I could see the positive side of my babies death at three months old I want to wake up and choose happiness or sadness.

  99. I am a stay at home mom who is desperately trying not to rip her hair out. I want to be able to enjoy the formative years of my children’s lives, but I struggle with everything! I could really use this book to help me refocus, because I am just a tired and worn-out mom.

  100. I’ve been going through a season of “mom discontent”. I suspect nothing in this book will surprise me, but I need a kick and restart motivation from somewhere. May as well be this book as anything else….