Interview and giveaway: Mindset for Moms

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I‘m speaking at Blissdom this weekend, so I thought it’d be fun today to publish a little interview I did this week with my friend (and editor of Simple Homeschool!) Jamie Martin. She’s the voice of Steady Days, advocate of Love146, and all around cool cat. (You should see her dance moves! I have.)

Me: Mindset for Moms is all about changing our thinking, not changing our circumstances. Why is this so important for moms?

Jamie: I think Martha Washington put it best when she said, “I am still determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may be. For I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”

The workload of most moms, especially those with young children at home, can be grueling at times, and we can’t always change the actual circumstances we find ourselves in. It’s a tragedy for us to wish away these precious, once-in-a-lifetime days, yet I know I’m not the only one who has wasted time with thoughts like, “If only my kids were older, if only I could sleep through the night, if only we had a better home or more money.” When we fall into negative thought patterns like these, we run the risk of living life through “someday” lenses. We push our happiness and joy away.

But when we realize that much of our life experience depends on our perspective, we begin to learn that we can make our lives what we want them to be, we can want what we already have, we can live our dream life NOW, not putting our hopes on a shelf for another time. As I share in the book, this epiphany led me to learn more about mindset, which ended up transforming my own, and eventually made me so excited about this message that I felt I had to share it with others. The amazing part of all of this is that often when we work on changing our thinking, we find that our circumstances end up changing as well. I believe God loves to give us the worthwhile desires of our heart; we collaborate with Him when we keep our minds focused on gratitude instead of grumbling.

Me: So give me an example of when changing your own mindset changed your attitude.

Jamie: Positive thinking has seen me through many ups and downs of life: a move cross-country with two babies, the dream I had since a child to be a writer, the desire for a new home that would better suit our needs, and the roller coaster of emotions that arose from our attempt to add a fourth child to our family. I share all these stories and more in the book.

But the importance of a positive attitude is also present in less dramatic situations each and every day. Take today, for example. My husband is out of the country on a work trip for the second time this month, I’m handling the kids solo for several days, and I didn’t get enough sleep last night. My current lesson in life is that happiness is in the right now…this moment.

So often we mistakenly outsource our joy to another place or time. But I’ve learned, “No, it’s this life. This life I chose. This life God blessed me with. This moment right here—with silly kids, and toilets to scrub, and laundry to fold—this is the good stuff.” That really resonates with me now, and even in the midst of the daily grind I see the wonders of what it means to live my soul purpose. That is the place of transformation. And that’s also the message I hope readers of my book take with them.

Me: What was the book writing experience like? How long did it take you to write it; what was your daily routine, etc.?

Jamie: The inspired idea for this e-book came as I was in the bath at the end of a long day last summer. My husband Steve looked a bit bewildered as I grabbed my journal and started jotting down the thoughts that buzzed around my head. (Yes, I put clothes on first!)

It took about six months to write. I worked on it here, there, and everywhere: every Tuesday evening, in the early mornings, during the kids’ rest times, and while they watched videos. I also put it away whenever I felt stressed about it, determined to practice the message in it. I trusted that it would be finished when it was finished, and that the timing would be perfect. It has been.


Jamie wants to give TEN Simple Mom readers a copy of Mindset for Moms! To enter, leave a comment telling me why you—or someone you love—could use this book. (If you’re reading this via email, you must click over to the post to comment.)

This giveaway will end Saturday night, February 25. I’ll announce the winner soon after!

Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is the founder of this blog and just finished traveling around the world with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

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  1. Can I say Jamie C. Martin is my hero? Because she is. I love this lady and her approach to life. So often when I feel rudderless, Jamie, I think of you. So glad to know ya, my dear, dear friend. xo

  2. I think my SIL would really benefit from this book. She has a 3 year old little girl and a baby boy on the way. I’ve really sensed a lot of stress from her over the past couple of months – big life changes on the way, being away from extended family, difficult circumstances with some friends. I think she could really use some encouragement from another mom!

