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Three kinds of expectations

It’s still the most surprising thing Becky has ever said to me. “OK,” she declared. “I’ve decided to lower my expectations of you.” Becky has a theory and after two decades together I’m convinced she’s right: Most conflict and unhappiness in relationships comes from three kinds of expectations. Unreasonable Sometimes our expectations are unreasonable. In (read more…)

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Beloved dust {giveaway!}

We all know what it’s like to feel exposed. We know what it’s like to have the light reveal the dark places we have been trying to hide. In those times, questions of right and wrong rarely enter our minds. Instead, something clicks on deep inside of us that turns us to the pragmatic. “How (read more…)

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On celebrating death

In a few weeks our family will be faced with the dreaded anniversary of my mom’s death. The last year has been exhausting, confusing, and healing all in one. We have cried and we have laughed. Time has done that strange thing it does, where the wound closes just enough to allow you to live, (read more…)

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The art of lingering

During the next three months, we’re all in this together—thinking about food, planning menus, coming up with guest lists, scheduling ourselves silly, spending too many hours on Pinterest for ideas on how to get the “best recipe” or plan the “perfect holiday party.” For me this year, I want my focus to be simpler, and (read more…)

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Starting over. Again.

When I think about my Top Ten Least Favorite Things To Do, moving would make the list somewhere between “colonoscopy” and “ironing.” If ever there was motivator for simple living, it’s the act of packing up ALL of your things and then unpacking all of your things. I’ve moved twice in the past ten years (read more…)

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