Adoption: our family’s story

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Katie is a writer, a teacher, a mezzo-soprano, and a lover of all things red. She and her husband Shaun are passionate about mentoring and equipping artists of all kinds. Find her online at katiefox.net.

“If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one.” – Mother Theresa

Next month, our family will complete a journey that started almost exactly two years ago. Actually, I suppose it began seven years ago, when my husband and I were first engaged to be married, dreaming about our future together and wondering where the road ahead would take us.

One of the dreams we shared was adoption; we were both very interested in adopting a child someday. But to me, “someday” meant when I was much, much older and wiser…way down that road ahead.

Flash forward five years: suddenly, there we were with a two-and-a-half year old biological daughter, and we were ready to start thinking about baby number two! We wanted to expand our family, we wanted our daughter to have a sibling, and we knew we had more love to give.

However, in the previous few years, our world had changed, and we now found ourselves surrounded by a community of people that both valued and practiced orphan care – with a passion. In addition, our church family was and is full of adoptive families. Being around them took some of the fear and mystery out of the adoption process, and made it seem, well, pretty normal and definitely do-able.

Fact: It is now estimated there are 163 million orphans around the world. That is 19 times the population of New York City.*


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In some ways, making the decision to adopt came pretty easily. We knew we wanted to have another child, we didn’t necessarily feel that we needed to have another biological child, and we knew that caring for orphans was a part of our calling as followers of Christ. In the Bible, James 1:27 says, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans…”

But in other ways, it was a difficult choice. For example, we had basically no money to fund an adoption. We had many questions: are we old and wise enough? (ha!) What if our extended families aren’t supportive? What if I don’t love my adopted child as much as I love our biological daughter? What if he/she doesn’t love us?

Fact: In the United States, there are approximately 500,000 children in the foster care system. About 130,000 of them are available to be adopted at any given time.*

We worked through our fears and our doubts, surrounded by and with the help of a fabulous community, and also by taking advantage of many different resources. We eventually decided, for various reasons, to pursue an international adoption in Colombia. In October, we were officially matched with our little girl, Laura*, and we will leave in mid-January to go meet her and bring her home.

Fact: More than 15 million children have lost one or both parents to AIDS.*


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For anyone considering adoption, financial constraints should never be a reason to say no. Really. People told us that, and I found it hard to believe, but it’s true. There are grants, loans, tax credits, and for us, there was lots and lots of creative fundraising.

We also received many donations from people who love us – and quite a few from people who don’t even know us! (Thank you so much!!!) That has been the most amazing thing for us in this whole process – just to watch and see the way that God has provided for our daughter through the funding of her adoption into our family. It has strengthened our faith like nothing else.

“God sets the lonely in families.” – Psalm 68:6

I said that next month we would complete this journey, but the truth is that it’s just beginning. We still don’t know everything that lies ahead; we still don’t have the answers to all of our questions and doubts. We know there will be hard conversations and grief and tears and mourning. But we have no doubt that there will also be joy and laughter and redemption and hope. For this we are so thankful, and we look down the road ahead with great anticipation.

At our church, we learned that if just 7% of Christian families in the world would adopt a child, we could eliminate the orphan crisis worldwide. And that’s just Christian families! Imagine what could happen if every family that wants a child would consider adopting an orphan. Would you consider it?

*Statistics from toomanymillion.org, a website of Together for Adoption

Resources that were helpful for us:
Together for Adoption
The ABBA Fund
Loving Shepherd Ministries
Empowered to Connect

Have you ever considered adoption? What are your thoughts?

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  1. Thanks so much for posting this article. We are also pursuing adoption right now and having many moments of “What are we thinking??!” We can’t afford this. We are not even close!” Your words were exactly what I needed.

    “For anyone considering adoption, financial constraints should never be a reason to say no. Really. People told us that, and I found it hard to believe, but it’s true.”