  3. My best friend is a single working mother and I think she could definitely use this book. She always says she wishes she could enjoy her kids more.

  4. I would love to win this book! I have reached the point where I know I need to recapture the Lord’s vision for what my life as a mother should look like. The day in/day out-ness of life with three young, and especially one high need toddler have worn me down.

  5. My biggest struggle is with worry. I would love to read this book as an encouragement to manage our thoughts better, especially as we mother impressionable young minds!

  6. I’m a busy mom of two little girls. I work part-time. My husband & I are thinking of moving this spring and all routines are in chaos at the prospect. I need to figure out how to embrace this chaos, and not spiral into the abyss. How to keep a happy, healthy mommy mindset throughout the process? Oh please help!

  7. I do have a tendency to outsource my joy. I’m working on this lately, and would love to see what Jamie has to say about it.

  8. With a husband that works away half the year, I am sure this book could help me improve my mindset when facing the day to day with my three little lovelies.

  9. I am really struggling with balance and need help focusing on small joys!

  10. Our firstborn is just 3 weeks old. We had a horrible night last night (he woke up every hour screaming his head off!) and I just sat in the rocker in his room crying, not knowing what else to do (as all his needs were met!) What a great reminder to wake up to this morning- and it sounds like this book might be helpful on this new journey I’m on called mommy hood!

    • Sarah, I just wanted to let you know I will be praying for you and your new adventure. I am a mommy to 10 and I know those sleepless nights well! I have found that I get more sleep in the first few weeks/months if when the baby wakes up I just bring them into bed with me. Of course that would need to be something you and your husband discuss and agree on. Infancy is a short time and before you know it your little one will be sleeping through the night and you’ll be ready to start all over!

  11. Cinderellamommy says:

    Three kids. Trying to focus on the moments that fly by. . .

  12. I could use this book for encouraging myself along the path of loving myself (and not being so stressed and anxious about my kids/life) and to share with my friends who also need inspiration and encouragement!

  13. I would love to win this for my sister. She just changed her schedule to work part-time. She spends the mornings with my nephew and it has been a rough start because she had so many expectations.

  14. Sounds like a great book…perfect for this season. I would love it because I can certainly relate to those issues.

  15. That sounds like a good book – it’s always nice to have some inspiration again! 🙂

  16. I think all mom’s could use this book. As one of them, that includes me 🙂

  17. I struggle with my thinking all the time! I am constant work in progress reminding myself of God’s blessings and that attitude is everything!

  18. Sleeping mom says:

    I’ve always found myself thinking, “If only he were older it would be so much easier.” it pains me to think that way because I know In a few years’ time I’ll start pining for his younger days. I already do- I reminisce about when he was an Infant as if it were all rosy and peachy but it’s because I realize how little of time you can get back once it’s gone.

    I remind myself to treasure the moment as it’s happening, however simple it may be. Sometimes I get bored talking toddler talk but quickly realize that this toddler is going to grow very soon so I try to be in the moment each and every time.

  19. I could definitely use this. Sounds like a great book to remember to enjoy in the present.

  20. I cannot wait to read this book! With three kids and working full-time it is definitely a challenge to be a positive thinker all of the time!

  21. I’m a SAHM to 5 sweet kiddos ages 5, 4, 4, 2, and 1. Enough said, right? 🙂 Also, we plan to begin homeschooling next year so our journey is going to become even more challenging!

  22. I really needed to read this today. As a child all I dreamed of was getting married and having a family. After marrying my soul mate and best friend we were told that having children may be impossible on our own. Fast forward to today, I have been married ten years with a hilarious 3 year old girl and another baby girl on the way. The Lord has truely blessed my life in every way! But lately, I’ve been feeling very tired and maybe even alittle stressed with my day to day life as a stay at home mom. I’m sure pregnacy hormones have somthing to do with it, but I hate how I’ve been feeling toward my lfe lately. I needed this wake up call to really take a look at my disposition and not my situation at the moment. Thank you so much and keep up the good work!

