Interview and giveaway: Mindset for Moms

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I‘m speaking at Blissdom this weekend, so I thought it’d be fun today to publish a little interview I did this week with my friend (and editor of Simple Homeschool!) Jamie Martin. She’s the voice of Steady Days, advocate of Love146, and all around cool cat. (You should see her dance moves! I have.)

Me: Mindset for Moms is all about changing our thinking, not changing our circumstances. Why is this so important for moms?

Jamie: I think Martha Washington put it best when she said, “I am still determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may be. For I have learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”

The workload of most moms, especially those with young children at home, can be grueling at times, and we can’t always change the actual circumstances we find ourselves in. It’s a tragedy for us to wish away these precious, once-in-a-lifetime days, yet I know I’m not the only one who has wasted time with thoughts like, “If only my kids were older, if only I could sleep through the night, if only we had a better home or more money.” When we fall into negative thought patterns like these, we run the risk of living life through “someday” lenses. We push our happiness and joy away.

But when we realize that much of our life experience depends on our perspective, we begin to learn that we can make our lives what we want them to be, we can want what we already have, we can live our dream life NOW, not putting our hopes on a shelf for another time. As I share in the book, this epiphany led me to learn more about mindset, which ended up transforming my own, and eventually made me so excited about this message that I felt I had to share it with others. The amazing part of all of this is that often when we work on changing our thinking, we find that our circumstances end up changing as well. I believe God loves to give us the worthwhile desires of our heart; we collaborate with Him when we keep our minds focused on gratitude instead of grumbling.

Me: So give me an example of when changing your own mindset changed your attitude.

Jamie: Positive thinking has seen me through many ups and downs of life: a move cross-country with two babies, the dream I had since a child to be a writer, the desire for a new home that would better suit our needs, and the roller coaster of emotions that arose from our attempt to add a fourth child to our family. I share all these stories and more in the book.

But the importance of a positive attitude is also present in less dramatic situations each and every day. Take today, for example. My husband is out of the country on a work trip for the second time this month, I’m handling the kids solo for several days, and I didn’t get enough sleep last night. My current lesson in life is that happiness is in the right now…this moment.

So often we mistakenly outsource our joy to another place or time. But I’ve learned, “No, it’s this life. This life I chose. This life God blessed me with. This moment right here—with silly kids, and toilets to scrub, and laundry to fold—this is the good stuff.” That really resonates with me now, and even in the midst of the daily grind I see the wonders of what it means to live my soul purpose. That is the place of transformation. And that’s also the message I hope readers of my book take with them.

Me: What was the book writing experience like? How long did it take you to write it; what was your daily routine, etc.?

Jamie: The inspired idea for this e-book came as I was in the bath at the end of a long day last summer. My husband Steve looked a bit bewildered as I grabbed my journal and started jotting down the thoughts that buzzed around my head. (Yes, I put clothes on first!)

It took about six months to write. I worked on it here, there, and everywhere: every Tuesday evening, in the early mornings, during the kids’ rest times, and while they watched videos. I also put it away whenever I felt stressed about it, determined to practice the message in it. I trusted that it would be finished when it was finished, and that the timing would be perfect. It has been.


Jamie wants to give TEN Simple Mom readers a copy of Mindset for Moms! To enter, leave a comment telling me why you—or someone you love—could use this book. (If you’re reading this via email, you must click over to the post to comment.)

This giveaway will end Saturday night, February 25. I’ll announce the winner soon after!

Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is the founder of this blog and just finished traveling around the world with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

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  1. Wow, could we ever use this book! With three young boys it’s been a struggle to keep it positive and not focus on how hard raising a family can be. Both my husband and I could benefit from this. Hop to win!

  2. I would love to get this ebook. I have three kids who can be very taxing. They are 13, 11, and 7. I would really like to be able to enjoy them more.

  3. I am a mom, that’s why I need this book 🙂
    My daughter is 2.

  4. Yes! Yes! Yes! What a great reminder that we choose our attitude and thus our happiness! I would love this book for my nightstand…ok, the floor by my bed because there is no room for a nightstand…but I am thankful for the cozy bed!

