Want a great marriage? Don’t compromise.

Here’s one of the biggest pieces of relationship advice presented in books and websites: To have a great marriage you must learn how to compromise. So that we’re all on the same page, the dictionary defines compromise as: an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. Sounds (read more…)

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Beware of these marriage killers

Communication is a factor in every relationship. In fact, it’s so important that in a committed relationship you cannot not communicate. Everything you do, or don’t do, communicates. When you believe this, your goal shifts—you want to handle the messages from others and clearly say what you mean. Even so, there are some things when (read more…)

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What happens when your story changes?

Hey babe… What if next summer we set off on an adventure as a family and travel around the country in an RV for a year or two?” “I could see us doing that,” my wife replied. A couple of hours later my wife comes to me. “There has to be a bigger reason to (read more…)

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Don’t borrow trouble

There are many troublesome things in life: the economy, poverty, crime, and disease, just to name a few. And if these issues aren’t enough, there’s also the worry associated with everything that’s just beyond our control. Worry can dominate your life. So can fear. “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for (read more…)

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Will we ever see eye to eye?

Every marriage has conflict. Every relationship has conflict as well. John Gottman, one of the leaders in the field of marriage research, has discovered that the majority of marital conflicts are perpetual in nature. They’re continual and repeated. In fact, 69% of all marital problems fall into this category. Now before throw up your hands (read more…)

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