  23. we have only just last night decided we are going to homeschool our kids next year. I am excited and terrified, mostly of whether we will be able to embrace this new responsibility with joy and trust. We both work, own a business, and try our darnedest to maintain hearth and home along the way. It can all get a bit overwhelming at times, and it is always good to find another resource for support and new happiness-building skills!

  24. This reminds me of a conversation I just had with a good friend. She was sharing how God was teaching her that he just wanted her to be happy no matter her circumstances. I think she would really like this book.

  25. Why is being content so hard? I hate leaving my 4 kids with a babysitter; I miss them so much! But I am so run down most of the time even doing the basics: food, school, diapers that I seem to live in the future a lot. “When the oldest is ten…” “When the baby is sleeping through the night….” “When we get a house with enough bedrooms….” Where is the balance between content with your circumstance and planning for the future?

  26. I would love a copy of this book. I feel like it’s been the theme of my year so far. I have been very deliberate in trying to stay in the moment with my young children and cultivate an attitude of gratitude. The days may be long, but the years ARE short.

  27. I’m learning this mom thing one day at at time, and I’ll confess, I’m tired! And I find myself only able to read about a page at a time… but I’d love to give Mindset for Moms a try!

  28. I would love this book! I have 4 children ages 6 years old and younger and mindset is a daily challenge for me!

  29. “Perspective”. That’s one of my favorite words, something I’m always trying to gain. Numbering my days and enjoying the ‘small things’.

  30. I would love this book. I was just thinking yesterday of how my two girls are growing up so fast. And while I am blessed to stay home with them, most days I get into a rut and not really enjoying it.

  31. I would love to have a copy of Jamie’s book…
    I have been feeling overwhelmed (seriously overwhelmed) with my life as a mom and home-keeper lately. I somehow manage to think of every single thing that I need to do – all at the same time – it’s overwhelming, frustrating and, at times, almost paralyzing. Trying to push though and do a bit at a time – hoping I’ll gain momentum and get back on track.
    Thanks for this post – a refreshing outlook and a definite boost for me today : )

  32. I’m learning that attitude is a choice. This book sounds awesome. Why I’m most attracted? because Jamie said she practiced what she preached and didn’t let her project stress her life. Wow.

  33. I love the idea of learning to embrace the moment and enjoy where I am right now. Our family will most likely be moving to another state this summer, and I feel like I am on autopilot for the next few months waiting for the big change. But I want to be more intentional about my time right now.

  34. I love the idea behind this book. It’s very hard to live in the Now, especially when the Now has a lot of household chores and temper tantrums. 🙂 But it is a great life and I like the idea of reframing it toward gratitude.

  35. My husband and I have just been discussing this exact same thing this week!!

  36. I could use this book because it’s such a battle for me to get caught up in the plans…all the plans…and totally miss the simple moments with my children.

  37. Teresa Lamb-Ramirez says:

    as a single, stay at home mom of three, ages 14, 12(today) and 10, homeschooling the 10 yr old, I know I could use this book! I catch myself a lot being down on my circumstances. I want them to have wonderful memories, not memories about how mom was always stressed out. Thanks!

  38. I would love this book! We are about to start a new chapter on our lives and I need a kick start on a fresh perspective!

  39. Positive thinking is so crucial for everybody. I think moms are so hard on themselves. We question our decisions and impulses every day. I would love a recharge to the way I think AND speak. Thanks for the opportunity!

  40. I would love this book! I realize that I don’t always have the right mindset in parenting my 4 children. Also, I’m a homeschooling mother who could use some advice on having the right mindset for schooling my children along with just being a mom.

  41. I have two friends who are struggling mightily in that sleep-deprived stage of their second child’s life, with an active older child. And I think I could benefit from some of her insights as well, even though my boys are slightly older now.


  42. I can always use positive information! 2 year olds can be quite a challenge!

  43. Stephanie Brown says:

    I would so love to win a copy of this book. We are going through some real struggles right now in our family (kids growing up, husband in a bad job situation and my re-establishing my relationship with the Lord) and I feel that this book would be a great resource to get us on the right path.