  5. I think every mom needs this book. I am a mom of 3 and really could benefit from it.

  6. Debbie Didreckson says:

    Oh my goodness, what woman with little ones at home DOESN’T need this book as a breath of fresh air??? I am excited to read it whether I am blessed with it as a giveaway or not! : 0 )

  7. I think I used to think this way before I had kids, I can’t quite remember. But I think I used to be a naturally happy and grateful person. Now I just feel like a cranky and stressed out mum. I would love to have this book to remind me how to be that way again, for myself, for my kids and for my husband. Thanks for the opportunity to win a copy.

  8. I’m a homemaker with two kids. One moved in with her dad and I get sad about it. I am interested to see if this book would help me.

  9. There is never a day that I don’t struggle with my mindset.
    that is why I want to read this book.
    thanks for the giveaway 🙂

  10. I’m a mother of 5 great kids but it’s so easy to feel overwhelmed. I want to be a better mom to them everyday! This book sounds great and really helpful!

  11. I have a four year old son (who is my whole world) and am a work from home mom with no child care. Balancing running my own Lifestyle photography business, while meeting the needs of my son (both full time) can be very frusterating and isolating. I also suffer from a form of ( a nervous system problem) that makes it difficult to stand very long, and have very little energy which mkes life more difficult, and frusterating, since I was previously very healthy and active, and I am currently going through a marriage separation. My son brings me so much joy, but parenting,, exhaustion, and stress can wear me quite thin. I have been trying to make the best of a difficult situation, and this book could be very helpful! 🙂

  12. I would love to win a copy of this book. I need this book because my kids received a mom that struggles with patience!

  13. I would love to win this book. I need this book because my kids got a mom that lacks patience and it may help refresh my mindset. 🙂

  14. I desire to be really intentional about living fully and richly, treasuring each day and season. This book sounds like it would help with this journey.

  15. Wow, I love the message of this book and would love to read it. I felt like last year the Lord was really encouraging me to be present and what that means. Sounds like her message in the book is very congruent with being present and thankful in every situation.

  16. I could definitely use this book…I tend to get caught up in the “if onlys” and I don’t want to wish away this precious time when my kids are little. I could use a better mindset!

  17. I’d love to add this to my list of books to read! It seems short and practical, my favorite type of book!

  18. I need this book. I´m a married working mom with two lovely kids. Our daughter is a “special-needs-kid” and I have been working hard with myself, trying to choose joy and gratitude instead of being sad and think that I can´t handle it. Maybe this book could give me some new ideas!

  19. We are living in another country, about to add baby number four and so life (especially the housework part) feels overwhelming! I know I could use some help changing my mindset to enjoy the now more. Thanks for the giveaway.

  20. Jenny Runyan says:

    I read Jamie’s blog as well and would love more inspiration from her through this book. it is so easy to lose the perception she talks about, but i want to hold on to it badly! I have two sweet and feisty girls with a hubby in med school.. I want to have the right mindset through all our journeys!

  21. I’m a new mom and a full time student and I’m trying to figure out how thee identities fit together in the midst of daily life. I’d love a copy of the book.

  22. I’m a mom and I admit, I miss many opportunities for true joy because of my mindset. I’d love to read this book!

  23. One of our family’s goals is to have a mindset of thankfulness, and this seems like a book that would greatly aid me in that pursuit!

  24. As a mother of 3 small children, it can be a struggle to keep my attitude always pleasant. I need all of the help I can get.

  25. I would love to read this book. I have a 2.5 year old and twin 1 year olds. I try to enjoy every stage, but they are growing fast!

  26. It’s so easy to get into a negative mind space, wishing things would be different. I would love to win a copy of this book to help me remember how beautiful and wonderful things really are 🙂

  27. I’m a mom of a 2 year old with a baby due any day now. 🙂 I love the concept she describes, so biblical & true…but I dont think I’m there yet! Would love to hear her personal stories.

  28. She had me at the Martha Washington quote! I would love to win this book because I feel like my disposition many days doesn’t show my kids how much I love being with them.

