A probable explanation

I‘m over at (in)courage today, talking about how my brain and heart are all flip-floppy. From my post:

“I’ll love that our house is teeny-tiny, but then I’ll think about how nice it would be to have just one extra bedroom. Or I’ll relish in the bliss of living right at the base of mountains, and then not five minutes later, miss living near the beach.

I’ll love that the two of us both work from home, but then I’ll wonder if life would be less crazy if we had an office somewhere.

I’ll be glad we live in a small town, but a second later, I’ll wish we lived back in a big city.

Heck, I’ll even order the salad, and then look at Kyle’s burger and wonder why I didn’t order that.”

Head over to read the rest, and to tell me over what your heart wrestles, too.

Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is the founder of this blog and just finished traveling around the world with her husband and 3 kids. Her latest book is Notes From a Blue Bike, and believes a passport is one of the world's greatest textbooks.

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  1. My husband is the guy that’s always looking for perfect. I’m different. I know there is no perfect… But right here is pretty awesome!

  2. Oh, wow – you do this, too? I thought it was just some crazy thing I did. I’ve been struggling so much with it lately – especially regarding *home*. We can move back to Buffalo this year, and I’m so excited about the possibility because I miss it so much. But also…I am a New Englander at heart; it’s where I come from, and sometimes I think that if something came up with my husband’s job that kept us in New England (although not *here*; I do not love it here), I would be totally fine with that… That’s not the only one; just the one closest to my mind right now. I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one… xo

  3. Rule number 1, always order the burger! 🙂

  4. That is so beautiful! And exactly right!

    Thank you for pinpointing that feeling. It happens to me a lot! Right now I want to feel settled, really settled, but then stir-craziness hits and I can’t wait to move. I really do think it’s God’s reminder that our souls may make a home here, but they don’t truly belong here.

  5. I’m with you sis. I love small towns, but want all the convenience of large city shopping. I bet you’ll hear others that are in the same boat.

  6. Just this morning I said to my husband (twice!) that I really want to move. This is the longest time we’ve lived in once home and I’m really craving a change. Thank you for reminding me that it probably isn’t a change I’m craving at all. It is the eternal longing of my heart for home and rest. This helps refocus and gather up patience as we wait on the Lord for the call to move.

  7. You sound just like me, it drives my husband crazy I always second guess every decision I make I’m having the same feelings about homeschooling I go back and forth every day. One day it seems like a fantastic idea the next day I wonder if I am crazy:)

  8. OH yes, I am a flip-flopper as well. And I always always want what my husband ordered more than what I got! I am working hard on being mindful in all things, and cherishing what I’ve got (the stir-fry rather than the burger) instead of craving more.

  9. Oh, I felt like I’m reading about myself 🙂

  10. LOL! You know, I think that doesn’t happen only to you, but to every of us here. It’s a common thing, and nothing wrong with that, I think.

  11. I know that moving to a small town was the best decision for our family, but sometimes I wish for the conveniences of the big city. Most of the time I am more at peace than I have ever been in my life, but when you start making supper just a little too late, having the store close at 6 PM can be very frustrating. Thankfully these feelings come in spurts, so for the most part they are manageable.

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