    Excellent confirmation. Thanks so much for putting the effort into writing it down.
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    • you’re welcome! I have had those same thoughts many times in this process. :)

    • My mom sent me a link to this post because of a post I had just written about our adoption and finances. I cannot tell you how much it spoke to me! Constant reminders of God’s provision are necessary reads when undertaking the process of an adoption, and this was sent to me at such a critical time. Thanks for sharing this story!

  2. Congrats! I bet it’s so hard to be this close and not just hop on a plane right now:) We just finalized our 2nd adoption from the fostercare system. There are many bumps we experienced, but for families looking for an affordable adoption option it is very cheap. Some states even give families a monthly subsidy.

  3. I would absolutely love to adopt someday. There are lots of adoptive and foster families in our church, and the example of people like them, and you, makes me want to do the same thing.

    It breaks my heart to think about the children who need a home so badly.
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  4. We have considered adoption — for many of the same reasons you outline here. Actually earlier this year we even met with a social worker from a foster care agency. Our story is much the same as yours in the sense that my wife and I have talked about the possibility of adoption from the time we were first engaged. That verse on “looking after widows and orphans in distress” just hangs with me. Unfortunately the foster to adopt does not really work for us at this stage of our life — no one big reason, just a lot of little ones that made it now right for us. Not now anyway. Adoption remains something we both have on our hearts. Maybe now is not the season. But it’s hard to accept the fact that the “season” is just not right for us. 163 Million orphans and I just say it’s not the right season. Sort of does not feel right.
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    • There are other things you can do to be part of orphan care if adoption is not right for your family right now. Not everyone needs to adopt but everyone can be involved in orphan care in some way! I say that just to say that you don’t need to feel bad or guilty about not adopting. If/when the time is right, you’ll know!

  5. I’m so happy to read your post, Katie. And even happier about your adoption. My husband and I for years thought we would adopt a third child, after having two biological children, for the reasons you outline above.

    By the time we hit our 40′s, however, we felt “old” for a third child and perhaps our call to be spiritual parents to mslm background believers proved to be more central to our vision. So we have remained a four person family.

    I so admire what you are doing.
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  6. Yippee! Adoption! One of my favorite subjects!

    I have five kiddos, three of whom are adopted, three of whom have special needs (but not the same three) two of whom are “pink” and three of whom are “brown”… I jokingly say that I color code the kids otherwise I’d forget which ones are adopted and which ones are bio;-) I would so dearly love to adopt another little one, but I’ve gotten a little older and a lot poorer over the last several years (single mom-hood’ll do that to a gal, lol) So yeah, probably not in the Lord’s plan for our family, so instead I take my joy in encouraging others to adopt. It’s such an amazing way to grow a family.
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  7. Thanks for sharing your heart. I too have a heart for adoption. I worked in domestic adoption (placing infants from birthmothers and also children from foster care) for about 6 years total. I recently resigned to take a break from social work but my heart is still PASSIONATE for adoption work.

    My husband and I have talked about it for sure. We are pregnant with our first child but are not closing the door to adoption in the future.

    You seem very smart in your approach to adoption. Continue to take advantage of ALL of the resources in your area – especially post adoption. :)
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  8. We always knew we would adopt. We first tried (successfully) for a biological child, and our son knew from the time he was little that his little sister would “come on a plane” and not grow inside me. It has been a wonderful, though challenging experience for our family. When people ask me if anything is different, I always them it’s a lot easier to get over jet lag than childbirth!