  29. I think it’s always been hard for me not to be thinking about the “next thing”. As a girl, I would often place a lot of emphasis on holidays, on college, on getting married, having kids… the next thing that was “out there”. I don’t have those big things “out there” now, but need to claim each moment. Ann Voskamp has certainly helped me with that – with being grateful and counting each day’s blessing. It’s a journey and a challenge to stay in the moment, particularly as a mom – always having something to do..!

  30. I would love to win a copy of this book. I have 2 boys, ages 5 and 3 and a little girl on the way. I often find myself telling my 5 year old to change his attitude, but where does he get that grumpy attitude from, this girl right here that he spends his days with. I find I am teaching him the opposite of what I am telling him. I would love this encouragement for myself, so that my actions may start to reflect my words. This is the life I choose, this life is a treasure, and I want to be present in it!

  31. I’m a soon to be mom (April 27th!) and I worry about getting frustrated and cranky.

    I love the Martha Washington quote!

  32. I can always use help in the positive mindset! My daughter is expecting her second girl in June. She would love this, too.


  33. Would love to win… I’m due with our first child in May and need all the tips from other moms that I can get. 🙂

  34. I love Jamie’s Writing, I love what she has to say and I would so love to read her new book!!!

  35. I’m a homeschooling mom of four (ages 7, 5, 3 and 7 months), and I spend too much time feeling guilty about things I think I should be doing better. Perhaps this book would help me think marvelously about my life instead of being so hard on myself.

  36. Beth Gillespie says:

    Wow! This book sounds amazing – I have been fighting for contentment lots recently – I have 3 children under 4, my husband has been working 2 very busy jobs, and he is about to give one up for the sake of spending more time with us – but we are going to have to make some painful cuts!

    I know the Lord wants my heart to be trusting and content through this next season, and I’m determined to get there!

  37. Living with lupus and caring for a family has unique challenges. I think I could use the inspiration of a book like this at the moment.

  38. Michelle White says:

    My two closest Mom friends and I talk all the time about how easy it is to get burnt out with the daily routine of being a stay at home Mom. This book sounds like the inspiration we all need.
    Thanks for the giveaway!
    Michelle W.

  39. I have three children (7,6,4) and two have special needs. I would like to have this book for the encouragement it seems it will offer.

  40. This book would be a huge help in life at this moment. Thanks for making it available.

  41. Gina Mangum says:

    I homeschooled for 11 years and felt I needed a break so I put my younger 3 kids in a private school where I ended up teaching fulltime to pay tuition. Now I am 3 months away from the end of the school year longing for the summer because we are going back to homeschooling. I have always had a struggle being content where God has me. I think this book would be a great encouragement to not miss out on these last 3 months that I can minister to my students.

  42. I could so use this book because my older son of three, four years for 3 days now, handed out 4 tantrums within the very 10 minutes after he woke up today…..I’d like these events to not get me in bad mood and shed some POSITIVITY on this……

  43. I’m reading it right now and thoroughly enjoying it. I would love to share it with another mom.

  44. This book would be a real blessing to me right now.

  45. I could use this book to help me as I navigate the world of pre-teens! Life is changing.

  46. I love the quote by Martha Washington. I try so hard to live in the present moment and enjoy these fleeting years with my little people (ages 2, 6 and 7). I fight the feelings of discontent when I’m doing yet another load of laundry or changing another dirty diaper. I want to stop feeling exhausted and exasperated by my kids. I want to relax and enjoy their company while they’re still young enough to believe that I’m the center of their universe!

  47. I would LOVE to win this book and renew my perspective–get a new mindset as a mom! 🙂 Blessings!

  48. I love where she says “I believe God loves to give us the worthwhile desires of our heart.” Such an epiphany for me. Makes me want to get going on those long term goals! Thank you!

  49. I have four teenage girls still at home and six grown children. It is easy to get caught up in stress and drama during this stage of life! My husband and I have dedicated ourselves to creating a simple, fulfilling life for our family, and this would be a great encouragement.

  50. I think I need this book!!!! It might help lift me out of some of my depression with two small children, work, house and too many other commitments

  51. This book sounds awesome! I’d love to read it!

  52. I just had my second child a month ago and while he is a complete blessing I do struggle with finding joy and contentment in our day to day activities. I would love to read this book and hopefully find a new mindset!