  44. this book looks great! we all need to be reminded of our blessings and attitude at times, and how we have the power to change them!

  45. I have a friend i would love to give a copy of this book to. Every time we are together, she is always complaining about something. She always wonders why I am happy even when I may not be “happy”.

    P.S. Love the Martha Washington quote!

  46. I already have the book and love it. I also have Steady Days by the same author and refer to it often. Both books are a real blessing to moms and I am very thankful that Jamie Martin took the time to do these wonderful works for us all. Get both of them, you will be so glad that you did!

  47. Would love a copy of this book … often find myself feeling stressed to the max, and too easily blame others. I need to take control of my attitudes, but don’t know how.

  48. Sara Coffey says:

    This would be such a gift to me right now. I’m a mom of a 21 month old with our second child due in July. I’m working part time right now and feeling guilty about having my daughter in daycare, and also feeling guilty about how hard it really is when I have her all day too. There are some days I just “get through” and look forward to bedtime for hours. I do not like that!! I want to enjoy my life and celebrate the moments, not wish them away. My spouse is lately into wishing we had this or that, wishing this or that was different, and this is not helping me either. Yes some things would be lovely to change, but I want help enjoying what I have, right now, this moment, this life, this screaming angry toddler. You know. This book sounds like it would help a lot with altering my feelings and approach to challenges, which is what I very much want right now.

  49. I have two preschoolers now, and will bring home a third next year. I’m trying to read all about becoming the best mom I could be while enjoying this special time of life. This books sounds like it is a must-read for me!

  50. This book sounds great! When I’m thinking rationally I know that I have a lot to be grateful in my present circumstances. When I’m stressed or tired, it’s easy to let my emotions take over my attitude.

  51. I would love a copy to read and then give away to bless another mom!!

  52. I think changing mindset is the hardest thing to do. It’s a lot easier to blame circumstances, other people, even people you love dearly. I struggle with that daily.

  53. Ever since I had my second daughter childhood issues came up strongly. I feel so unworthy to have such a blessing. Sigh. I wish I could be a better mom.

  54. I’m Momma to the most adorable 14 month-old boy ever! And, I teach 4th graders all day, many of whom could use a good example of a mom, I need all the help I can find!

  55. I’m home with a young one in a cold, dark northern state in February. I can use all the help I can get!

  56. shay mcreynolds says:

    I have been home with my kids for 11 years. The oldest is in middle school and the youngest is 4. I still have 2 more years before she is in full time school. Lately I have been feeling stressed, burnt out and feeling like I have nothing to look forward to when they are all in school. I would love to add a fourth child but I am not sure I can handle the stress. It is especially hard with one in kindergarten and one in middle school. I am being tugged so many different ways! I would love to win the book!


  57. I would love to get this book. I had my one and only child at age 40, after being told for years I couldn’t have kids. He was a preemie, had medical issues, and several surgeries, and his very presence in my life is a miracle for which I can never be thankful enough. Sometimes I forget that. I work full time, and when I come home, I sometimes feel I have nothing left for my son. I need to be reminded that this is the “good stuff”, and I need to learn to enjoy it !

  58. Well, I really believe the mind matters in how we feel about life and accomplish things, but I just can’t figure how to get my mind to the right place at the right time! (I’m happy as can be when all is well!!!) Maybe I’m the only one….

  59. I would love to be able to get this book b/c sometimes I fall into that mentality with the grind of working full-time and taking care of my child. I would love to read what advice she has to change this.

  60. My husband and I are foster parents. We are adopting a 5 yo son and have 2 daughters of our own, 7 and 16. As a foster parent, and as a mother in general, it is very easy, for me at least, to get caught up in the “what could have been” and “what might be,” esp. as kids come in and out of our lives. There is almost always a sense that I have to be the best mom ever, and of course a sense of failure that I am not. This book might remind me that I am not here to “save” anyone–that is for the Lord alone.