  9. Loved reading this story of adoption, Katie! And I loved what you said about not letting finances stand in the way if you want to adopt. I’m so glad to hear a real life story of someone who couldn’t necessarily afford adoption, but made it happen anyways. Very encouraging :)
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  10. Katie, I am so excited for you and so glad for iGive and all the other creative ways you all have made it possible for us to help out in small ways. A lot of very small help adds up to a lot, doesn’t it? Your experience encourages me because finances have always been a main obstacle in my mind. When the Lord asks, He supplies,, doesn’t He?
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  11. Our kids are peach & brown too…Thanks for linking to Empowered to Connect. We use that resource ALL the time, now that we have been living this life for five years. We too live in community with many adoptive families; it’s such a beautiful picture of redemption.
    ~

  12. We adopted a baby girl domestically this past April. We already had 2 biologcal children, and they just love their sister! What surprised me was that adopting once has only made us want to adopt again. It is work, difficult at times, an emotional roller coaster at points, but there is also a beauty that emerges from it. We had tons of questions when we began, plenty of reservations, we only had enough money to pay for the homestudy, and the expected costs of $25-40k were overwhelming. But God gave us faith for each step. We didn’t have faith for the end at the beginning. We had faith to begin, and we followed God’s leading in faith. He was so faithful! We would never have imagined that come tax time in April (when we get an adoption credit), that all the adoption costs will be paid for! We have since watched 3 more friends adopt domestically, and their stories are the same…God provides. A few more places for others, if you are considering adoption…Lifesong for Orphans partners with you for loans and tax free donation sites. And if you are looking to adopt domestically, we used an agency ChristianAdoptionConsultants.com, who network with numerous agencies, thus speeding up the adoption process. Ours was 9 months start to finish, our friends were 12months and 4months. Tracie Loux was our consultant, and she was amazing! We can’t recommend her enough. We love our daughter and are so grateful that God lead us to adopt and that He chose her and brought her into our family!
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  13. As an adoptive Mom, I agree with many points in this post, but I don’t think we should overlook that children from hard places can have a very difficult time in attachment. Even The Word tells us that the orphans are “in distress”. Let us not forget the rest of James 1:27.

    A mother’s love is absolutely the same, but a child’s needs are not the same.

    • We also have adopted, after two biological daughters were almost out of high school, we adopted a brother – sister through the foster care system.
      This has definitely been a challenging rollercoaster ride. What we didn’t know nor understand was the attachment problems our kids are suffering from. For 10 years we looked for answers and prayed and tried harder and cried and almost gave up! Finally in just the past 3 months we have discovered why our two are so rage filled and difficult to parent. We are finally finding answers and some help, but we realize we have a very long road ahead and no guarantees.

      I would never discourage anyone who feels called to adoption from following the Lord’s leading. He will provide what we need. I would caution anyone who adopts a child to understand most adopted children have been through some type of trauma. That trauma can lead to Attachment Disorders that are a nightmare for the child and the family who so desparately wants to love them and be their forever family. If you are going to adopt, learn the risk and characteristics of AD. There is hope and treatment, but the earlier you identify the problem the better the chances for a good outcome.
      Blessings to all who embark on this journey!

  14. This post has alot of wonderful things to say about adoption. Our family has had some very unique needs due to adoption, and I just wanted to share some resources in case they may be helpful.

    I also wanted to say our family would not be where we are today without the help of a parent-coach (think therapist for your parenting skills). We live overseas and meet with her over skype. Adoption is a life long journey, and we have been blessed to have lots of community support along the way.

    Here’s some books:
    Attaching in Adoption by Deborah Gray
    Building the Bonds of Attachment by Daniel Hughes
    Secret Thoughts of An Adoptive Mother by Jana Wolff

    There is a website by Brian Post. Google “The Post Institute” and look for their “free stuff.” They have easy to read, free e-books that tackle very challenging subjects.

  15. Wonderful post sharing your heart! As a blended family, we “assumed” we would not be having more children……never “assume” anything as The Lord will always do what He needs you to do for Him! We now are fostering to adopt a little boy after 3 biological children between my hubby and I’s previous marriages. I feel led to increase our family and welcome more children into our home forever….we will see how The Lord works this one! Remember….for those who do not feel it is their calling to adopt a child, the biblical calling to care for orphans does not mean you have to adopt – look for other ways to support families who do or organizations which carry out that action……you can be a part of something so much bigger!

