How to live dangerously in marriage

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” ~ Helen Keller Creating intimacy between you and another person can be scary, even dangerous at times — but most everyone wants it; to not be alone as you journey through life. There are risks (read more…)

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What the Grinch and expectations have in common

Christmas is in full swing. A time full of festivity, family, and giving, it’s also a time full of expectations. Family, friends, co-workers, spouses, neighbors, and strangers all have expectations of you. You have expectations of yourself. Expectations change our experiences. But they also set us up for disappointment. So where do our expectations for (read more…)

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Should you ever ask your husband, “Do these pants make me look fat?”

No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar. ~ Abraham Lincoln If asked, you’d probably say you’re an honest person. Meaning, you don’t blatantly lie. But what if I asked if you occasionally omit some things. How would you answer? It’s part of our creation and design to be honest. We (read more…)

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How expectations change relationships

When you get right down to it, you hear what you expect to hear, you see what you expect to see. Expectations change the experience. If you walk into a conversation with a friend and expect it to be a litany of complaints about their job or relationship or the state of the world, more (read more…)

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Change is difficult – but can marriage challenge you for the better?

Every relationship creates a “system,” marriage perhaps being one of the most well defined.  And one rule about systems is that, in general, they seek homeostasis, and they don’t like change. We’re comfortable when we know what to expect. Therefore, when one person within a marriage decides to change and do something fundamentally different, it (read more…)

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