  61. Jamie Woodbury says:

    So inspired by this small glimpse. Would love to read the entire book!

  62. I could use this. I am a single mom to to amazing boys, 10 & 7. I could use some new ways to see things. Always open to new ideas.

  63. I could really use this book! I struggle with having the wrong mindset so many times…DAILY!

  64. Thank you for a chance to read this e-book. I recently moved across a ocean from family and friends. With a spirited three year old, a moody 9 year old and a lack of support, I often find myself struggling with my percpective on parenting. I love my children and I know they deserve my positive attitude both as a example and a source of strength.

  65. Morgan Gamble says:

    I can definitely utilize this book – being a new mom (my daughter is 4 months old) it was hard for me to get into the swing of things – especially when I had to go back to work. I try to stay positive and not get down on myself for when things don’t get done (3 load of laundry or dirty dishes), but it’s hard because you feel you have to be “on” all the time. I work as a therapist to children and adolescents and am always looking for ways of self-improvement. I think this book would help me strategize on staying mindful, being present in the moment, and enjoying every second I have as a mom. Thanks!

  66. Thank you for a chance to win!

  67. Danielle Drown says:

    I have two boys 5 and 2 1/2 and we are beginning homeschooling. I would love to read this ebook so that during our homeschooling adventures I can learn to enjoy all of our moments together and most importantly teach my boys how to do so as well.

  68. Stephanie S says:

    This sounds like just the kind of book I’ve been looking for! I work full time out of the house and have 2 daughters, age 3 and 4 months. I often finding myself wishing for things to be just a little different so I could enjoy more, but then, usually something one of my daughters does, reminds me I need to enjoy right now, just the way things are, because once today is done, it’s gone.

  69. Reading the interview, I understand where the writer is coming from, and have gone through the same journey. Once I truly cherished the ‘now’, I don’t feel myself longing and jealous of what other people have. I feel blessed. Easier said than done, but I’ve come leaps and bounds the past year.

    However, my dearest friend is having trouble with her mindset– there are many things she wants more time to do (writing, crafting, traveling etc) and she is rarely happy with what she has for a home. While she is making strides to help cope (volunteering, having a weekly sitter so that she can write), I think she still struggles at times and longs for the future.

  70. I agree it takes a mindset to get through the day. How we view our circumstances is key. It’s impossible to sulk or complain when you get in the habit of praise & thanksgiving!

  71. Would love to see what Jamie has to say about our mindset as a mom. I am going through a big struggle right now with parenting and being on the same page as my spouse. I am beginning to realize that I am giving a lot to my family, but not the right things. I need more love, a better attitude and calm!

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  72. I am soon returning to work and won’t be spending all day with my baby. I want to hold on to the happiness and make a joyful home for my kids to grow up in. I’m afraid that the stress and pressure and guilt might make me forget to appreciate what I have. This book would help me.

  73. Mom of a 2 year old going on three who is still not potty trained. She can be so rude to me and just terrible. I know she is only human but it is still hard especially with a husband who works 12 + hours everyday unless he is on call then it is even worse. Just wanting to spend more time with my husband and I know that my daughter does too. Could use all the help I can get.

  74. As a mom of two boys with unique and challenging needs, I am already so grateful to have experienced the transformative power of changing your mindset – but I’m always eager to learn more from the experience and insight of others. This book seems like it would provide a wonderful opportunity to do that. 🙂

  75. With a 2uear old and planning ICSI soon (for another baby), I need some destressing moments in my life!! 🙂

  76. This was so great to read! For myself I’d have to totally agree that my mindset is usually the problem…it’s even silly at times. I would love to read this book and see her insights on triggers to correct this so I can not just say “good idea” but “now I can implement this by…”

  77. I would be able to use this book as I need to figure out how to simplify my life! I am going nuts the way it is!

  78. Life & parenting have gotten the best of me lately and I’ve lost my ability to connect with my grateful mindset! It’s time to reconnect and appreciate my many blessings and I could use a boost in that direction.