  16. This post was a huge blessing for me. Thank you! We have a biolgical little one right now and are praying for direction in moving forward in adoption. Since I’m staying home and not working, our finances are much more limited than they have been and I’ve felt discouraged about how that effects our options. We are still considering foster care adoption but aren’t sure yet where our heart is. This was so encouraging. Thank you again!

  17. Congratulations! My husband and I hope to add to our family through adoption in a few years. We already have 4 birth children and both feel passionate about adopting our of the foster care system. Our family thinks we’re crazy for wanting to “put our own children at risk” (so much misunderstanding is out there!!!!). After homeschooling for 4 years we’re pretty used to being the crazy ones in the family. :)
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  18. I have wanted to adopt for as long as I can remember. But my husband is not open to the idea. I continue to pray that the Lord would change his heart, if that is his wil for usl.

    I visited some missionary friends in Colombia a while back and was so saddened by the young girls they serve who were pregnant and the boys who were sniffing glue to ease their hunger and pain. Bless you for providing Luisa with a stable home.

    I cannot imagine knowing I was going to adopt a child, but having to wait to meet them and bring them home! Praying that time flies between now and then!

  19. I’ve been considering it (foster-to-adopt) for about 8 years now. Was doing the homestudy when I found out I was pregnant. I’m nervous about trying again as a single mom of 2, but we’ll see what the future holds… Thanks for the post and your encouragement!
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  20. I’ll start by saying I “DO” support adoption! But also wanted to comment that a couple should not stop being open to God blessing them with more biological children, because they desire to adopt.
    I don’t know Kaite’s story, but get discouraged when I hear of families that have decided to stop having children to make adoption possible.
    “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.” Psalm 127:3

  21. We’re contemplating adoption so this is a timely quote. I’m envious of all the support you have in your church community. I’m hoping the support will come as we need it. Blessings in all that is to come for your wonderful family!
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  22. Our adopted son is now 13 years old. Life has not been easy. The adoption process and waiting was agonizing and a huge invasion of privacy. We dealt with social workers who were mean and/or incompetent.

    The heartbreak (and irritation of dealing with incompetent social workers) did not stop when we were placed with our “healthy” infant. Dealing with a very high-needs, hyperactive, non-sleeping, often violent child without a proper diagnosis has been exhausting. We figures he is FAS, but he does not have the facial features or confirmation of bmom drinking, so he will never be diagnosed FAS or have the supports that are offered for such a child. Instead he is dx ADHD, sensory issues, anxiety, dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia, poor working memory, with possible mood disorder and attachment disorder. He has a number of food allergies and intolerances that affect his health, immunity, and behaviour as well.

    On the outside, he is a perfectly normal, very handsome young man. And he has come a long, long way. At 13 he can finally put himself to sleep, though not always sleep through the night. He can sit for a lesson, though he can’t stay on-task or still for more than a couple of minutes. He is reading, he is very social. But he is very difficult to parent, and deals with so much anxiety and frustration over how his brain does not work the same way as everyone else’s, and how hard things are for him that are so easy for his friends. He has little impulse control and does and says very hurtful things.

    Be prepared that if you are going to adopt, chances are high that you will have a child with mental health issues, learning disabilities, difficulty attaching, behavioural problems, etc. Even if you adopt a healthy newborn. FAS is rampant not only in the Americas but in China and other countries as well. Be prepared to have a child who does not reciprocate, no matter how much love and patience you show. Be prepared to have a child who will turn your life upside down.

    I love my son. We have managed to keep our family together, but it has been a great effort. He is bigger than me now; pats me on the head and affectionately tells me that I am shrinking. He is maturing and able to overcome some of the issues that he has had in the past. Figuring out dietary triggers for his meltdowns has helped enormously. Just understanding that his brain will take much longer to mature than a “normal” child helps. I hope he stays strong and makes good choices. We are doing our best with him. But he’s a kid who won’t learn from other people’s advice or choices. He has to try it himself. We pray for him daily.