  53. Great giveaway! Thank you both so much for offering it.

    I have 7 children and am just feeling a bit weary. While I do hold my position of mother and my children in high esteem, I think I am in need of some revisioning. This book sounds perfect!

  54. I’m a mom of 2 and would love to have a plan to change my mindset!

  55. I would love this book as we just had our third (and likely last)child. Trying to enjoy every minute with them!

  56. mandy falgout says:

    wow…what an inspiring interview. i would love to read the book. as a forst time mom to be, i am soaking up all the good morsels of knowledge from others around me. i want to make each day count and be happy in the moment. God never gives us too much.

  57. would love to read it, have a great respect for jamie martin and her writing, so i would love to read her new book! thanks!

  58. Having a more positive outlook on my life is something I’ve really been working on recently. I have a 1 year old and I want him to grow up with a happy mommy, not a cranky one. I want to enjoy life, even in the mundane.

  59. I would love a copy of this book. As a stay at home mom of three kids it’s sometimes hard to remember to enjoy these day to day moments. It’s also often difficult to “justify” my role even though I know that this is the right thing for our family. It looks like Mindset for Moms would provide some of the inspiration I could use right now. Thanks for the giveaway!

  60. I would love this book! Its so easy to get lost in the details with 3 little ones!

  61. That’s the change I’ve been needing — a new mindset!! I so want to enjoy these young years with my 4 children, but the frustrations so easily crowd out the joy. I need to CHOOSE to look for the joy. I’d love to read your book and see your journey!

  62. I would love to win this book. I am a stay at home mom of three young kids (6, 5, and 2) and I keep forgetting to take care of ME. When this happens I end up grumpy and feeling stressed. This book sounds wonderful.

  63. Love the idea of this book, it’s so hard not to get into that ‘one day’ mind-set. In the meantime, I need help now!
    Sarah M

  64. I would love to win this book to help encourage me to make the changes that I need to make in my life to become a better mom to my children.

  65. I need all the reminders I can get! 🙂 reminds me of the verses I read this morning: “Always rejoice … In everything give thanks, for this [moment, circumstance, life] is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

  66. I have a 2.5 year old who drains me. I’d love to read this book!

  67. I have four great kids and I would enjoy reading this book.

  68. I would love this book. I am a mother of three, who works full time. I am still trying to find that happy medium between work and life. I am also determined to play an active role in their lives; although it doesn’t always feel like I make the best of every situation.

  69. I would love to have this book – I am mom to 5 kids and one on the way 🙂 these include a set of 2 year old twins and a 5 year with global delays. I love my children and my life with them but need every reminder that I can read, hear, ingest to embrace this life now, in our little house, while dreaming of traveling with my husband and family in overseas ministry. Thanks for the opportunity to win this e-book! 🙂

  70. I would love to win because I want to be a better roll model for my own daughters. It is so easy to get overwhelmed with life. I need to be a better person for them.

  71. I would love to win a copy! I am a young mother of a precious one-year-old. We live overseas. I love being a momma, but let’s just say sometimes my mindset ain’t so good. I think I would benefit greatly from some good perspective and advice from someone who has “been there”.

  72. I would love a copy. I often find myself wishing away this season in life without even realizing it. I love being home with my kids and not missing a moment, but sometimes the “Groundhog’s Dayness” of it all can really get to me.

  73. I love my kids, but I sure have to work on my attitude all the time. Daily. I could really use this book for some additional viewpoints to help get my mind working in the right direction.

  74. I love Jaime’s blog, and attitude is the focus of our entire family this year. Let it begin with me:)

  75. I want to read this book soon because we have an upcoming move after which time I’ll be a homeschooling mom to a 2nd grader and three 1st graders… all in a new city away from our family and friends. I’m sure I’ll need it!!

  76. Both of my daughters would love this book (and be happy to share). One has boys 4 & 2 and the other has a newborn girl 🙂

    Lovely giveaway!

  77. Becky Jones says:

    Wow..this book sounds God’s Word says, “as a man believes in his heart, so he is”…I could use the encouragement!!

  78. I love to read and this would be a great book to add to my collection (plus I can learn ALOT).

  79. I would love love love to win this book because, 7 months pregnant with my first baby, it is already so hard to not wish away these interim days – but they are LIFE! and they are days I will never be able to experience again.

