How expectations change relationships

When you get right down to it, you hear what you expect to hear, you see what you expect to see.

Expectations change the experience.

If you walk into a conversation with a friend and expect it to be a litany of complaints about their job or relationship or the state of the world, more than likely that’s exactly what you’ll get. Another friend could enter the same conversation more open and interested in connecting with this person, and walk away from the conversation feeling energized and excited.

So what’s the difference?

Expectations change the experience.

And I’ve found this rule applies to relationships.

See, the patterns that infect every important relationship comes from your parents. Like it or not, the way your parents modeled marriage and family influences what you do in your own marriage and family.

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My top 11 blogging tips

Alright, so I’m taking a slightly different direction today. I was going through some emails this weekend, poring through questions from the best readers on the Internet (this would be you). I have quite the back log of fantastic reader questions and post suggestions, and I hope to tackle a number of them this fall. (read more…)

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Weekend links

So hey – do you subscribe to our free weekend newsletter, Simple Living Weekly? If not, I encourage you to sign up. There’s been some fun giveaways lately, and there are more to come. It’s one email each weekend, highlighting the best posts from each of the SLM blogs.  Just thought you’d like to know… (read more…)

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Be flexible: you will be blessed!

I’m glad I could be flexible with our dinnertime last Sunday night. We really wanted to see our friends. And their commitments on this particular Sunday were going from one thing to another. They weren’t commitments of wasted time. They were commitments of reaching out. Touching lives. So when we asked our friends to come (read more…)

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How to have a simple, inexpensive and meaningful birthday party for your child

Birthday celebrations are meant to be fun. However, they often turn into expensive nightmares with wasted food and unnecessary gifts. They also come year after year, which means the waste continues for years to come! My older daughter turned four last week. It was also the first time ever that we had a real “party” (read more…)

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