    Just realize that the placement is only the beginning. You are going to need to be stronger than you ever have been before. Gather your support network close and pray hard.

    pdw

    • pdw,

      I’m sorry to hear that your adoption experience has been so difficult. Thanks for sharing your story. For the benefit of other readers, I do want to say that we know many adoptive families, with kids from newborns up to teenagers, and this is probably one of the hardest stories I have ever heard. I don’t think your experience is typical. But I do feel for you, I promise. Your story is an example of some of the biggest doubts and fears that gave us pause in the beginning of this process, and we know that this sort of future is a possibility. But the truth is that anything can happen when you have a biological child, too. There are no guarantees of healthy babies and easy relationships either way.

      I am sure that you are already familiar with Karyn Purvis and her work through The Connected Child, Empowered to Connect, etc, but just in case you’re not, I highly recommend you check it out! Her work has helped so many adoptive families with situations similar to yours. We have read her books and attended her conference…so helpful!

    • pdw… it sounds like you are such a wonderful mom to your dear son. He is truly blessed to have you in his life guiding him and loving him as you so obviously do. I have multiple children with special needs… Down syndrome, Asperger’s and other ASD, SID, ADD, ADHD.. phew,, it can all get a bit overwhelming just keeping all the letters straight, lol. ;)

      But there is one thing that I very gently want to point out… no child comes with a guarantee of wholeness. In fact the child of mine that has caused me by far the most challenge and heart ache, and has been the most disruptive to our family has been one of my bio kids. Two of my adopted kids were exposed to massive amounts of drugs and alcohol prenatally… I never took so much as an aspirin, or drank a diet soda while I was pregnant with this child. I have adopted children that were shuffled from foster home to failed adoptive placement, while this kiddo was cherished in our home from the moment of her birth… she never watched tv, never even stepped foot into a fast food place until she was 5 years old (yeah we were a bit fanatical, I guess.) But like I said.. there is no guarantee.

      I adore my pain-in-the-neck kid more than I can express, and I wouldn’t change her for the world …at least not on a good day ;) I totally get what you’re saying, and you have my admiration and my prayers. We’re walking along similar roads, you and I… you with your adopted son and me with my bio daughter.
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  23. Our family believes in the power of adoption and the amazement of a forever family. Thank you for sharing your heart, your passion, your excitement and your fear. We are blessed to be in the process of adopting a little boy from Thailand. The finances have ALWAYS been the scariest part for us and yet just TODAY we received our first donation…like a word spoken directly from our heavenly Father saying OBEY!

  24. Our family believes in the power of adoption and the amazement of a forever family. Thank you for sharing your heart, your passion, your excitement and your fear. We are blessed to be in the process of adopting a little boy from Thailand. The finances have ALWAYS been the scariest part for us and yet just TODAY we received our first donation…like a word spoken directly from our heavenly Father saying OBEY!

  25. Thanks so much for this article. We have also thought about adoption and looked at foster care as well some. I was told that we should only bring in children who would be younger than our children because it works best in the family that way (only happens naturally that way, I guess) Is that what you have heard? We have wanted to help some of the kids over here but the need is for adoptive parents for older kids in this country and I am fine with that, but my kids are still really young.
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    • I think it depends on your family. Jamie, editor of Simple Homeschool, has also adopted – twice! – and the last child they adopted is the oldest. You could talk with her more about her experience.

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    brooke wagen says:

    GO TEAM FOX!
    we are with you.

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    Angie Pearl says:

    I just had my third baby. I have always wanted four or more lol. I, myself, am adopted from Peru and it has been a blessing all my life. I would like to adopt a baby boy perhaps from South America or somewhere in Asia. He would fit right in lol. My husband was against the idea, not knowing if he would love a son not biologically his,but my argument was how much love my adoptive family has for me. He is slowly coming around although we have a couple of things to do before we would start the project including home renovations and my return to school for a teaching degree. I am thinking maybe in our early forties we will look at adopting if possible although we will keep an eye on age limits from foreign coutries. Your article was wonderful by the way and congrats on your new little one :)

  28. We’ve recently started walking down the adoption road, though it’s uncharted territory for us. I was worried about how our families would respond when we told them, but we’ve been pleasantly surprised at the love and support we’ve received. I can’t wait to some day be able to share our adoption story {stories} on my blog!
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  29. So glad you were willing to share your family’s story. We are in the early stages of adoption via foster care and the more I hear of others adopting the more “normal” it makes my own life feel to me. :) Praying our generation will see a day when families wait….not children!

