womentalking

Giving each other the space to be authentic

Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there’s been a recent shift in the way that many of us talk to each other. “Oooh, your kids are all in school full-time now – aren’t you so excited?” Or this one: “Oh, you moved into a new house – aren’t you so happy?” We think (read more…)

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Location matters. Community matters.

We’ve met a few “location-independent” people on our travels—usually singles, though there’s an occasional family—that doesn’t live anywhere in particular. They live where the wind takes them. Their work is done online, so they’re able to live out of their backpacks and move about the cabin indefinitely. Essentially, they do what we’re doing for the (read more…)

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Three kinds of expectations

It’s still the most surprising thing Becky has ever said to me. “OK,” she declared. “I’ve decided to lower my expectations of you.” Becky has a theory and after two decades together I’m convinced she’s right: Most conflict and unhappiness in relationships comes from three kinds of expectations. Unreasonable Sometimes our expectations are unreasonable. In (read more…)

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Beloved dust {giveaway!}

We all know what it’s like to feel exposed. We know what it’s like to have the light reveal the dark places we have been trying to hide. In those times, questions of right and wrong rarely enter our minds. Instead, something clicks on deep inside of us that turns us to the pragmatic. “How (read more…)

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On celebrating death

In a few weeks our family will be faced with the dreaded anniversary of my mom’s death. The last year has been exhausting, confusing, and healing all in one. We have cried and we have laughed. Time has done that strange thing it does, where the wound closes just enough to allow you to live, (read more…)

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