  80. I would love this book! I’m working on “living NOW” and not in the future. I’m a high school teacher with 2 little girls at home. Thanks for the opportunity!

  81. As a super busy mom and a painter in training, I can almost always use an attitude adjustment. I’d also love to give the book to my oldest daughter who has 4 little ones ages 4 and under!

  82. I could soooo use this book. I am a mom of 4 (3,7,9, 13), and most days I am overwhelmed. I tend to plan lots of stuff, that ends up never to get done. That makes me unhappy and not live in the now. I could definitely use some attitude adjustment.

  83. I have four amazing little ones and I am thankful everyday for each of them. I will say that at the end of many days though I can look back and see myself living through that “someday” lense. I would love to learn more about how to be in the moment and not working for some future moment that I may miss working for another further down the way.

  84. Andrea Peterson says:

    Someone once asked me what my biggest fear was and I responded, “Always thinking the grass is greener.” I have been trying very hard since then to think instead that my grass is the “greenest.” Sometimes it works and sometimes I am not always successful, especially right now with a 2 year old and number two on the way. It would be great to read your book!!

  85. Jennifer Daniel says:

    I am a mom of three boys 14, 11 and 7. I am also a full-time ER nurse and a part-time graduate student. It is hard when I am overwhelmed to remember to enjoy the little moments in life.

  86. Who couldn’t use this book? 🙂 I know I sure could!

  87. I would love this book, as my life has taken some seriously complicated turns. I am currently living as a single mom, trying to work things out with my husband after his affair. I could use advice on how to change my mindset, since I can’t change the past.

  88. I want to enjoy motherhood and be the best mom I can be. Always looking for great advice.

  89. I am a mom of two children, ages 12 and 10. I loved everything about being a mom when they were little. Now, as they are growing up, I have a hard time enjoying them being older–I really miss them being little. I need reminding to enjoy them now. Thank you for the post, I needed it today.

  90. Being a mom of two girls, running a nonprofit and a small family business are all taxing. My main priority this year is learning to be in the moment, let go of things, and truly be present with my girls. I am sure this book would help me get to that centered place a little quicker.

  91. This sounds like a book that needs to be added to my books to read this year and maybe even pushed to the top. I’m a stay at home mom who loves being home with my 2 year old daughter, but am struggling with extended family circumstances and nonChristian mindsets that tend to cause so much stress and havoc in our home. I’m struggling with balance in being Christ like to our family and yet guarding the atmosphere we believe God wants us to set for our home. We are planning to move away in a year or a little more so that we will be able to have long term healthy relationships with our family. I know that God wants my mindset to be more positive NOW, but I feel stuck.

  92. Time moves by too quickly and I want to be more intentional with the relationships I have here and no……with my family, my friends, my church, my neighborhood. Love the Martha Washington quote. Perspective is a powerful thing indeed.

  93. Lately I have really been trying to focus my attitude on the positives of each day are really enjoying this hard process of raising children, I would love to read this book!

  94. What a great book idea!

  95. Wow, this book sounds like it was written just for me. I’m a SAHM to a 3 year old boy and 4 year old (soon to be 5) girl. My hubby and I actually talked about wanting me to be able to stay at home long before God blessed us with the kiddos. It was our prayer. And now that the good Lord has seen fit to answer that prayer, there have been many times when I’ve wondered if maybe I should have kept that prayer to myself. lol I’ve been stuck in a rut for some time now, and I could definitely use a mindset makeover. I’d love to be able to recieve a copy and dive in!

  96. It is so easy for me to get in a negative thought pattern – it sounds wonderful!

  97. With number 3 on the way and my oldest being 3, it’s easy to get caught in the someday. Sounds Great!

  98. As a mama to six, I struggle with the “If only” thoughts daily. I do feel I keep a pretty positive mindset (most days). I would love to read more of Jaime’s thoughts on this. Thanks for the chance to win her e-book!

  99. I have 2 under 2. I would love to read some encouraging words!

  100. Angela Ayaz says:

    As a mother two four little girls living far from any bookstore, ebooks are a lifesaver for me. I would love to have a chance to read this.