  30. Wonderful post! 2 of my 3 are adopted. We also knew we wanted more after our first and felt no need for them to be related biologically. We adopted older – our sons were 5 and 6 when we brought them home from Ethiopia 2 years ago. And we often say they are more like us than our biological daughter :). So rewarding.

  31. Can’t wait to follow along the next stage of your adoption journey, Katie! Thanks for sharing your heart with us.

    xo, Jamie
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  32. Love reading about adoption…
    I have seven kids…two of which are adopted…
    I talk about adoption specifically periodically on my blog… Because I want people to see the good and the painful aspects of it.
    Good luck in your family expansion… It will be a blessing for sure.
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  33. I have a hard time reading about adoption. This is the first entire blog post on adoption I’ve read and I read every single comment. I’m so glad I did. As a big picture person, it is so heart-wrenching to read about any issue so overwhelming that makes me say, ‘If I can’t do it all, I won’t do anything.’ Ugh. That is so selfish and perfectionistic.

    Thanks all for sharing your stories. It’s really thought-provoking and inspiring. I know my husband would say yes to adoption in a heartbeat. As the homeschooling mom of soon to be four, I’m the one saying hmmmm, maybe one day? :)
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  34. We are also fortunate enough to have 2 adopted daughters from China and my cousin is waiting for her little girl from Ethiopia – I have no doubt that it warms God’s heart when families are formed through adoption! Congratulations!!!

  35. We have dear friends who are beginning the adoption process for the first time. We’ve been searching for a memory book or journal of sorts to document their journey to give them for Christmas. (I know…the clock is ticking…) Does anyone know of a great one? Thanks so much!

  36. I have considered it. But that was b4 I realized how challenging our DS would be. DH and I have our hands full right now, but I am open to it if God puts it on our hearts in the future.
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  37. What a beautiful story. Opening your home and your heart to others not only benefits the child- it benefits you and your family. Thanks for sharing.

  38. beautiful! I’m not sure if we are called to adoption, but I feel really called to help in my husband’s native country….so we’ll see.
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  39. I grew up sharing backyards with my aunt and uncle who were unable to have children and adopted two kids. Both kids are now grown into young adults and I have had the chance to see adoption first hand with them and how it blessed my aunt and uncle and how they are as much as family as any I have ever seen. Neither had any problems with behavior or learning difficulties and both grew into being very responsible, upstanding individuals. I think that growing up with my cousins so close always made me very open to adoption. While so far my husband and I have had two biological children, I wouldn’t at all rule out adoption in our future and think it’s a very likely path we could take. I know adopting may pose some risks with behavior and health problems, but like the author said there are no guarantees with biological children either. While I understand having a child with these kinds of special needs would be extremely challenging and trying, I have to think that the Lord sends children our way with special needs, whether biological or adopted, for a reason.

  40. Katie, thanks for the post.
    My husband and I also intend to adopt, though a pending move complicates beginning the process. Many of the stats you quoted deeply move my husband and me too; I quoted many of the same in my Orphan Sunday post
    Seeing the Orphan; Beyond Statistics

    I pray for you and your family as you welcome your new child, and I can’t wait to read about the continuing journey!

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    Jennifer B says:

    Congrats! Thanks for sharing your story! My daughter is from Colombia, & I’m in the process for my 2nd daughter as well. Colombia is a beautiful place, I had an amazing time there! Hope things move quickly for you guys!!