  79. I am a Mom of four and a TBI (traumatic brain injury) survivor. The two years since my injury have been a roller coaster of emotions for all of us. I think your ebook could give us some new tools for living each day with health circumstances beyond anyone’s control.

  80. I would love to read this book because I have already been trying to change my attitude toward every part of my life. I’m seeing that my family of five can live happily in this small 900 sq ft house with 1 bathroom. As a stay at home mom, I have been trying to embrace the messes and arguments as much as smiles and quiet time. I’ve been thinking more about new activities to do with my girls and trying to think less about the “if only’s”. (If only I could get just 5 minutes of peace and quiet!) I’ve always said that I am thankful for all that God has given me but I haven’t always lived each day like I’m thankful. I would love to read about another mom’s journey to positive thinking.

  81. I need this book….we all do…
    I wish I would have had this when my kids were newborns…It was so hard and I always wished for the next step…now they are 10 and7 and I miss them as babies. I don’t want to miss this stage wishing for what used to be.

  82. I am the mom of a 2 year old and a newborn, and I often don’t fully appreciate being a mommy (especially when I have 2 screaming their heads off.) I really need to remember to take a step back, be thankful, and enjoy this chapter in my life.

  83. Melissa Boland says:

    Being a mom to 3, this book sounds wonderful! Thank you so much for the chance to win!

  84. wow, I’ve been thinking alot about this exact subject lately! With a 2 year old, a 1-year old, and entering my 2nd trimester with our next baby, somedays seem overwhelming, to say the least! But God is merciful, and gives grace for the moment!

  85. Oh wow, this is my journey right now. I would love to read this book because this is my current goal. I am trying to not figure out what’s missing to make it all better but to figure what I can do right now, right here to enjoy right now, right here all the more…

  86. This sounds very timely – I’m just starting my parenting journey (we have a 15 month old) and I’m finding I really need to work on being in the moment, rather than wishing this time away. It’s definitely a discipline!

  87. Sounds like a great book for mom’s, especially those fighting PPD. We need to learn to “change our thinking” so that those negative voices in our heads are silenced and we can try to enjoy the little moments…amidst the drudgery of daily life with young kids. 🙂

  88. I would love to have this book! My mindset is pitiful A LOT! I love my 3 kids, but a lot of days I am looking forward to bed! What a shame.

  89. This book sounds like just what I need. Too often lately I am wishing my days away, making plans to live and enjoy life when things are not so busy, chaotic, stressful. Logically, I am thankful for the life I have with my husband and three kids, but my negative thinking prevents me from feeling grateful. I want to feel joy in my life.

  90. Theresa B. says:

    My focus word for this year is “deliberate”. I think this book would help me!!!!

  91. sounds like a wonderful book for any mama!

  92. I am reading Andrew Wommack’s book “Effortless Change” and it also is about the verse “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he”. I saw your quote on the book! I need to learn more on this.

  93. Tiffany Maxwell says:

    I am a mom of a 5 year old and and 2 year old and my husband is always traveling. Makes for many hard days. I would love to have her book to help make those days a little easier!

  94. Great idea for a book! I have five children, homeschool and work part-time and I struggle with this all the time. Thank you for your generosity with this giveaway!

  95. I could really use this too. Thanks!

  96. wow, do I need to read this book and put into practice!

  97. I could definitely use a more positive attitude and inspire my kids more!

  98. I’d really love to win this book. A change in my thinking would be beneficial for my whole family! Thanks for the chance!

  99. Nancy Mosley says:

    Being a homeschool mom to four children and getting ready for a major move is just two reasons why I be interested in this book.


  100. Kristi Johnson says:

    I woke up this morning and had this exact thought- “stop wishing your life away Kristi!” I have 2 boys (9 & 12), a husband and am a full-time social worker. I am often so exhausted that I can’t wait every week until it is Friday. And in the meantime I miss out on so much joy that is right in front of me in the here and now. I love this post and would adore this e-book. Thank you for the opportunity to win. What a blessing!