  42. As the mother of three, two adopted sons and one biological daughter, I can tell you what a wonderful gift adoption is for the family. I adore all of three of my children and appreciate each of their beautiful personalities. Our boys are from Guatemala. They look quite different from our daughter, but there has never been a doubt in any of my kids’ minds and hearts that they are brothers and sisters. What joy we now have at the holidays as we are privileged to celebrate St. Nick’s day in honor of my heritage, Las Posadas in honor of my sons’ heritage, and Three Kings Day in honor of my husband’s heritage. Our differences in physical appearance have created many wonderful family discussions about how God creates all of us to be individuals but with the same abilities to love and be loved, etc. Our boys have always known they are adopted and know that this comes with the very special privilege of having multiple sets of parents who love them…birth parents, foster parents, and adoptive parents. Our extended families love all of our children equally as well. My grandfather and mother even travelled with us to adopt our second son.

    The only “issue” we have had is with well-meaning people who ask about our boys and why they look different from us. Usually they want to know if our boys are the result of a previous marriage for my husband or myself. When I tell them no, that my boys are adopted, I often get the question “Are they real brothers?” “Is she your real daughter.” I am always very specific in my answer to this question, because I always want all of my children to know that they are my real children. My answers are always, my children are not biologically related, but yes, they are all my real children and they are real brothers and sisters. And anyone who sees them bicker over a toy will attest to that ;-) And what sweet brothers and sister they can also be. My daughter, our youngest, can often be found sleeping curled up in her biggest brother’s arms if she’s had a nightmare in the middle of the night. And when she gets a boo-boo only her other big brother can kiss it better. Now who can imagine a better family than that?

  43. There’s always a way! After feeling the call to adopt, for three years we prayed that God would make it possible. One day we received a call from a co-worker. There was a family friend of hers 10 days from delivery and no one in the family could provide for the little one. After a whirlwind 10 days of preparation, our son was born a healthy baby and has been a symbol of God’s promise and redemption. Never doubt His calling. Your passion for adoption is God-given, and He will fulfill His promise in His time!
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  44. Thank you SO much for sharing this article of God’s amazing love for us and His children. I needed to read the one sentence about money never being the reason NOT to adopt. I just had someone brag to me this week about never having to have anyone help them to adopt. We just came home with our third from China and did much fundraising, given many monetary gifts, and needed it all. I felt guilty until I read this article! Thank you! We are praying about going again and this just gave me a little more confidence about tackling it all again. There is an immeasurable blessings waiting at the end of the journey!!! Blessings and love this Christmas season!!!

  45. “Adopted for Life” by Russell Moore is also an amazing book, which talks about how the theology of adoption and the practice of adoption intersect, and Moore’s straightforward writing style is perfect. My husband was adopted and found the book to be fascinating and encouraging to him personally, and we also found it encouraging as we look forward to adoption in our future.

  46. My husband and I not only considered adoption but began the process. It was costly and in the end the birth Mom decided to keep the child. She’d decided to give up the child because she already had three children she couldn’t afford to take care of (the youngest of which was only six months old). We’d prepared the room in our home for the child and did everything except bring in the furniture. So that room remains empty to this day and we’re not sure that we’ll attempt adoption again but am so happy there are many willing to go through this process because there are wonderful children out there who need a loving home. Thanks for sharing your story!
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  47. I love the stories I have read, they are so wonderful. Our son is adopted. he came home when he was 7mo. old. When the adoption started our friends and family would ask “how can you just wait” my reply would be “when our baby is born God will make sure he comes home”. and he did when he was 7mo. old When the case worker can through the door with him he turned around and said “Momma ” and wraped his arms around my neck.Our case worker said he never seen a family more ment to be (we were his 99th adoption). My sister video taped it for us. No one believes us until they watch the video. He has just turned 21 yrs. he has never asked about his other family.He knows he is adopted, I have always made sure he knows that without adoption we would not be a family. I never cared about having a baby only being a MOM. He turned out to be a special need child but he is perfect in my eyes because I know that God will always bring your baby home.

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